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Why does the staff talk to the kids so ruff&rude?


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MissThornton October 21, 2008


Everytime I go to the school the teachers is hollaring at the kids.And watch the fights instead of breaking them up...

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msteacher1967 March 25, 2013


I believe that it comes from frustration at the children's behavior and the inability to handle the situation while handling so many other situations. It does look unprofessional, however, teachers are human and they reach a level while trying to balance so many personalities and responsibilities. I can guess that it is hard to understand because we only balance our lives and our few children at one time. I suppose we can say that they shouldn't have taken the job, but I like to balance it with the thought that Jesus sometimes showed his emotions to his followers and I have had employers who yelled when they became upset. I was working in a restaurant then, but it is the same thing. It looks unprofessional to onlookers. I have seen parents holler at their kids and I even wonder if they beat them. Ultimately, I think the yelling comes from caring too much, because when I don't care, I don't say a word. I understand both sides. I strive to be the quiet and wise disciplinarian but I don't always reach that goal. I can only apologize for what I have done in the past. I hope I can keep this in mind because it does matter to me how my students and parents view my behavior and reactions to situations. As for fights, I do not get into those anymore. I tried to break up one some years ago and ended up swallowing part of my lip and a bit of blood. I call for help and I try to stop situations BEFORE they blow up. Another student pulled me out of that situation because I was getting hit. Please public understand that we do care for your children but are you actually asking us to DIE for them in that way? Most of those fights are over truly stupid things and we are to lay our lives down for that, I think not. Why don't you jump in the next one that you happen to see and let us know how it goes.

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3PeasinaPod June 17, 2009


Very well said lockmama! I would just like to add that teachers are stuck in the middle between angry parents and administrators who refuse to offer the support, and sometimes intervention, that teachers need. I have seen wonderful teachers leave the profession and absolutely horrible ones allowed to continue their employment.

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lockmama June 17, 2009


Attala,
Thank you for bringing up the responsibility of the children and their parents! I am amazed that teachers are so readily criticized. I have even heard parents complain that their child's teacher doesn't do anything when the child doesn't do their homework. How is any of this the teacher's fault? As parents we have the ultimate responsibility for raising (and educating) our children. A teacher is one tool for providing education. Parents must work with teachers, and ensure their children work with teachers, so children will receive a quality education.

Parents seem ready to blame teachers for everything. How is a child supposed to learn to be responsible enough to be a productive member of society when their parents have spent 18 years blaming someone else rather than raising that child? It seems very sad to me since the children will ultimately pay the price.

I am relieved that we have teachers to help us educate our children, but I am amazed by the number of people willing to subject themselves to the wrath of parents. I admit, I wouldn't be willing to do so.

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mom1st June 16, 2009


Attala you must be a teacher talking like that!

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attala June 16, 2009


I don't disagree. I never said there is a good reason for yelling at students. But if you hear yelling at your kid's school why not volunteer to help, why not speak to a child that you witness being disrespectful to a teacher or at least give him a stern look? If more parents had an attitude of supporting the teachers instead of criticizing them and trying to get them fired and tacitly letting your kids know that you don't respect those mean old teachers, the schools would be completely turned around. Misbehaving kids that know you, know that you will tell their mama that they were showing their butts at school. This is more powerful than any kind of discipline a teacher can exert. Of course, it could cause fist-fights between parents, too, which we don't want, but you know what I'm trying to get at.

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3PeasinaPod June 16, 2009


My personal opinion is that there is NO excuse for a teacher yelling at a student or putting them down in any form.
Teachers are models for the students they teach. If they expect respect, they must demand it while showing it.
Many methods are available for teachers to persuade students to comply with classroom rules or engage them in the topic at hand...especially when they are young.
Today's schools are faced with overworked staff who are being asked to parent and teach at the same time. I have seen firsthand the difficulties some teachers face. Nevertheless, each teacher is responsible for presenting the very best in any given situation.

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attala June 16, 2009


I am wondering why some of you who were visiting in the classrooms didn't turn and look at the misbehaving students instead of focusing on what the teacher was doing wrong. Surely you know some of the kids' parents, and such misbehaving kids should fear your reporting on THEIR behavior to the parents, not the teacher's behavior. I would also like to ask mom1st how you expect your child to be able to compete in the job market in the future, if he talked all through class for 13 years. Who gets the paycheck for "talking" and teaching, the teacher or the kids?

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mom1st November 28, 2008


Thank you!
I always wondered how far a teacher can go. Are they allowed to say SHUT UP! to students. I hear that all the time. I understand that many teachers are frustrated because of dealing with children with little or no parental guidance. And that most teachers have to act as parents sometimes. Teachers may not have the support of their superior, it still doesn't give them the right to treat the children like that. If they think they need additional support and they are not getting it, they should demand it. And maybe teacher should take mandatory child psychology classes.

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ETinByram November 26, 2008


I personally have witnessed teachers yelling at students as well. It has made me stop and pause to watch the drama play out and this is what I take away from it.....I do realize that some children are very stubborn and have difficulty grasping the rules of classroom. However, there are limits to what is allowed to be said...literally,...Teachers are not allowed to be verbally abusive. They can be terminated. They are however, allowed to raise their voices and yell. It is all the personality of the teacher and how they manage control of their students. If a parent feels that the teacher is crossing the line, the parent should bring it up to the principal and if that doesn't get results... go higher...to the superintendent of schools. Do whatever is necessary to ensure that your child is getting an education and not verbally abused.

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MissThornton October 23, 2008


Well honestly if you let me tell it there is no excuse for them to be talking to them like that....Because they never know what those kids is faceing on a daily basis,My thing here is they went to school for this...and they should already know what to xpect of this..and to me verbal abuse is worster then physical abuse b/c phisically the pain will heal,but mentally u can never tell...I feel like the kids should be able to go to school and feel like its a comfort-=zone dealing w the staff...but how can the kids focus when the teachers is constantly yelling,how can the kids feel comfortable asking the teachers etc questions,or tell them some and they are always hollaring???I understand that every1 gets frustrated,,but thats not the kids fault that u chose teaching them and u cant control ure emotions and frustrations..2me theres a right and a wrong way to deal w disobediant sassy mouthed kids...if there isnt they can always call the parents.but these kids 2day dont need that..if anything that they need is inspiring...
I guess I shouldt really care as long as they wasnt yelling at my child.but its the principle those kids cant defend them self...and the look in there eyes was to die for.and I feel like if they will hollar at some1 elses kid they will do it to mine.... I am so sorry but to me there isn't a good excuse for this.because if they cant handle it they can always resign..kids love attention,and if you dont give it to them they will respond neg. my thing here is they can start by making the kids their voices.



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