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When the teacher is the bully

Bullying has become a national issue. But what do you do if the school bully is your child's teacher?

By Jessica Kelmon

When Karen Eubank’s son first complained about his “mean” teacher, she took it with a grain of salt. “Usually ‘mean’ just means a teacher makes you study, is demanding, or wants you to answer questions,” says the Dallas, TX mom. “Not that [the teacher’s] being verbally abusive.”

Unfortunately, that’s exactly what it meant. Eubank had transferred her son from a private school to a new charter that a friend recommended. During the tour, Eubank fell in love with the school — there was a garden, they played music at lunch, the school was “just beautiful,” she says.

But after the school year began, her fourth grader began saying that he didn't want to go to school. Every day before school, he claimed he felt nauseated. Every afternoon at pickup, he was angry. Eubank assumed the boy was just adjusting to his new school. It wasn’t until Halloween that Eubanks discovered the chilling truth. She asked a child in the class next door to her son’s how he liked school. He replied it that he was fine, but that her son “wasn’t having such a good time.” The teacher, the boy told her, “yells at him all the time and we can hear it in the next room.”

Eubank set up meetings — first with the teacher — who insisted the problem was her son’s inattentiveness — and then the principal — who refused to do anything. “They both pulled me in to say they were worried about my kid,” she says, “that he couldn’t pay attention, couldn’t focus. They were both basically hinting that my son needed medication.” Taking respected education professionals at their word, Eubank took her son for a psychological evaluation at Baylor University and learned there was nothing wrong with him.

An active school volunteer, Eubank chatted up other parents who all noted that her son’s teacher never smiled. Meanwhile, her son shared more detail about his teacher. “‘She picks on me and is mean,’ he told me,” says Eubank. “‘I pay attention,’ he insisted, ‘but I look out the window because I’d rather look at trees and listen than look at her angry face.’” But when her son looked out the window, the teacher would regularly humiliate him in front of the other students, yelling at him and slamming her hand on his desk.

Within a few days, following another hand-slamming-the-desk episode, in desperation Eubank pulled her son out of school and started homeschooling.

Another type of bully

Bullying is starting to get national attention and be taken more seriously than in days past. But the focus is decidedly on kid-on-kid abuse. While the mean girls, the taunters and tormentors, the physical abusers, and the excluders are very real threats, so too are educators who abuse their power over the very kids they are supposed to protect.

But when teachers verbally and even physically abuse kids, the abuse is often blatant and rarely called what it is — bullying — reinforcing the false notion that only kids, not the grown-ups in charge, are bullies.

Amid mounting data that bullying is on the rise, there’s a glaring absence of statistics on adult school bullies. In part, perhaps, because bullying by a teacher or principal is far more complex to identify, address, and rectify. It’s difficult to know what to make of a teacher who crosses the line from basic discipline to regularly berating, intimidating, humiliating (and even physically abusing) a student — so much so that a child's afraid to be in school.

In response to another GreatSchools article on bullying ("What you can do to stop bullying"), a brave teacher confessed (in a comment) to having bullied students in the past — until he changed his ways. "I became a teacher when I was in my early 20s, and I was horrible to the kids. I was a monstrous bully to the special ed kids I taught … I was eventually forced to resign, and after three years, I realized why I was wrong. I changed completely, and when I went back to teaching, I never raised my voice or made any threats. It was wonderful. I learned to lead by example…”

His honest admission prompted us to look further into bully teachers, a topic rarely discussed. We started by asking GreatSchools readers if they'd ever had a teacher who was a bully (see sidebar). Dozens of people came forward with painful stories — but none had a clear way to redress the situation. When children bully other children, experts offer viable theories on how to deal with the problem: Fight back, walk away, ignore the bully and he’ll move on, tell a teacher, tell your parents, ask any adult for help.

But when the bully is the grown-up in charge, how should a child respond? With a bully teacher, fighting back, walking out of the class, or ignoring the teacher are hardly viable solutions, and ones that will most likely get kids in even more trouble. Even telling another teacher or the principal gets tricky. At the very least, the child knows by telling a teacher, another adult at the school, or even their own parents, that the problem isn’t likely to be solved overnight. So what’s a kid — or a parent — to do?

The first step, perhaps, is to listen to the stories and learn from others, like retired teacher Elaine Sigal. Her bully was the principal at the New Jersey high school where she taught. Sigal endured anti-Semitic comments, watched as the principal screamed at African-American students, and cringed when the principal mocked parents with accents. Other teachers were terrified to be seen talking to Sigal, else they face the principal’s wrath. “They’d hide behind a cabinet door,” she says. After battling it out with the principal for two-and-a-half years, she threw in the towel and transferred to a Hebrew school.

Sigal thinks that there might be another way — and now as an educational consultant (she launched a startup called Stizzil to help kids with tutoring, test prep, self-esteem, and more), she’s been on the frontlines with bully teachers. One of her female students wrote about being bullied by her second grade teacher who made her “a pariah;” the negative effects lasted through middle school. Sigal accompanied a male student’s immigrant parent on a visit to a school counselor. “The [counselor] puts her head down on her desk and says to me [in front of the child’s parent], ‘I have no idea why you’re wasting your time, he’s another dumb [racial slur].’” Sigal says.

Taking action

In the face of such blatant bullying, Sigal offers this advice: “First thing you have to do is document, document, document.” Write down the date, the time, and exactly what happened. Despite the obvious pain you’re feeling as a parent, Sigal says, it’s crucial to be as reasonable and objective as possible.

If the situation isn't too egregious, meet with the teacher to see if you can find a resolution. If that doesn't work, Sigal recommends learning what you can from everyone at school — your child, other kids, parents in the class. Volunteer at school, drive the carpool, keep your ear to the ground, all the while documenting everything you learn. During this fact-finding period, Sigal says to start building a support network of parents — after all, one parent's complaints can easily be waved off, while a group of concerned parents has more chance of being heard.

