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By Christina Tynan-Wood

Hooked on college…at 12!

Somewhere between the secret society and kissing superstitions, Ava had gotten hooked, too. No longer desperate to get out of there, she was now salivating over this future. She was laughing along with the (too-mature) humor, imagining a future where a parent-paid-for meal card would buy her whatever she wanted in any yoghurt store or burger joint on campus. She was dreaming of rolling out of bed into a social life so packed it would leave no time for sleep.

At first, I was just happy she no longer looked fatally bored. But in the car on the way home, it dawned on me that this had been an epiphany for her. My little girl no longer saw herself as a kid in middle school. She saw herself as a young person on a path – middle school only the current step on that path — that led somewhere. “I am going to college there,” she announced with absolute certainty after I’d wasted 10 frustrating minutes trying to get any reaction to the school from her brother.

She didn’t give me time to speak before she shared what she’d been plotting. “First, I’m going to the early college.” (There is a Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation early college at a campus near us.) “Then I’ll go there. And I want to study in Europe for a year. I want a degree in marine archeology.” I was stunned. I had dreamed that her brother would be inspired. He wasn’t. He sat mute and sullen, refusing to participate in any conversation that featured him as a motivated student.

But I never expected a plan this clear — even from him.

“Really?” I asked. “You liked it?”

“What do I need to do to make that happen?” she asked, ignoring my question as frivolous and off-point.

So I told her, “You will need better grades.” She nodded. “And you might want to get involved in sports or some sort of extracurricular activity.” She agreed.

Staying on course

It has been almost nine months since we took that tour. My daughter remains certain of her plan. Of course, like any 12-year-old, she often procrastinates studying or doing her homework. But I have only to remind her that she has things she wants to accomplish and she gets her books out and gets to work. She joined the swim team and takes it seriously. She takes photography seriously. And she even let me sign her up for some online classes to supplement her school’s not-so-great math and science curriculum.

Her brother remains unmoved by any visions of later-night pizza runs involving heated discussions of Kierkegaard. But the unrelenting competition between him and his sister has spurred Cole to pick up his grades.

I have no idea if the college tour gave Ava such a clear plan or if it’s simply her nature and the tour gave focus to her innate ambition. But as tourist destinations go, I can’t recommend the college campus enough for families with teens and tweens. I wish we had arranged for Cole to be that under-no-pressure tagalong on someone else’s college tour when he was in middle school. Maybe he wouldn’t be so apathetic now. We have long forgotten most of the touristy stuff we did on that trip, yet that (free!) college tour motivates my daughter every day. Just to keep her inspired, you can bet that all our vacations for the next three years will include a detour to a local college campus.

 

Christina Tynan-Wood writes the Family Tech column in Family Circle magazine, the Family Tech blog at FamilyCircle.com, the Spark! Blog at ITworld.com and has written about technology for dozens of national magazines.

Comments from GreatSchools.org readers

02/6/2012:
"sounds like you visited Univ of Wisconsin. Madison, my alma mater. the camp idea is very resourceful. my youngest was schlepped along on many trips, but he saw the campuses through my older kids eyes, met their new friends, and we always found something fun for him to do. I recommend Indiana University's bowling alley in the union, I reccomend even staying in union hotels if possible, and many college towns have terrific hands on museums. "
01/30/2012:
"We started college funds for our daughters as soon as each of them was born. From the time they started kindergarten they knew that school meant K-16 (or 17 or 18, or...). Our oldest daughter graduates from high school this year, and all she can say is that she can't believe she's starting college next year. She is so excited, and why shouldn't she be? It's a new adventure, but not a new idea. Never ever did our girls, or anyone else in our family, think college was optional. So a sales pitch was never necessary. As for necessary, they can all take a lesson from me. At 51 years old, I was laid off from my director level job after almost 10 years. Accustomed to getting recruited from one company to another for the past 20+ years, having to apply for jobs is a new phenomena. And, having never finished college (because my parents didn't see value in it), I am now looking for a job in a market where 60% of professional jobs (even entry-level jobs) require a bachelor's degree. My friend tells his high school student that he doesn't care what he gets his degree in - just get a degree! "
01/30/2012:
"We have always taken our kids along on different conference trips my husband has taken to various universities. One year we signed them up for the day camp at the state university's nature center. They got to spend the week in nature, while my husband and I hung out on campus and in town, availing ourselves of what the campus had to offer. All was accomplished at a very low price. At night we ate out with the kids and informally toured the campus. Since that trip, college=fun in their minds, and they feel very comfortable with the concept of someday being a part of that world. Moral of the story: start them early and they won't even question it! Also, ice cream on campus and a good hotel pool doesn't hurt. "
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