By GreatSchools Staff
“Cut it out. Or else …”
How many times have you’ve resorted to this tired threat with your child? And how many times has it worked? Yup, you’re not alone.
Disciplining kids is one of the most confusing, difficult, and important jobs we have as parents. Research has shown that kids around this age respond to positive feedback. What's more, they barely even register negative messages. So instead of saying, “Don’t pick at your food,” try “Please eat your dinner.”
Kids this age really just need to be told what to do. Also keep in mind that they love being told when they’ve done something right. So don’t be afraid to heap on the praise!
By staying positive and avoiding these three basic pitfalls, you might be able to sail through the adolescent years with, well, relative ease.
The problem: One day you punish your child for not doing his chore. The next day you let it slide. Sometimes the consequence is no TV after dinner. Other times you ground him. If you mete out inconsistent punishments occasionally and let bad behavior go other times, your child will in turn be inconsistent in his behavior.
Try this instead: Make it clear what the rules are — and the consequence of not following them. Then, without exception, follow through. (If you want to make the house rules crystal clear, post them on the fridge or in your child’s room.) Being consistent also means that all the adults in the family are in agreement about the rules. If Dad lets your kid watch TV before doing homework and you’ve told him that the TV stays off until after homework, there will be trouble ahead.
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