Sigal advises parents to resist storming the principal’s office right away. “Follow the chain of command,” she says, starting with, say, a senior teacher or the head of that teacher’s department, then the vice principal, principal, principal’s supervisor, and superintendent. This approach works in your favor for two reasons: One, the closer someone is to the problem, the more likely they’ll be able to take swift, effective action; and two, when you go to the top, one of the first questions will be, 'Who have you talked to about this, and what did they say?' If you can’t answer effectively, you’re likely to be directed back to those you’ve skipped. And always, says Sigal, document every bullying incident. “If you have documentation for a couple of months, they can’t ignore that," Sigal says. "And if they try to, I’d say 'I’m going to the newspaper.'”

A battle kids can’t fight

When it comes to protecting kids from bully teachers, sadly kids are in a vulnerable position — and ill-equipped to fight the battle on their own.

Case in point: A high school junior in Boston, MA who now needs an attorney's help to clear his school record. The teen repeatedly — and in vain — asked to be moved out of a class where he felt like the target of an abusive teacher, says his lawyer Daniel Maloney. The acrimonious situation came to a head one day when the boy vented his frustrations — and it sounded like a threat. He was summarily suspended, putting a mar on his permanent record that may jeopardize his college prospects. Moral of the story? The teen was unable to defend himself against the bully teacher and now needs legal help to protect his future.

When it comes to bully teachers, there’s no real silver lining — but there are different routes parents can take. In Eubank’s case, homeschooling was the best choice. Now her son is happily back in a public high school and doing well with “brilliant teachers,” she says. For Sigal, a school transfer did the trick. But she believes following certain protocol — like documenting every incident, building a support system, and working up the chain of command — can protect kids from continued trauma at the hands of a bully teacher and save them from the ordeal of leaving a school altogether. But, says Sigal, the fight to protect your child from a bully teacher may not (and usually won’t) be easy.

is a senior editor at GreatSchools.org.


