I live on Long Island, New York and send my children to a Catholic School. I chose this school because it had a good cultural mix. I had a bad experience when my son was in kindergarten (he is now in 4th grade) at another private school where the other children didn't't like him because of his African heritage. I also tried to join many school groups, but was not welcomed. So I moved him to his current school and he seems to be very happy along with his other 2 siblings. I just feel this school isn't't giving them a great academic background. What do I do? I know of another Catholic school in the area, but it is 92% white and I do not want the same thing to happen again. Do I leave them knowing that happiness is always the best thing?
Great, they are happy! How would you asses their academic achievement and the school standard. Is it below or above, or just average, or outstanding. Help them at home or send them to after school program like, Kumon. I struggle with this issue myself and I am yet to decide whether to change my daughter's school or not. My daughter's school is good, but my daughter is the best and she needs excellent school or teacher. This year, the teacher tried her best, but she did not do her best to met my daughter's acedmic standard. The fact is children who are not getting a good education in elementary school struggle in High school, College, and at work. Elementary school offers basis education. Most parents wants their children to be better than them and I want it too. What do you think of their happiness today and unhappiness for life. I am confuse too. Good luck!12940
Your children's happiness, acceptance, and comfort level are very important. They are encouraged to go to school every day, and that is also important. My daughter has gone to Catholic school from Kindergarten up to the present (she's a Junior in high school). When she was in 4th grade, I was concerned about the level of math being taught in her grade. The teacher was still teaching single and double digit addition. I wrote a letter to the principal and had a follow up meeting with her and the teacher. After our discussion, they gave those students who "got it" more advanced schoolwork and homework. You can also work with them at home to challenge them.12939
My children's school is very small and I must say that a good percentage of kids go to their first high school of choice ( also private catholic high school). Maybe I need to stop comparing schools and focus on my job as a parent and continue supporting my children where they are now.. Thanks to all..12938
LongIsland - always continue to support your children, but always continue to challenge the status quo.
A change in school may be the answer, but make sure you have exhausted all possibilities first. Speaking with the teacher and the principal to see if additional challenging school work can be assigned; explore the possibilities of your child being skipped a grade if he is not challenged enough in his current grade level; introducing him to additional educational programs, such as Kumon or summer enrichment.
If those ideas truly do not work for you, then consider changing schools. But make sure the school is not only a great academic fit, but a great total fit for your son.12937
It depends on what you're looking for in a private school. For some parents, academics are everything. Others opt for private schools because of smaller class sizes, social reasons, exclusivity, and/or to avoid bullying.
Personally, my priority is academics. So, I chose an academically strong school for my social child who will be in a class of just 6. (It's a tiny school.) Heck, he can make friends at church, the neighborhood, or the county soccer team.
Someone else may have a child whose biggest need is to fit in socially because curriculum be damned, they will be fine academically.
Short answer: Think long and hard about what you really want out of the private school experience for your child.12936
Thank you Karen71. I want both for my children (strong academics and a good social experience). I know of another school close by where they offer more programs, but I am hesitant about sending them. I know of another African American family who attends the school and the children are teased because of their color, hair and the list goes on. I was told that they spoke with the administration, but nothing was done. I feel my children are to young to face this situation. Although we have talked and read a few books on racism I worry for them. I want my children to be strong, self confident and to know that all people are beautiful. I don't need anyone to tare down what I'm trying to build up. We have a interview with another school next thursday. It's a little further from the house. Wish us luck..12935
I wish you and your children all the best in the interview. When i read you post, i had a burden to write again. You are right to be concern with social aspect of your children, but they are boys. I was not born in this country and my experience of racism may be differ from yours. I would prefer a strong academic school for " my boys". Children get tease in any situation or by all children. It is reported that the new generation of minority young people prefer to be identify themselves for something esle than race. I lived in long island before and I know many public and private schools do not have many African American and the Stom Brook University has a good number. here my children schools ahve about ten percent of all minorites. What i am doing with my children are to role play all expected and unxpected teasing or insult they may face and the it has beed working a lot. For example, when clasmates called my daughter skin black in her first week of school. She insited that her skin was not black and turn back the table with her classmate that they were ignorant of color identification. They left her alone, but not free from teasing. All classmate tease one another with different things. We practice teasing and reminded her of everyone gets tease. For example, the president of the USA. the most powerful man in the world. My daughter was so amased that someone will be teasing Mr. Bush. I encouraged my daughter to read biogragy of notable African american such as Dr. Condi rice and Dr.Mae Jamison. She was so proud of the these two individuals and i did a book report on Mae Jamison. Her classmates learn about thse two doctors because of my daughter.12933
I wish you and your children all the best in the interview. When i read you post, i had a burden to write again. You are right to be concern with the social aspect of your children's education, but they are boys. I was not born in this country and my experience of racism may be differ from yours. I would prefer a strong academic school for " my boys". Children get tease in any situation or by all children. It is reported that the new generation of minority young people prefer to identify themselves for something else than race. I lived in long island before and I know many public and private schools do not have many African American and the Stony Brook University has a good number. Here my children schools have about ten percent of all minorities.What i am doing with my children are to role play all expected and unexpected teasing or insult they may face and it has been working a lot. For example, when classmates called my daughter skin color black in her first week of school. She insisted that her skin color was not black and turned back the table with her classmate that they were ignorant of color identification. It worked and they left her alone, but not totally free from teasing. All her classmate tease one another with different things. We practice teasing and reminded her of everyone gets tease, for example, the president of the USA., one of the most powerful men in the world gets tease all time. My daughter was so amazed that someone will be teasing Mr. Bush. I encouraged my daughter to read biography of notable African American such as Dr. Condi Rice and Dr.Mae Jamison. She was so proud of the these two individuals and i did a book report on Dr.Mae Jamison. Her classmates learn something new about these two doctors of different race because of my daughter. All will be well!12934
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