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vacekd1001 January 28, 2009


 as most of you know my son was adopted.  he came into our home at 2 1/2 years of age.



my son just said something odd and troubling this evening.


he is 3 1/2


he was talking on his toy cel phone he told my husband he was calling the emergency room.  he said,  come take my dad away and bring me rocks and charlie. (rocks and charlie are two dogs we had that passed away)


when i asked him why did he want the emergency room to take dad away,  he said " i can just get another dad"


this is so sad on many different levels.


i just wanted your thoughts and input.



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beachcomber January 29, 2009


That brought a tear to my eye. It is very sad but hopefully because he is very young and now being nurtured in a loving home, he will loose that fear. Children are resilient. I am sure with your experience, you are doing all the right things for him now. God Bless all of you

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vacekd1001 January 29, 2009


thanks beachcomber

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laura1967 January 29, 2009


I just do not know what to say? I know your husband could not of helped to have been hurt. I do not know what this child has been through before you adopted him. But, i do agree, with "beachcomber", you guys have a lot of "experience" and a lot of love to give, your in my thoughts also.

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tjlove January 29, 2009


For children this young, every truth is based on what they have experienced. To him, this is probably logical thinking. He's based his belief on his experience.

Vacedekd1001, it can be hard to explain this to a 3 year old, but you can let him know that you and your husband are not going anywhere. That he has a dad who loves him who will always be there for him. (I'm sure you're already doing this.)

Like beachcomber said, I'm sure you are doing all the right things.

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vacekd1001 January 29, 2009


TJ, my husband and i reassure him everyday that we are his mom and dad and we are not going anywhere. i reassure him every night before he goes to sleep. and as often as i think to during the day.

i just was not sure what to say in the moment. i know from other things he had said that parents are interchangeable in his mind. until now this was true for him.

laura thank you for your thoughts. i just want to handle these situations in the right way.

we are on the waiting list for an early childhood intervention program that works with parents and their children.

It`s called "Tuesday`s Child" it is in chicago il.

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beachcomber January 29, 2009


I hope and pray that he will thrive in that program. I have heard that they do wonders.

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laura1967 January 29, 2009


Okay, just a passing thought....Could it of just been a 3 year old "thing"? and maybe, we are over thinking it. I wanted to drop my brother off at the "dog pound".

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vacekd1001 January 29, 2009


i don`t know at this point. but that and his background give me cause for concern.

Tuesday`s Child is about developing parenting skills that meet your child`s individual needs. they also deal with more serious issues.

so we will see what happens

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beachcomber January 29, 2009


I hope that you do not have to wait too long to get into the program.



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