Comments from GreatSchools.org readers

07/11/2012:
"I was bullied by several teachers in 7th and 8th grade, and it had a huge effect on my life at the time. I was always extremely quiet and shy, and I did not dress well as my family did not have much money. They made fun of me in front of the whole class, they wrote me up, I had one teacher who had another student search my backpack when I left the room and she made fun of me about the book that I was reading. I was not allowed to use the restroom because they decided I was going too often(I ended up getting a kidney infection), and one teacher suggested that I sit in the back of his classroom for the rest of the year in the corner. I will never let a teacher treat my children this way, and I think i'm smart enough to know the difference between a manipulative child and a genuinely upset child. That being said, other than that small group of teachers I have had some excellent teachers- I think empathy and compassion is a necessity. "
07/5/2012:
"I was bullied by many teachers when I was in school, but I just tolerated it because I thought that I had to. Sometimes in life you have to deal with people who aren't nice to you; parents shouldn't always get involved when their kids are being bullied. 90% of the time, parents need to help their kids deal with unkind people. The only time parents should get involved is if the fight isn't fair. If a teacher is severely bullying a child, parents should definitely get involved. If they can't change things, they should help their kids cope. Like I said, kids will have to eventually deal with mean people in the world that they can't always run away from--and teaching them to cope will help. "
06/13/2012:
"I have volunteered at school and have been at the front of the class. I have met some of the most wonderful teachers on this planet. Then I have met some that should be under the planet or as far away from children as possible. Anyone that uses the excuse that a child doesn't learn respect at home as a means to justify being a bully has some serious issues. There are steps that work to get a child to change their behavior in the classroom. I have seen these steps used and I have seen them work. That does not excuse a bully for a teacher. Anyone that tries to justify this has no business around children period. If you are a good teacher that has never bullied a child, stop protecting those who do. Good teachers are recognized for what they do. In turn, bad teacher should be recognized for what they are. It is not a reflection on a good teacher, it is a reflection on the bad. Don't believe me? Ask anyone here. They remember and sing the praises about those specia! l teachers. But don't expect us to be quiet when our children are being abused by a bad one. My job as a parent, first and foremost, is to protect my child from any form of abuse. "
06/12/2012:
"I just wish that those of you who wish to bash teachers would, for just one day, volunteer to be in the classroom and take on the job for the day. Be up in front of 30 kids, maintain a productive learning environment, keep every kid safe, be mom, teacher, counselor, nurse, cook, and custodian, as well as referee and see how well you do. There are students out there that are NOT taught respect at home and, therefore, do not know how to be respectful at school. When they see the stresses that teachers are put under and know that there are some buttons to push to make it worse, they do. Just do it for one day!!!!!!! "
06/7/2012:
"Our usually well behaved and very bright Kindergartner grandson was having some behavioral problems at a supposedly well regarded LAUSD school. This included hiding under his desk, running out of the classroom, so his parents asked us to go in and observe. We saw among other things a disorganized, cluttered, messy and dirty room, led by a bad teacher with 15 years of experience who lacks any classroom management skills, who was wasting instructional time, nagging the kids, and using negative discipline in a pathetic attempt to pretend to engage the most depressed class of 5 to 6 year olds I've ever seen. Let's put it this way, Tthere certainly wasn't any joy in room 3. The teacher even interrupted the reading of a story to have an inane conversation with her aide. Before I left, the teacher asked me who I was observing and I identified my self as the grandmother. The next thing out of her mouth (said in a very nasty intimidating tone) was "Well, Do you have a name?"! If she talks like that to an adult she's never even met before, I think we all can figure out how she speaks to the kids when she is alone in that classroom. After my husband observed, she told him it wasn't usually so disorganized. Like anyone would believe that!. She told that my grandson is sweet but defiant because he'd rather read a book than sit on the filthy rug waiting endlessly until she finally gets around to what passes for instruction in that classroom. Apparently he doesn't jump right to it and put down his book when she demands he waste time waiting around for her to actually do some real teaching. Today she terrorized him to the point he wouldn't come out from under his desk so she had him pulled out so forcefully it left marks under his armpits. I'll give my grandson credit, he's at least trying to keep himself occupied in a classroom where nothing is going on and he's being taught by a bully, but the poor kid hasn't figured out that his resilien! cy and attempts to try and make the best out of a bad situati! on are making him the target of this union hack. If the principal doesn't deal with this to our satisfaction tomorrow. ( I have a zero tolerance policy for bad teachers and bullies) next step will be to start at the top of the school food chain and work my way down to ensure that she doesn't do this to any more children. "
06/7/2012:
"This teacher is unacceptable! I shure do hope the principle has realized her behavior towards children. Children are people too! They shouldn't be treated like that and I hope she gets fired! "
06/5/2012:
"We had an issue this past year with a teacher bullying. My child was being refused the bathroom too much. He would come home and pee more than an adult man. A few days later I picked him up with a high fever. He asked before lunch to see the nurse and was told some kids lie. I had to carry him from my car to my house he was so sick. The unions keep these nut cases in business at the local schools. "
05/31/2012:
"wow. So glad but still sad , that we are not alone. We have followed every recommendation: document document etc... remain reasonable...the only step we could not secure was building the support system IN the school. The parents there are so intimidated by this teacher because she is the gate keeper so to speak of the gate program. The only paerents with stories stories stories had already left the school . It helped us becuase at least i knew we were not the problem, but without the multiple complaints , that horrid person is still there. She is adept and manipulating parents and children against each other and only bullies two children a year. So she has set her self up for continued success. Two families dont make an army and the rest are so manipulated by her neverending gossip that they dont speak to each other by the end of the year. She is the textbook example of a teacher who by the grace of Unions still has her job. She shouldnt even be pumping gas. "
05/30/2012:
"This is just horible is anyone doing something about it ? "
05/29/2012:
"My son's principal is the bully and since the schoolboard lets the principals get away with anything there is no accountability. My child has been refused an IEP for four years until finally they had no choice to give one. The principal now is targeting my child having staff follow her, make up lies about her, and have even called CPS on us because we wouldn't go along with what he wanted to do. So much for being one of the best school systems in Montgomery County MD. There are a lot of dirty little secrets that are the best kept secret going. "
05/16/2012:
"What ever the reason, teachers are not allowed to mistreat, disrespect or underestimate young people. I am a teacher but my 7 yr daughter got bullied by her teacher more than 5 times, the principal did nothing, I document every single piece...but I feel my daughter start hate the school. We ll done new generation of teachers! This is the main objective in your career, bully kids because it is simple to say "That was not happened, and they are laying!" "
05/10/2012:
"Teaching is an exceptionally difficult profession. More often than not parents side with their children, who can be very manipulative in their representation of the situation. The "normal" disruptive behavior --they are kids, after all-- would be easier to deal with if teachers weren't pressured to produce high test scores with 30 kids in the class. Even with 30 "good" kids, at any given time one of them is going to be inattentive. An aside: teacher-student ratio is often a good indicator of school quality. Teachers are given little respect and are poorly paid. That is NOT a recipe to attract the cream of the crop into the field of education. I know so many people that would have gone into teaching but decided against it because of what's happening to the teachers' unions and the pathetic salary. "
