Home > Elementary School > Elementary School Community

Disagreement w/ex about schools


jazbug September 7, 2008

I had planned to send our 1st grader to a Parent Based Educ program 3 times a week in lieu of public school. My ex hasn't shown any interest in her life other than visitation twice a month for the past 3 yrs.

But when he found out I wanted to homeschool her, he decided he would take me to court if I didn't put her in public school.

Wanting to avoid that hassle, I decided to put her in the closest school. She was very upset and disappointed as she had been looking forward all summer to going to the alternative program.

I very calmly explained to her that daddy thought it would be better for her to go to the public school.

Now he is in a tirade because he thinks I shouldn't have told her that it was his decision.

HELP!!! kAny ideas on how I should have handled this situation????


Post a reply
Facebook  Digg 


Sort by:  Oldest first |  Newest first 


MagnetMom September 7, 2008

In a perfect world, you and your ex would form a cohesive unit on this, but at this point, it's damage repair time.

You and your ex need to sit down and hammer out what you're doing and why you decided to do it (and if it doesn't work, how you'll approach any changes in her schooling in the future). Then you can involve your daughter and explain that you and her father had a difference of opinion, but now you agree--and list all the reasons you believe this is the right decision.

He may not be a prince, but he is your daughter's father, so try to find some common ground on this and find ways to encourage him to be a part of his daughter's life.


vacekd1001 January 3, 2009

I agree with MagnetMom you need to find common ground with him. At least he does show up for visitation with her twice a month. It could be worse.

Search Community