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Imagining your ideal school

About to start your school search? This quick exercise will help you clarify exactly what you're looking for.

By GreatSchools Staff

Deciding what you want in a school is no simple task. When you imagine the best school for your child, you may picture colorful classrooms, dynamic teachers, a wealth of enriching extracurricular activities, and stellar test scores.

But it's also essential to consider your child's needs, your family's values, and practical constraints like a school's hours and its distance from your home. If you have more than one child, there are even more considerations, including whether or not you want your children to attend the same school, since a perfect fit for one child may be a stretch for another.

This simple, step-by-step guide will help you prioritize the factors you're looking for in a school.

Step 1: Brainstorm

Consider the academic, school environment, extracurricular, and practical factors that are important to your child and your family.  Use the questions below as guidelines to help you create your ideal school wish list: 


  • Do I want a more traditional, back-to-basics program or an alternative approach to learning, such as a Waldorf or project-based school?
  • Does my child have any physical, emotional, linguistic, or learning needs that require special attention?
  • Will my child need extra tutoring made available by the school?
  • Is my child gifted, and is that a factor in our school choice?
  • Are a rigorous academic environment and high test scores important?
  • Is learning a second language a priority for my family?
  • Would a more rigorous program like the International Baccalaureate (IB) or a STEM-based school be a good fit for my child?
  • For K-12 schools or high schools, is it important that a high percentage of students go to college?
  • Is it important that all the core subjects, like science, are offered?
  • Are we looking for a school with a special focus like technology or the arts?
  • For high school, is college preparation — including college counseling — a priority?
  • For high school, is a range of honors and AP classes important? Does it matter how many students go on to college, and where?

School Environment 

  • Would my child be better suited to a small, mid-sized, or large school?
  • How important is class size?
  • Do I want a K-5 school or one with many grade levels, such as a K-12?
  • Do I want my child to attend a single-sex school?
  • Do I want my child to attend a parochial school?
  • Is racial, ethnic, and socio-economic diversity important to our family?
  • Is a school with cutting-edge technology facilities important?
  • Is it important that the school has an established anti-bullying policy?
  • Is it important the school focuses on social-emotional learning, as well as academics?
  • Do I want a school where parents are expected to be involved with activities and decisions?
  • Do I want a school that has a counseling office that offers parent, child, and family support?
  • How important is it to have an attractive facility with ammenities like a large playground or playing field? What about an auditorium, cafeteria, indoor gymnasium, or garden?


  • Are clubs and other extra-curricular activities a priority? Which ones?
  • How important are music, theater, and art programs?
  • Is a regular physical education class essential?
  • Are sports important? If so, which ones? Competitive or low-key and inclusive? 
  • For high school, does my child want "traditional" high school features like a prom, rallies, cheerleaders, big sports teams? 

Practical Concerns

  • Are we considering a private school, and if so can we afford tuition, or qualify for financial aid?
  • Would we consider a charter school?
  • Is it important that the school is close to home?
  • Do I need transportation provided, or can I get my child to school another way?
  • Do I need before- or after-school care for my child?
  • How important is it that the school is in a safe neighborhood?
  • Does my child need lunch (and breakfast) provided?


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"my dream school envolves choice and freedom.I think we should be able to make our own choices.Example choosing to sit out side to eat lunch.I think this would give us fresh air and stimulate us to want to learn. I also think we should be able to sit with our same grade at lunch because that is our only time to talk about school issues and other things. If the lunch room is to small or crowded than that is a sign to expand the school not spli up groups of friends or peers. I know I am only a 7th grader but please consider our thoughts. Thank You. "
"I agree that it doesn't matter if the school is good or not if the parents aren't involved in their childrens lives or school. Parents shouldn't complain unless they are trying to help the kids and the school. My family is a military family so we have encountered a number of different school systems. Some good and some bad. The main problem I have encountered is that alot of teachers talk down to parents or act like the parents don't know what they don't know what they are talking about. Also my other complaint is that teachers usually have about 25 students in their class which is too many but they can act like a parent only has that one child to care for. Well I have 4 to care for and one is in middle school so I don't have alot of free time. I keep in touch with the teachers but they also need to contact me if there is a problem. To me a great school is one that has good communication between teachers, parents and children. "
"I think that schools should be classified from K-4 and 5-8. Schools in urban areas that have these grades combined in the same school show more discipline problems than schools that separate these grades. K-3 are very important grades. Students are being introduced to reading which is crucial to learn by the time a child enters the third grade the student should allready be very fluent. Many people who are in jail today left the third grade without knowing how to read. Therefore, grades k-3 should be top priority. "
"If you have a positive and supportive home environment, it matters less whether or not the school your child goes to is fabulous. My brother and I grew up in a decent but not stellar school system, and we had great teachers and less than great teachers. The difference between us and our underachieving peers was our parents. Our parents taught us how to behave, how to treat others, and how to strive for academic betterment. These are traits that are not taught at school and should not have to be. Parents shouldn't drop a rambunctuous troglodyte off at school and expect a polished genius to come home. That's not the job of the public school. If the child has good parenting and a sound background of manners and morals, he or she will excel in almost any school, provided the parents continue to involve themselves in the child's daily life. "
"The key to successfully educating a child are family memebers at home that give her/him the needed support for homework, class assignments, reviewing test scores and reportcards. There are many teachers in the Los Angeles Unified School District that have chosen to be a positive influence in the lives of our kids. But, we can't do it alone. "
"Public schools don't need any more money. The just need to manage what they have. "
"Having been both a teacher and a parent (before I was a teacher), I believe that the determining factor in a child's success is how well qualified the teacher is and how experienced the teacher is. It doesn't matter how well a teacher can teach if they can't keep discipline and they don't respect the students. "
"I am faced with the dilemma of sending my children to a school over 15 miles away from home or to a private/Christian school, which, by the way, they have been attending for the past two years. I am sorely disappointed in the quality of schools in my local district (Los Angeles Unified), especially the ones that are located within 10 miles of my home. I am grateful to for providing me with the information I need to make the best choice for my children. I don't want to make the mistake of sending my children to schools just because they happen to be in the neighborhood, as my parents did. "
"I believe that parents should get more involved in school related activities.So they will know the progress their children are making. The past year at my school has been dealing with alot of drugs. One thing is that our teachers don't care enough, their just there to get their paycheck. I believe principals should also greet their students, show kids love because that is what makes a great school. With a good positive enviroment. "