05/7/2012:
"What a sad thing to hear. I'm going through an issue with one of my child's teachers. My child has ADHD and is bipolar. The school told me they could handle it. I've found out the hard way they cannot. My child is very bright, scoring higher on even international scores. One teacher has ruined her confidence in herself though. I even had Behavioral Health step in to tell this school they were doing things all wrong and they won't listen. A while ago my daughter's medication was being adjusted and I warned her teacher that she would have issues because of this for a bit. This "teacher" claimed my daughter just didn't want to do her work, was making excuses and was trying to get out of things. Her grades dropped lower than they ever have (she's always been an A/B student). After she was on a new medication, her grades went back up. Put it this way, she went from a D in Science to an A+ very shortly after. The teacher still will not admit it was the medication bein! g adjusted and still wants to blame my daughter. From what I've heard she constantly snaps at my daughter. My daughter has always been well liked by her teachers and I've never run into problems like this. Even though she has had mostly A's and B's for the school year, they want to keep her back. The teacher claims it's because of her maturity level. The child has ADHD and bipolar disorder for crying out loud! Children with these disorders are very possibly not going to be as mature as others. I've not noticed a difference in her maturity level compared with other kids her age though, and neither has anyone else for that matter. I'm home schooling her for now on, which is, obviously, what I should have done from the get go. "
05/7/2012:
"My 15 year old daughter started complaining about her AP english teacher. My daughter is in gifted and talented classes and never complains. Then she started coming home crying everyday. I found out from her friends that the teacher had been saying things to them like "If you lay with dogs you get fleas" about my daughter. She was saying this in front of the class. She was also talking about my daughter in her other classes. She let her student teacher call my daughter trashy. My daughter has a 3.9 average, scores advanced on the eoi's and is a cheerleader. She if far from trashy!!! And never a behavior problem. This has been a nightmare. "
04/30/2012:
"R U kidding me? what is wrong with these school systems, Im sick and tired of the B.O.E thinking there above the law the teachers as well hide behind there ten yr, they should be FIRED, hey heres a food for thought, if you dont like what your doing GET OUT, dont take it out on our kids!!!!!! "
04/23/2012:
"2 years ago i was in 7th grade and my science teacher was bullying me....we had watched a movie on adhd and my teacher said that i had that even tho i didnt....then one time she slapped me on my face and she pulled my hair. i told my grandma and she told the vice principal who didnt belive anything...so all the vice principal did was made my teacher say sorry....now i found out she was sort of doing the same thing to one of my friends....i dnt know how to help when the staff doesnt believe me. "
04/16/2012:
"If my 10 year old, impressionable, imperfect son is not an angel in your class room then use the behavior process in place, don't bully him instead. Since when is sarcasm, shaming, insults, mocking and general nastiness a teaching method? "
04/6/2012:
"That happens to me and I tell my mom but she won't listen! :( "
03/26/2012:
"This was helpful. My children were going through the same issue. They were being bullied by an adult (teacher). I am glad to see more awareness on Bullying. It could destroy a child. We assume because some one is a teacher they are going to act appropriately with our children and that is not always the case. We need to listen to our children and be aware of any red flags. "
03/21/2012:
"Bullying by an educator takes many forms. Misuse of involuntary confinement (in Florida The Baker Act). The hospitals in both recent confinements had to "receive" the child because a Baker Acted child is transported handcuffed in a squad car. In each incident the receiving facility said protocol was not followed and the child did not meet the criteria that defines the need for involuntary confinement. Nonetheless, the child is required to be confined for 72 hours AFTER the child is seen by a doctor and that could mean more than 72 hours. Thousands of dollars in bills have accrued in addition to the psychological damage heaped upon this non-violent, compliant child. Why? Because she is bullied and bulk bullied child is a nuisance especially for those schools boasting "zero tolerance...." ad nauseam. "
03/21/2012:
"Wow, I am so glad to see someone finally covering this. I, too, saw a dramatic change in our child who said his teacher was mean. It turned out, mean meant saying things like, "Why can't you ever do anything right?" Ripping up papers were a favorite. The teacher chose 3 bright daydreamy children each year as her targets. For some of these children, the class turned on them too, and they have never been the same. I missed it for most of the year, wondering why the awful fall in confidence, nail biting, threats to run away in order not to go to school - all because I assumed that I knew what mean meant - and I didn't. Ask your child to tell you more if they say a teacher is mean!!!!! Ask them to pretend they are the teacher. What are they saying? I wish I had - sooner!!! "
03/21/2012:
"While I grasp the that we sometimes think our children can do no wrong I find it alarming that a comment can trivialize the plight of a child who has been humiliated and treated in appropriately by an educator. Educators are simply human beings who have the same failing and achievements as do other societal groups. So in response to the 3/6/12 comment I ask would you be saying the intake social workers and doctors at 'Miami Children's hospital suffer the same delusion to which you refer? If the intake staff at this institution state that this involuntary confinement is unwarranted, if they say protocol was ignored, if they say the child should not be in a mental ward there, if they say they are bound by law to retain the handcuffed child. Would you say the parents are delusional? This is a form of bullying. As a foreign (legal!) child whose mother tongue is not English, a child who has learned English, as a child who may compromise the statistics upon which the school is graded she is vulnerable to self serving human adult educators. I won't go into how they manipulated this child into the parameters of the Baker Act. Suffice it to say, your comment served no one and, while you are entitled to state your opinion, as a supposedly wise adult you should know not to use such broad brush strokes. Not all children are angels, true. Neither is every bullied child a non compliant brat as you intimate. Beware of cutting words that don't don't help anything except your need to be heard, the schools are sacrosanct. Finding a history on this man is impossible. "
03/6/2012:
"It is so amazing to me how so many parents think that there children are angels, that they always do the right things, the obey the rules, follow instructions, are not disrespectful, and i could go on and on about how parents perceive their children. When the reality is that you really dont know how your children are when they are at school. I am the first to admit that my child can be capable of doing the wrong thing instead of the right thing. As adults we should be able to look other adults behavior and see the inappropriateness of many of the things we do, and we should know better. As children they will always push their limits. So to always hear parents bashing teacher for having to put up with your not so great children, just makes me wonder if you really know the stresses of teaching 20 different personalities everyday, and maintain complete composure. So maybe you should ask yourself who is really the Bully? "
02/28/2012:
"As for my child the aadults are the bullies at his school, especially one of the assistant principles. I watched my sons grades drop from one marking period to the next and nothing has changed at home to make this happen. I go to the school to get involved with teachers and guidance, yet I never get calls back and I am still waitiing to get meetings with teachers for about a month now. "
02/21/2012:
