We were called at home two months into the year, and told that our son couldn't return to school without a full time aid. Rachel used the phrase 'special needs'. The aid they recommended had him in time out on a chair in the corner of a room, with a stopwatch which she restarted every time he moved his legs or talked. The rest of the class were staring at him. The school were in support of this. I have yet to meet a therapist who described this as less than 'borderline abuse'. When we asked to bring in a developmental aid instead who could actively help him, Rachel said 'we're not a special needs school.'
My son's teacher said, in front of my son and classmates, 'you shouldn't bring him to the Thanksgiving show, kids with special needs don't do well at these things.' He was sent to the principal's office 'for a chat' regularly.
After extensive therapy, full developmental pediatric review by Dr Mandelberg and a total upheaval of our family's life to accommodate all of this, I am delighted to report that our son is a happy healthy child with no developmental issues whatsoever. He was traumatized and ashamed by his daily school life. He is now thriving at his new school (without an aid or any kind of extra therapy). I ran into his old occupational therapist who I love. She still sees around 50% of the TIOH kindergarten class.
His teacher said to his therapist that it didn't matter how much they tried to fix his problems at school, if it wasn't followed through at home. We had no idea what was going on at school. I checked in regularly with all of the teachers and faculty. He was always a delight at home. There were many insinuations as to the root of 'his problems' being in his home life.
We attended the TIOH nursery school for three years and I was an active member of the temple community. As another parent from a different school put it, I'm not sure how they are still in business.
A child said to my son 'what are you doing here? You lost the priviledge to be here, you're being punished' in front of a teacher. The teacher took her hand and said 'come on x' and walked away from my son.
Labelling children as 'special needs' without any training or medical background is extremely dangerous. The school seems to think that rambunctious boys are autistic. I have met five families who all left under similar circumstances and all have highly intelligent, sporty sons who are now thriving elsewhere.
I taught at Temple Israel for many years and I am very familiar with the different administrations (There have really been two significant administrations, for the most part). I can say with complete honesty and sincerity that 98% of the staff at TIOH are very highly invested in meeting the needs of the students, above all else. They care a great deal about children and how they impact their lives. Like most teachers, they sure aren't doing it to get rich.
If you take a tour, talk to other parents. They have no reason to lie or exaggerate.
During my tenure at TIOH, values, citizenship, fairness, and responsibility were recurring, prioritized themes when mapping out the year.
As for the parent with the special needs child who was disappointed or offended by her experience, I won't pretend to know the administration's reason for wanting that conversation to be private, but it's certainly not because the school turns away special needs kids. The school has had deaf students, a student with dwarfism, a downs syndrome student, countless students with processing issues, Aspergers, Anxiety and OCD issues, language problems, and more. The reality is that special needs can take 100 different forms and it would be irresponsible for an administrator to public agree that a shadow for the child is sufficient for the child to succeed in the school's environment. The school isn't set up to necessarily provide the necessary resources for any kind of special needs kid that comes along. That's probably why the administrator preferred a private conversation on the matter.
Any kind of attitude, rudeness, etc. I can't defend without being witness, but I can say with confidence that the staff as a rule is very professional, considerate, and emotionally invested in doing their best for parents and students.
I find them very lazy, they want to do the minimum work and no teaching. The students need to come with no question and already knowing the lesson. The school imposes u on top of the tuition, education therapy (tutor who cost $150/hour) several time a week to minimize their teacher's work.
The homework was a normal amount, but repetitive. It was done in less than 45 minutes. The only problem it is not correct it. So Students practice for their exams at home on theit homework that will never be correct it.