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Deborah Tillman on "I don't want to go to school!"

The star of "America's Supernanny" tells parents that unless it's a special case, they need to use a tough-love approach when kids voice this complaint.

By Leslie Crawford

"The bottom line is that you have to know your child," says America's Supernanny Deborah Tillman. "There are children that say, 'I don’t want to go to school,' and they’re just acting lazy and it’s like, 'I’m tired and I don’t want to go to school.'

"I’m really not going to feed into that if I have that kind of child. You explain to the child that not going to school is not an option. 'You know, you have to go to school. Just as Mommy has to go to work to pay the bills and Daddy has to go to work to pay the bills, the bottom line is you have to go to school to get an education.' My mother and father taught us that at an early age. The bottom line is: If you have education in you, if you have knowledge in you, knowledge is power. The more you learn and grow, the better you are for the world.”

There's more! Here's how 4 other child development insiders suggest dealing with this parenting dilemma.

Jane HealyJane Healy: If you’re hearing this repeatedly, try these two things…

Shitty MomsSh*tty Moms: They're going! School exists to get kids out of the house...

Alfie KohnAlfie Kohn: Parents may need to play detective to find out what's going on...

Sara BennettSara Bennett: For my daughters, I would give them a personal day...

is a senior editor at GreatSchools.