"When I moved I had to take my son out of the best school district in the state and transfer him to the worst. Since that time I had more problems. I told them was ADHD. He has an IEP, but his disability was not ADHD. I would get calls, and report to his doctor, we would raise his meds, and recently I found that it was not necessary. I had not been given accurate information on his behavior. The majority of his behavior was provoked by other kids (bullied), my son was defending himself (mostly) verbally. He had reported to his teachers that he was being bullied, he was making it up according to them, the things he told me are not something that could be made up. His teachers would not listen to him or me....and blamed my son. Here recently, my child was heard making a threat to another child of whom he had known since the 4th grade and were friends and teased each other all the time. The other child also threaten my son in reference to a shotgun....but this was no! t heard....therefore my son was punished. I had come to the conclusion that if it is not heard, it did not occur. There is a knew assist. principal at this school, who reminds you that he is administration.....I see him as a bully with authority and has a name tag to back it up. One of my son's teachers uses intimidation as a teaching method. This assist principal uses intimidation and public humiliation. I too work for a school district and the rules and regulations are the same for teachers and staff. The majority of the students in this school are hispanic whose parents speak little or no english. My son is white. They may use these intimidation techiques on those that don't understand, but I know what they can and cannot do. Because as a school employee I can't. If these teachers took child psycology in their studies to become a teacher, they seriously need to take a refresher course. I have pulled my son out he will be homeschooled. "
02/15/2012:
"This article really hit home for me. My younger son - who is a senior now - has had to deal with similar bullying scenario's through out most of his school years (from Elementary on through High School). And of course, I was right there with him dealing with this mess. Thankfully, there were many caring and excellent teachers along the way, too. But, my son was just this side of a special ed child (he entered Kindergarten with an IEP and we gave it up when he was a HS Freshman) - so he was not the easiest child to have in a class. This meant he was the kind of child that really highlighted the good teachers - AND principals - from the bad: it is easy to teach a classroom of kids who sit still and stay in line, but not every child (or person) learns the same way; its the really good teachers who know how to teach ALL children. That topic aside, my son's unique qualities tended to make him a target for bullying not only by other kids, but by teachers. The confession that was noted in this article from the teacher on how he used to pick on the special ed kids is an example in point. This is not a unique confession - I can tell you that from my own personal experience. Volunteering whenever I could (I became widowed when my son was in 3rd grade, so was not able to put in the same time at the schools after that point); keeping an open line of communications with the school and teachers; being an available parent to my son and to the teachers; listening carefully to my son ("How did your day go today?"); staying as fair and unbiased as I could when I was needed for conferences; and, documenting like crazy. This is how each school year has been. But after a while, I became a wee bit more exhausted as each year passed - particularly when I would have to deal with an unsupportive administration (the Principal of a school sets the tone for every thing that happens in the school, including how a teacher is allowed to perform). What I eventually had to focus on was helping my son navigate these unfortunate situations each year. I had to tell him that the world is not always fair, that there are going to be other not so nice people that he will have to encounter as an adult. And fortunately we found a wonderful LSW (therapist) who helped my son develop coping skills to deal with all of this - including the bullying. To me, this article is about the importance of advocating for your child. The trick in all this is to remain fair. (Which is why many parents resort to home schooling) The best scenario is to be able as a parent to be a volunteer at the schools - this is a win win win situation: for the school, the child and the parent. The other message underlying this article is you cannot assume that the "professionals" in the school either know what they are doing or even have your child's best interest in mind. They are there to pull a paycheck, and that means they are there to make their boss look good. Thank you for a very good article. "
02/9/2012:
"When I was in sixth grade, I remember going to a meeting with my parents about my grades, which were horrible. I was failing reading and was almost so on several other subjects. All my teachers were there, plus the social workers, and they were horrible. they said really nasty things about me in front of me. they were calling me lazy and that i wasn't trying hard enough when it was clear that i was. they didn't believe my ADHD diagnosis as well as Dyscalculia; they thought it was all lies or at least exaggeration. they thought it was all my fault but it was not. even the social workers were not kind either. they also called me rude and things like that- it was a long time ago. I remember leaving the room in tears because that was how bad it was. Well, guess what? I was never transferred. I stayed there for two more agonizing years. It's really sad, but true. "
02/9/2012:
"Amen! The article sounds like I wrote it! My son is in the 6th grade in Alabama and suffers from the same exact problem..BAD TEACHERS. Yes plural. I am moving schools this week. The decision to do so was intently pondered and researched. My husband and I believe the academic and social rut my wonderful child has fallen victim to will harm him in the long haul. Therefore, switching school is the sain thing to do.TOO MANY BAD TEACHERS!!!! "
02/7/2012:
"My son was the victim of a teacher bully . Staff members, including the principal,openly admitted the teacher was a bully andbparticularly picked on high IQ kids. One staff member begged us tto take a stand as parents. She felt complicit to the abusive bullying and was desperate for it to end. She said it would take parents to put an end to it. We took a stand and the principal turned on us and called us names in meetings and private. She accused us as being "toxic" repeatedly. The principal successfully silenced concerned staff and vilified parents with legitimate concerns. Even though nine families made a written complaint detailing five years of terrible teacher bullying, the district and school police mainyain everything is fine. This teacher thinks it is ok yo regularly berate kids with extensive screaming sessions, call kids "stupid" and isolate target kids to be further bullied by peers. We've been to the media, which forced the superintendent to promise to! investigate on news show. Guess what? Ther has been no investigation and three families had to pull their kids and privately educate them because staff turned nasty to familiesvwho took a stand. The teacher's union is protecting abusers of every type. When will parents demand better for kids? Ending guaranteed teacer employment is the only way to lessen abuses in public ed system. As it is now, tenured teachers can break child abuse laws and not be held accountable. Teacher colleagues turn a blind eye and allow abuse to continue because they don 't question hard line union tactics. Good teachers must demand that kids be protected from abuse. Districts allow abuse to continue because thy don 't want to go through long, expensiveprocess to fire abusive teachers. Kids suffer, good teachers become complicit and bully teachers win. "
02/6/2012:
"I have had more ineffective and bullying type teachers and administrators than I have had good teachers. It is a futile situation when the administrators back the teachers. Every year it's a battle trying to find a good school with good teachers. I'm tired of new teachers that use demeaning tactics that they learned in school. The teachers teach below grade level and demean me and my kids because they want to learn more and more, and I am made to feel that I'm pushing my kids. We have always used a developmental type of learning programs...not high academics. The teachers that comment here, are obviously oblivious to the teachers that yell, threaten, demean, and send home way too much homework. I am also criticized for being an involved parent. I will never allow some to take over my role as a parent and "mold" my child. What place or right do they have? Child protective services would step in and take my children away with some of the abuses these kids have to su! ffer at the hands of "teachers" in school. It's like they have the license to mistreat and psychologically harm children. Amazing what our society has come to. "
02/6/2012:
"my class was watching a movie i was finishing a test my teacher moves my desk outside of the classroom and closes the door i start thinking about but it did not make sense "
01/30/2012:
"my math teacher is known to be a mean teacher because she once hit a kid with a textbook but never got pink slipped because she was "supposevly"the best teacher.i hate learning math from her.whenever she observes me i get nervous and dont do nothing so she yells at me for not doing anything. "
