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Deborah Tillman: when your child says, "I hate homework!"

The star of "America's Supernanny" tells parents to use this firm-but-creative approach to make sure your kids do their homework.

By Leslie Crawford

"Often times, parents go negative," warns Deborah Tillman, star of America's Supernanny. "The child says, 'I’m not doing my homework!' The parent says, 'Yes you are doing the homework!' Then it’s back-and-forth and arguing. Cut that out! What I do is: homework time for the whole family; everybody’s going to do something. When I’m going around the country working with children, I’ve actually put all the children at the table: a preschooler, an eleventh grader, a middle schooler. Everybody’s doing homework at homework time. Then it’s a lot easier because they feel like they’re not alone.

"What you want to do is to motivate, but you want to make sure a child understands that homework is nonnegotiable. You’re not going to have this long philosophical conversation with the child. They need to know: 'Homework is nonnegotiable, because you’re in school and it’s your job to do the homework. Mommy and Daddy will help you as much as we can, but you have to do your homework. There’s no such thing as not doing your homework if you live in the house. We’re not going to have a battle about homework.'"

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is a senior editor at GreatSchools.

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