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should i let my 12 year old child date?


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lexy1232 September 21, 2010


shes begging me and all of her friends are allowed and she says im being unfair. what should i do?

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user5777213 January 10, 2015


I think she should really wait a few years. I am in 8th grade, and last year almost all my friends had "boyfriends." And this year every single couple broke up. Everyone was heartbroken. A twelve year old might not know how to deal with that kind of emotion. Maybe when she's 15 or so, and only if you can trust her. Her relationship with you is way more important than her relationship with a guy

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user5775530 January 7, 2015


Check with the parents

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user5775530 January 7, 2015


I agree with user5766495. I'm twelve, too. Sometimes, you do need to let your child go. Trust Her.

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user5775530 January 7, 2015


No, you shouldn't let her date. 12 is too young to be dating. I broke up with my boyfriend last year, and it didn't go well. Your child should just think about the next day. Let your child bring her friend over and talk to him and his parents. It depends on whether you trust your child or not. Just because people say that their friends are doing it, does not mean that your child should. If you're a Christian, then you would want to pray about this and talk to your child about your trusting her.

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user5766495 December 14, 2014


Okay listen I'm a 12 year old girl and honestly let her go my mom is a very good mom and I made this account to answer this question so...her it is us, as in 12 year old girls we aren't going to do anything bad I have a boyfriend he's the best we resently saw a movie all that happened is he put his arm around me I know it's hard but you need to let your Dougher have some space let her go and have some fun she will know if it's a good idea, after her first date. If it helps let her go on a group date first with other couples + all of it is super fun and I totally disagree with the people who are saying all that changes is the label because that is so untrue..:) just my opinion

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user5762426 December 8, 2014


Okay... Now I remember my first relationship like it was yesterday. And yes I was 11! I was nearly 12 and my boyfriend was 10 turning 11. At first it was just a crush thing, he knew I liked him, he asked me out and so forth, I told my mum straight away cause she was one of those over protective your never allowed a boyfriend type of people. She told me that we could hold hands and all that and never text or have a relationship outside of school or most importantly kiss. I was best friends with his best friend and we had known each other for a long time. On the first day we started dating it was kinda like I just needed to settle in, the second day was more holding hands, confiding in him and stuff like that, completely natural and normal. At the end of the first week I found out that he actually really wanted to kiss me. I was obviously hesitant because it was my first kiss and you guys know the drill. Everyone was pressuring me but I've alwas wanted to be my own person so I never bothered with it. I got pressured and pressured for months with everyone cracking jokes and everything but I kissed him when I was ready. Don't ever doubt that your daughter won't make the right decision. I kissed him a few more times just super quick ones and all that. We would always sneak it in whilst in class and all that. But the main point is, your never going to be able to shelter your daughter from any of this. All parents hunk 12 year olds are just cute innocent babies but they're actually not at all! The only thing you would ever hear around my school was sex! And that was always a growing concern. So basically your never going to hide your child. She will always secretly do things behind your back because that's just children naturally. Once she feels right to make a move with her boyfriend if they do end up together she will do it. To boys the girl has all the power. It's just a matter of does she feel uncomfortable. Most 12 year olds get the birds and the bees aspect and they know what's going on so I think she will be fine. I would let her date if she was my child but I would always keep and eye on her. I'm 15 now and I'm still dating my boyfriend so it's 3 years and counting and eventually she could feel the same way. Not all relationships are on and off if you immediately set your boundaries. Hope it helps xx

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user5732780 October 23, 2014


I would allow her it't matters what's in the heart not the age

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user5696863 September 15, 2014


Ok im in middle school and the only reason middle schoolers asked for boyfriends because we already have and we really like in my mom said no because to her all middle school boys are only thinking about STUFF and I personally think that's not true I've asked one of my best guy friends and asked for them to give me an honest answer and I said no and I trust them with my life so I think yeah we should be allowed to have boyfriend but under some strict guidelines:
Both parents have to meet the boy before you can call him a boyfriend
It doesn't affect any of your duties or school work
The parents can decide what happens with the kissing and holding hands stuff
And last but certainly not least you have to make sure that your daughter isn't dating this guy just because everyone else is because she really truly likes him

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user5694613 September 13, 2014


Yes! Some parents says that age is not old enouthg, but she had feelings too! I know the children from our days, they really know what they are doing. She is liking a boy, let she!

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user5607553 July 2, 2014


Yes. She isn't 10.. She should know about her body and all of that stuff by now. If not what are you doing?!?! If something does happen, be a parent and do what you are supposed to do! Saying no could lead to sneaking out late and doing god knows what.

She is a big girl.

Just give her some guide lines.



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