01/17/2012:
"It´s awful to deal with a bad teacher, but it´s worst when your child is affraid of expressing the way he feels at school. Evaluations might show us all the happenings inside the classroom. "
01/17/2012:
"Our family's story is similar to this one. Our gifted boy enjoyed school and was adored by his teachers until he got to fourth grade. Suddenly all we heard from the teacher was highly negative. She was more concerned with how messily he ate a cupcake than the fact our normally bold kid was terrified of her screaming tirades and targeting him for isolation from peers. We heard from multiple concerned staff that they were worried about the teacher mistreating our son. They had witnessed her berating him and asked that we take a stand. Even the principal admitted to us this teacher was an administrator's worse nightmare and that she bullied high iq kids. We offered to come alongside the principal as a parent group to help her deal with this abusive teacher. We thought the principal would stand for kids but she decided to stand with the bully teacher and the union. She has publicly vilified me by calling me toxic. She successfully moved the attention off the bullying t! eacher. Other families came forward with horrible stories of this same teacher absolutely traumatizing kids for many years. At least one kid needed therapy after this teacher traumatized him with her uncontrollable anger and name calling. Those staff who formerly were so concerned got in big trouble with the principal and lost any shred of moral courage they once possessed. They refuse to speak to my family, they refuse to protect kids from a known abuser. The staff prefers to protect their standing with teachers' union than to follow child protection laws. The Cal. Dept. Of Ed. Requires that this site come into compliance with child abuse reporting procedures. I highlighted this at a school site council meeting and the principal subsequently silenced me with a very threatening letter stating she would call the police if I continued. She has gone to great lengths to protect the bully. We left the school and privately educate our kids. However we worry about the ! children who continue to suffer under this bully teacher. The saddest part is we have taken this concern to the very top administrators. They are fully aware of what children in their care endure. They balk at the power of teacher's union and the high cost of firing a teacher due to excessive employment rights. It costs districts hundreds of thousands to fire incometent or abusive teachers and typically a firing is overthrown. It isn't cost effective to hold abusive or incompetent teachers accountable. The district won't even follow it's own admincode in regard to teacher misconduct. Until parents gain political leverage by forming powerful kids first unions kids will be last place in public ed. Most parents just want to drop off their kids at school and leave them there in someone else's care and hope for the best. Very, very few parents take a closer look at campus dynamics, teacher effectiveness, political influences on schools. Most parents don't want to unote with other parents to improve schools in a real way. Most ! teachers want to be left alone in their own classroom and do not do the heavier analytical thinking necessary to question how the teachers' union actually HURTS children by ensuring life-time employment for the worst teachers. This is the status quo. Most educators are comfortable with it. Most parents just accept it. Do you? "
01/12/2012:
"A few months ago, my son's fourth grade teacher bullied him because of his disability, often in front of the class. This created an environment that allowed, even encouraged, the whole class to follow suit. Within a month, my bright and caring child hated school, after two months became suicidal. Principal DEFENDED teacher.I withdrew him but he is now diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Depression, on top of his existing disability, which, as a direct result of her bullying, he now blames himself for. She has damaged him irreparably. Teachers DO bully students, and it appears they get away with it. "
01/9/2012:
"My 3 yrs old daughter has been the target of her teacher in preschool. First, we had to travel overseas to visit the family and she started school a few week late. She was adjusting to the new tasks she had at school, the teacher had a new shape game and the child picks a shape randomly and finds that shape on the rug. My daughter is very shy, she had mostly new classmates. She told the teacher she didn`t want to try that game first. The teacher said she had to. The day I was co-oping in the classroom room, my daughter started crying because she didn`t want to do that game. The teacher said I would need to leave the classroom because my presence was being disruptive to my daughter`s behavior and the child needs to learn who is in charge. As my daughter is screaming crying while I am out the classroom, the teacher picks a second job for my daughter, the weather chart. She ignores the child is crying and grabs her outside the classroom to check the weather and come back to t! ell what it looks like to her classmates. I called the teacher afterwards and asked her to please, understand she my daughter takes a little longer with transitions and for her to be more accommodating. Also, if she cries due to distress, to do not turn her the center of attention in the classroom. I thought things were getting better when something else came up. The second time, my daughter said she didn`t need to go potty before going out to play. Few minutes later she had an accident. The teacher called her on the corner and told me her she was suppose to sit down on the potty before going outside, because she didn`t do it the teacher was not going to change her and she was going to be left wet until I would pick her up 20 min later. Which kind of lesson is that? It was also cold. I was planning to talk to her in private when I heard a third story from another parent. They had a fire drill at school. The teacher explained how it worked. Then, someone rings this fake bell that barely made a noise. All the children run outside and my daughter stops by the door a bit now knowing what to do. The teacher grabs her outside. Later they all came back inside the class and she discuss the fire drill saying to the children when they hear the bell, they should all run out and not do like (my daughter`s name) stopping by the door. My daughter feels ashamed and hangs down her head. The teacher has a very strong personality and many parents are afraid of her. She likes my husband and I, and I don`t think she realizes she is a bully. But I also think she is not going to change. She never believes she is wrong and that is her approach in life for everything. Now, I don`t know if I talk to her again or if I just switch school in Jan?! :( "
01/9/2012:
"My child was being bullied his teacher, and a kid in his class. To make a long story short - when I realized the teacher took no responsibility for the climate in her class, and didn't acknowledge my child's pain at all (his test scores lowered dramatically and he refused to go to school) I unleashed onto her a Whoop-ass I am sure she will never forget. Then I called the Vice Principal, the School Counselor and, eventually, the Principal. I documented everything - was polite but firm - and reminded them in a pretty dramatic fashion that kids with disabilities are protected under the Constitution of the US. I did this all in front of my child so he knows he is worthy of love and protection - and I modeled for him how to protect himself. My message to fellow parents - DO NOT BACK DOWN. STAND FIRM and threaten to pull your child out of the school if the problem is not cleared up to your satisfaction immediately. My kid is still in the bully teachers class - and it's all I can d! o to not taunt her by asking if - "Bullying made her stronger". "
01/4/2012:
"My son had an abusive bully for a 5th grade teacher. She would throw things like markers, pencils, or a box at kids. She would slam their binders on the floor (often breaking them). She would throw their backpacks into the wall. She would turn their desks upside down until all contents fell out. She screamed frequently yat unpredictably. If you breathed wrong, you were humiliated in front of the class and then sent outside for up to an hour, unsupervised and missing instructional time. The worse part of this story is she has been doing this for 10 years. My question for Great Schools and for your readers, is how can one get this teacher to stop or removed from teaching. I have pages of documentation, a parent survey completed by 25 parents, a petition signed by 30 parents, 7 parents testified at a school board meeting. I have contacted the Police, CPS, CA Teacher credentialling, Federal Civil Rights office - all of these places say it isn't within their jurisdiction to deal with this. Even though the law very clearly mandates educators/doctors to file an abuse report or else be charged w/a crime carrying jail time and/or a fine. They all say you can do a civil suit but civil suits don't fix the problem. Where is the accountability within our criminal system of law? Why should 41% of this class report symptoms of depression and 4 have to be clinically treated for it, 2 become suicidal, 1 get hospitalized for a month, and 41% report nightmares, head or stomach aches or worthlessness? Why should I have to remove my child from the school and encure the costs of home schooling? Why has this been allowed to happen for TEN YEARS. Where are the laws? Who is protecting these innocent children? "
