By Leslie Crawford
“Children, like most grownups, object to orders and commands," says How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk co-author Adele Faber. Knowing this, Faber advises parents to end relentless power struggles with an empathetic approach:
"One little girl told her mother, ‘Mommy, I'm so tired of all your instwuctions and diwections!’ The solution? When possible, consider acknowledging the child's feelings and offering a choice: ‘Oh, so you don't like being told what to do, do you? Well, let me say it another way: no ball playing in the living room, but let's think about where you can play. Hmm… Outdoors in the front of the house?… Or maybe in the backyard? Whichever you prefer. You decide."
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