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what do you do when a school does not want to adress bullying and they blame the victim?


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Anonymous November 12, 2008


what do you do when a school does not want to adress bullying and they blame the victim?

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laura1967 November 12, 2008


This actually happens a lot. I suggest you find your schools policy handbook, on "BULLING", talk to the child, get names and make and appointment with the principle and speak with him / her. There is also a "GROUP FOR SCHOOL BULLING", on this websight, if you would like to join.

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memomy November 12, 2008


I just want to add that I read one day that bullying starts very early. I could not believe my yes and never thought it would happen to me. At the time my child was about 1 or 2 years old. Now she is 5 and in elementary school. She is experiencing it. I At first it seemed that the child was infatuated with her and would pull on her hair on the bus. Then it was pushing, trying to kiss her and you name it. I told her to come to either my husband or myself every time it happened and we would talk with he parent. And we did. It was happening in class and the teacher separated them. The mother seemed to think her child was an angel despite all of the concers. due to the fact that another teacher at another school felt the child was a good child. nevertheless, It continued, i talked with the principal who introduced me to one of the child's teacehers who was serving as mediator. They have had meeting after meeting with this child. He is still doing it. I have kept every event written and cc'd all aduts involved. I do not feel that my daughter should be removed from the situation that child should. My daughter started hating school because of this. I am tired of everyone talking with the child. this has gone on for several months. I will be contacting the school board soon if there is no resolution and the school just "talks" to the child. apparntly talking is not helping. I need to protect my child as you shoule. Never let anything go by with the child that is the bully. Keep notes of situations and inform everyone that you are documenting. Have the school respond with documentation. Take it as far as you can. Our children have the right not to feel intimidated in school which should be a safe place!!!!

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laura1967 November 12, 2008


I have found that for some reason, a lot of teachers, seem to think it is not "serious enough", and that "the children need to work it out theirselves". Well in some case's "yes, but when it starts going to far, something needs done. I was picked on as a child, and the Teachers knew it and never, help me--even though it was just words it still "HURT" they told, my mother i was just "inmature, and they thought i needed held back.????? Because, i did not "fit in"???? To this day---I JUST DON'T GET IT?? It is still the "VICTIMS" FAULT???

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memomy November 12, 2008


you are so correct in this.My daughter told us that in class this bully punched her in the mouth. She said even two other children saw it and immediately ran to the teacher. when I went to parent teacher conference the next day. I discussed it with the teacher. Her response was so matter of fact despite knowing that this child has social issues. Her reply was " yes, I know and we took some of his privelages away until next week." Now, you tell me. she consistently is moving the child away from other children, he is constantly being counseled by other teachers. She has had major issues with this child and this was her response?. She either has no real concen for the children, or no common sense. Knowing his behavior present and past. She should have immediately had the child taken to the principals office. The parent should have been notified. Mostly, l should have been notified that my child was injured in some type of way. I was picked on for no reason. I had none to help m. The buck stops here. My daughter will know that she has an advocate. Kids can't resolve it themselves. What next? are we going to expect them to teach themselves?. It is getting to that point.

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laura1967 November 12, 2008


you know at some point you, do have to "defend your child" as, much as you can....Take the proper route... and if that does not work--tell her "next time" punch him"....There is a "group for bulling you can join", just go to your LEFT and click GROUPS and go from there, they will, be glad to help you....

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Jmcg10207 November 29, 2008


I am a student that used to have to go through this EVERY SINGLE DAY.....I'm not anymore but everyday with these stupid wanna-be gangsters. One of them broke their knuckles on the back of my head and didn't even get a slap on the wrist all they did was have him express how he feels about me. (typical bully talking about how I was a homo and lots of other things that aren't very appropriate) My point is that I had a knife in my backpack waayy down deep in there and was found on me 2 inch NOT locking blade (In other words not a stabbing weapon) It was a Swiss-army knife type thing. I got suspended for 5 days for JUST THAT then ended up having to wait a MONTH for a hearing. And now I am EXPELLED. It doesn't make sense whatsoever. I know it was wrong to have that but i put it there over the weekend and forgot it was there. I just don't understand how horrible schools can let people get away with a slap on the wrist for physically inflicting pain on another student, when students like me get EXPELLED just because I had a knife i had no intention to use.

Ugh.. If you have a child --->DO NOT

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Winetuscany November 29, 2008


I give you alot of credit stating you were not being responsible by bringing a knife to school. Zero Tolerance. The bullies/bully who inflicted pain on you be hitting you in the head needs more than just a slap on the wrist. Have your parent/parents call for a meeting with the principal and all your teachers. Let them know that you have a right to a safe and stress free education. If someone is bothering you in class you have the right to get up quietly, go to the office and talk to the counselor, etc. Keep notes, also your parents can say as I did, I can be your best friend or your worst nightmare, if this continues and it has been made aware by all who are sitting here, then I will have know choice but to sue. I hope this helps. And make it a point to find who mediates at your school. Alot of times teachers do not want to get involved because of consequences they may face from the bullies themselves, "STAND & DELIEVER" Do not run, do not hide, that is your school, and you want an education for those who do not they need help or they can leave. You stand your ground, and do it the right way. I hope this helps

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cynthialee December 10, 2008


Go straight to your school resource officer, if you have one. Then, if this does not work you need to go directly to your local Board of Education, and tell them what events have been transpiring. Finally, IF NONE OF THESE BRINGS ABOUT A RESOLUTION FOR YOUR CHILD AND YOURSELF, I WOULD GO IMMEDIATELY TO YOUR LOCAL TELEVISION MEDIA AS OTHER PEOPLE MAY BE EXPERIENCING WHAT BOTH OF YOU ARE. USUALLY, THERE IS MORE THAN ONE. ALSO, WITH THE MEDIA ATTENTION, MAYBE YOUR SCHOOL AND DISTRICT WILL FEEL MORE COMPELLED TO ASSIST YOU NOT THE BULLIES. BEST WISHES.

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jennyinwi December 12, 2008


We had a bully problem with our teenager. After we called the police (while we were at the school) and had them meet with us, the two kids and the principal (who by the way let this kid shove our sons head in the toilet without any consequence) we had no more problems. Call the local police and see if they will meet with you, the kids and the principal. If the kids are too young for that have them meet with you, the parents and the principal. Bullying is not supposed to be tolerated no matter what. Anywhere.

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memomy December 12, 2008


Thank you. It is a shame that bullying starts at an early age. It is chalked off as a kid just liking another kid and not knowing how to handle their emotions. Then as they get older it get's worst because parents do not take it seriously. Then the kids become adults and have issues with anger management. It is even worst at how principals can take any form of physical involvement lightly. It sad that we have to go to the local authorities to help us. It is the new community that we all are a part of unfortunately



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