12/19/2011:
"Every other year my daughter was bullied by one teacher. She had wonderful teachers but like I said "every other year it happened with one" ! Complaining only helped with the next class to come not with us. But I will NEVER keep my mouth shut about an adult teacher using athority over people smaller than themselves. I have taught her to not put up with it. If the teacher is doing her wrong she speaks up in the classroom and the teacher backs down ! Also several schools in our area have had this problem and the news media is being called. The bad teachers are seeing theirselves on tv as bullying and attorney are filling charges !!!!!! Do whatever it takes, this is somthing that will effect your childs grades and their self-esteem forever. Put a stop to it !!!! "
12/1/2011:
"My husband and myself had our daughter removed from her class and placed with a teacher that our older daughter once had, You can see the changes in our daughter and myself, there are wonderful teachers that love teaching and making a difference in our children's lives and than there are the ones that are like my daughters old teacher that even though my daughter has move out of her class still finds chances to attack her and is using her class to do her dirty work,she has even went so far to tell her class "since I see us as "a family" I feel that I can tell you the reason why Morgan has left our class is because she could not keep up with our gifted class and had to be moved to a regular class". Last night I felt so bad that my daughters old classmates (her friends) shunned her and I made a comment to one of their parents who I happen to know but never talked to about this situation and she said that her daughter came home one day and said the teacher told the class that s! ince they were a family that they should know why Morgan was removed from their gifted class and proceeded to tell them in a way that to the children meant that my daughter was not one of them anymore. I was advised that because of Morgans test scores she would automatically return next year to the gifted program because this had nothing to do with her ability to learn as her old teacher is telling her 4th grade class. My daughter has the ability to catch on fast and in the past was utilized by her other teachers to help the special ed students they would bring in their class for an hour or so, because she has patients and loves everyone and does not let disabilities define people and that is the daughter that I protect and continue to mold and I WILL NOT let people like this teacher be apart of molding who my daughter will be when I am not there. My daughter is the quite type and works hard and every time she gets a good grade is relieved and surprised, she is not automat! ically smart she works hard for her knowledge and I don't want! her to have a teacher that can so easily corrupt the thoughts of innocent children for her own purpose and trust me my daughter is not the only child in her class that she bullies, she teaches her own daughter (because the daughter is also gifted and the teacher is the only 4th grade gifted teacher)but she bullies her own daughter, my daughter and other student tell that everytime she sees her daughter put her finger in her mouth that she makes her stand in the middle of the class and do 10 jumping jacks. I always think my daughter has me to protect her but who is going to protect the teachers daughter? (so I during a meeting with the school principle about my daughter I let it be known that this was happening. The shame of it all is every child needs a protector but who is going to protect them when it is the parent they need protection from........ "
11/30/2011:
"Thanks for this article. So sad that there isn't more that can be done. My kind, shy, straight-A son was bullied in the 6th grade by his teacher - and so were many of his (also wonderful) classmates. For a long time, I expected that he was just being sensitive to her comments and actions until I heard similar stories from other parents. He cried after school nearly every day. I met with the teacher. Her comment was that my son was too sensitive and that she's "just kidding" when she says the things she says. We did document many instances (calling kids "losers" was top on the list) and after the year was done, my son met with the principal to share his story. He felt he couldn't leave the school without trying to protect the next set of kids. Nothing came of it but he was empowered by his own efforts to stand up to bullying. Now he's in an amazing school where the teachers want nothing more than to celebrate him and all other students. He's still wary, though. That teacher really did a number on his self esteem! It was suggested to me along the way that we request psychological testing for my son. Though we knew he didn't need the testing, the idea was that through the process of testing, there would be other adults in the system that would hear his stories about this teacher and maybe some eyes would be opened. Unfortunately, the suggestion came too late in the year to act upon it, but I would recommend that to others who are dealing with a teacher bully. "
11/28/2011:
"my son 12 yrs old now, was diagnosed, with ADHD in 4 th grade it took 8 month the doctors ran alot of test, we put him on medication,my son had been bullied the first4 yrs of school, he was the boy in the corner,When we out him on medication he,s self esteem became much better, after all those yrs of being bullied, he stood up for himself, i do not believe in violence at school, but my son was attack first and he finally stood up for himself this happen 3 times my the principal said no tolerance, Ten this yr she did not believe my son when he said a another boy, had grab in in the private area, i believe my son he would not say this , the principal did not, she said she could not image the ohter boy would do this, also she has taken my son in to here office, before and had him sign confession with out any one being present, having him sit in her office without lunch, she is the one that is not teaching children, that are being bullied to come forth, thats the problem childre! n will not because the bullies bully more, so my son is afraid to tell now. i assured him something will be done about this, we have to be are children biggest advocate, my son was sexually assaulted, and now the Principal at Gilbert AZ elementary, school is not doing her Job, these are children you are supposed to protect them at school, she is not fit to be a principal,And i will make sure i go to her boss if that does not work i will go to the highest level until my son gets justice' and he no,s it' "
11/10/2011:
"Working at a school, I know that there are so many demands on teachers and they are always getting more put upon them. It is a terribly tough job and after seeing it firsthand, I know I wouldn't want it. Most teachers are very caring and good at what they do, however there are some who bully kids. At our school, there is a first grade teacher who bullies kids unmercifully. It's as if she unloads all of her issues on those who don't do everything right. It seems the other employees know this goes on, but no one says anything. The problem is, many of the children at our school have parents who are not involved in their child's education due to their own issues...drugs, jail, broken families, poverty, etc. They are in no position to advocate for their child. I don't know how I can, without losing my job or the jobs of others who know the stories. This teacher has been at the school for many years and I am relatively new on the scene. I cannot leave my email address in ! case someone at the school reads this. "
11/10/2011:
"Thank you for this article. I'm sure it will be very helpful to the parent who is involved in their child's education. However, I have another twist on the matter. I work at a school and see teachers (one first grade teacher in particular) who bullies children. This school is one where many parents are not involved in their child's education due to their own problems and issues, or they just don't know how. I have wrestled with this issue and have not come up with any respectable solution which will help the children, and keep those of us who care in their jobs. "
11/9/2011:
"Yes, my son was bullied by teachers in Rowlett, TX at two different schools. 3 teachers at the ISD, and others running an "Academy". I wish I could go back and treat the Kindergarten teacher the way she treated my son, because as time has progressed there is a problem with which hand he writes with. "
