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should i let my 12 year old child date?


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lexy1232 September 21, 2010


shes begging me and all of her friends are allowed and she says im being unfair. what should i do?

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user5607553 July 2, 2014


Yes. She isn't 10.. She should know about her body and all of that stuff by now. If not what are you doing?!?! If something does happen, be a parent and do what you are supposed to do! Saying no could lead to sneaking out late and doing god knows what.

She is a big girl.

Just give her some guide lines.

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user5364167 June 25, 2014


I think its fine. My dad says its fine to have a boyfriend and I'm 11. He takes me and him to the movies and sits far away from me. I'm only 11 and he said I could have 1 a couple mounts today. As long as u don't do more than holding hands its fine. He is allowed to come over with the door open .I never thought my dad would say yes considering he's in the army and tough. My boyfriend likes my dad and my dad likes him. I think its fine so ya

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user5590192 June 14, 2014


I let my daughter date what's the wise thing that can happen I mean if you you raised het she should be okay my daughter is okay

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Mama2j March 9, 2014


Dating should be the precursor for marriage....so IMHO it should be the beginning of a potentially SERIOUS commitment or not at all. That's practical safe advise. Why get hurt or hurt others for meaningless relationships?

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user5472029 March 5, 2014


so last year I was 12 and in 6th grade and my mom let me date (have a Boyfriend)my "jack" was my boyfriends name id say that it went ritty well last year until I broke up with him and now I really like this boy named Ben but I dident tell him that I like him yet who thinks I should tell him I like him?

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user5407292 January 11, 2014


I know you think that 12 is too young to date but its just puupy love its never anything serious just talk to her its probably gonna be a two week relationship if not then you know that your daughter is mature and can handle a boyfriend and thats a good sign.

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user5347599 November 2, 2013


Well I am 12 myself too and I get where she is coming from. Now that she is twelve her hormones are practically bursting out of her resulting in wanting to explore dating and you not letting her or not knowing what to do may cause her to "hate" you don't worry it's just her mood swings. Plus all the peer pressure all her friends being allowed to date and not her just makes her feel left out. And probably date behind your back so it's best if you let her experiment. Now from most parent's point of view, trust me we get it you think we are too young to date yh yh but it's really unfair that you won't atleast let us try? I know you think something is going to happen but all really is holding hands hugging and kissing (no tongue) we know what boys want and we aren't going to give them. Anyway so I know, but you should let her date not one-on-one but gain her trust by being there but not barging in on their privacy and policing the "date" baby steps

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nnanny12 June 5, 2013


Honestly,
Is your daughter wants to date let her but be careful.
Some guys these days can be gentlemen and some aren't.
Have her go on dates with chaperones.
Don't make her feel neglected.
No mattter what she's gonna date but, Atleast she asked for your permission..(:

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johnisboss April 30, 2013


yes you should, she will be teased if she is the only person without a boyfreind.

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dragon101 April 7, 2013


Okay I know this is an old thread, and it's been up for three years so I don't know if anyone is still here. By now you're child is probably 15, so it's definitely a different story.
However, I need to put my two-cents in for any parent that's going to read this in the future.
First off, the definition of dating. I still remember being 12. I didn't tell my parents much, because I didn't want them sticking their nose in my business. I agree with the person that said "it's time to teach them about the birds and the bees." I agree. If she is interested in dating, telling her about safe dating is a good choice.
Now, is dating just calling someone your boyfriend? When I was a kid people were calling each other "boyfriend and girlfriend" when they were 8, so I don't think that's the issue. The issue isn't even stealing a kiss or anything. Be honest, parents. When did.you have your first kiss? Most people have it in middle school, or 11-14.
I think the real issue is drama, and sex. And yes, I've known 12 year olds to do so. So IMO 12 year olds shouldn't really go on "dates." I would never let my 12 year old to to her boyfriends house without adults. I probably wouldn't let her go to the movies with a boy unless there were other kids there too.
But try to see it from her point of view.
Oh, one more thing, if your 12 year old is growing hair, which is totally natural, she should be able to shave. I think it's ridiculous that you wouldn't let her shave, you're the reason she could be getting picked on in school.
In any case, I know most of your children are now 15 so this doesn't affect you anymore. But I just needed to say this for people reading in the future.



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