11/9/2011:
"I had a teacher in 6th grade her name was Mrs Floore she was so so mean I could not stand her at all she is like a devil!!! When I finished going 2 her class I started Homebound it's just like homeschool only a teacher comes 2 your house for like 2 times a week 2 teach you instead of the parents!! I've had the same Homebound teacher ever since shes very very sweet!!!!! "
11/9/2011:
"I commented on 11-7 about my daughters teacher bulling her, I had a meeting set up with the principal and the two teachers. My daughters grades dropped and her record is showing she was late for school when she was on time every morning. I did not think that they would go this far, this is crazy! At the meeting I proved my case against both teachers and my hustband demanded that our daughter was to be taken out of the gifted class and put into regular classes. I requested that our daughter go to a teacher my older daughter had and my daughter's teacher spoke up and said that her and this teacher worked closely together as if to say "I still can get to her". I believe that this teacher I requested will give my daughter a fair chance and not judge her by her other teacher, my daughter is only 9 years old and it makes me sick to my stomach to think that my child has been at their mercy these last couple of months. My daughter is not the only one child (she teacher her own child! and does this to her to) but I keep asking myself "why her" she is realy a lovable little girl that always brought flowers every morning from my garden to her teachers just because she wants to make them happy. but not these two teachers. there are signs, sometimes it takes us a little longer to see them and once you do it seems that everything just starts falling into place. "
11/9/2011:
"I understand that teachers are under enormous stress and pressure, but like a parent at the end of their rope, they need to let others help. Many times parents are just waiting for the invitation to volunteer in the classroom and help out any way that they can. If an educator is feeling overwhelmed, they should reach out for help. "
11/8/2011:
"Publishing this article isn't insulting educators but providing parents with information about situations that occur and how they might be handled. My kids have not been bullied by teachers, but I have no doubt that it occurs. I witnessed in my own education. A niece and nephew had a bully teacher in 3rd grade. He would pick a student or two each year to pick on. My nephew, a popular, good-natured kid who is now an adult, said that in his class, the target was a kid who stuttered. One kid who was bullied in my grade was mentally slow. "
11/7/2011:
"Well I find it offensive that teachers and administrators would even complain that information is being given to parents about some of the teachers and administrators who do bully and abuse students. Sorry but you do not all walk on water! I have 5 children and every single one has been either physically or verbally abused by a teacher or administrator or both. Only one of my children has Autism. This made him an easy target for the Teacher and Administrator abusers out there. The other 4 children have IQs over 140 and were excellent students. This does not stop an abuser. For those teachers who feel like they have to put up with too much and that is their excuse for abusing children, I say if it is too hot in the kitchen that you cannot control yourself get out of the kitchen. Yes, my children did have some excellent teachers and administrators and they received our support financial and any other way we could help them out. But trust me the ones that abused our children w! e went after legally and won. So, parents support all good teacher or administrator you come across but work like ever to get rid of the abusers in the school system. That way everyone wins. "
11/7/2011:
"Yes, bulling start with teachers sometimes. I have seen teachers in classrooms picking on one of the children, making a rude comment about the child he hates, then he left the classroom, to go gossiping in the office while kids were attacking the child victim of the teacher. That kid was my son. It happens many times until I saw it. I pulled my son from the school that week. Complaining to the principal is useless because people are a reflection of their supervisor. They do what they are allowed to do. "
11/7/2011:
"interesting that some teachers became offended ands removed themselves from the emailing list. Why? If it wasnt a real problem, there wouldnt be so many "real" comments about it! When I was in 6th grade, I was an all A student, never talked out of turn in class, never got in trouble. There was a poster contest for the library and I told my teacher that I would like to put in an entry, he stated, "girls are not smart, you will not win". I did, in fact win, but that unnecessarily negative comment stayed with me decades later. The truth is that teachers are human too, and make mistakes, and that this VERY REAL problem should be addressed! "
11/7/2011:
"this can be used at any establishment where there is a bully "
11/7/2011:
"Sad to read how Great Schools is wooing advertising like the Online schools by ginning up hatred agains public schools. Your Bully Teacher piece is typical of this bilge. You really seem to be more concerned with generating revenue than telling the truth. Shame on you Great Schools is Poor Journalism. "
11/7/2011:
"Reading the comment from a teacher about how this website "disgusted" her really just says it all about the attitude of some teachers today. When my daughter was being bullied by a teacher we went to the superintendent - with proof - and were told what a good teacher she was and that the superintendent had personally "hired her and given her tenure...." When my kids began school I really did put teachers on a pedestal, and some still deserve that treatment. However, there are too many bad ones out there hiding behind the unions, miserable in their jobs, and just there to collect a paycheck, nothing more. Parents should be very diligent in advocating for their children. "
11/7/2011:
"Would it be wonderful to tell of the wonderful teachers in my children's and my life but although I do let those know how much I appreciate them they are not an issue. I am in the process of ending the bullying of a teacher by going outside the school. Not fun, but enough is enough! My youngest child will not go to this school next year as I will not put up with this teacher having access to another of my children. "
11/7/2011:
"There are many good teachers in the system. It seems unfair that a few bad apples can put a whole community askew. My son is only in fourth grade and he has already had 2 teachers, who in my opinion, need another line of work. To put it nicely. One teacher was bullying the students and even had the nerve to try and bully me and publicly humiliate me. I had to have my son moved into a different class. The principal was denying the teachers bullying, even though other students and parents were complaining. She even tried to convince me the teachers bullying and humiliation of me was misunderstood. Even though there were plenty of witnesses. Bullying between students, staff and parents is unacceptable. No matter who does the bullying. There should be rules and consequences for those put in charge of our children as well. But, I would also like to say there are top notch teachers who go above their duty to teach,help, protect and care for our children. Find these teachers and wr! ite about them just as often! They deserve their goodness to be praised and acknowledged!!!!!!! "
11/7/2011:
"Great article! My sons 1st grade teacher was a bully, always yelling at the kids. I volunteered in her class and saw it first hand. Her eyes were always red, I wondered if she was on druds. I talk to the principil who defended her. Then I went to the school districts main office where I was told there's not much they could do because of something called tenure? So, now I homeschool and we LOVE it! It's truly a peace of mind! "
11/7/2011:
"It amazes me how many teachers comments were hateful and negative about this article. Do you really think kids are the only bullies? That some bullies just outgrow bad behavior. There are good and bad in any profession and in any age group. Being a teacher doesn't automatically make you a good person. I do think the number of good outweighs the bad in the case of teachers but that doesn't mean they are all exceptional. Teachers are people too, with good and bad days, and good and bad behavior. Sweeping a bad teacher under the rug so as not to sully all teachers name's isn't the answer. School boards need to make teachers just as accountable for their actions as students. One bad teacher gives the rest a bad name. Acknowledging a problem is always better than pretending it's not there. "
11/7/2011:
"Thank you for covering this topic. My child was bullied by her 2nd grade teacher, although she has thankfully, recovered from the worst effects, I am still recovering. It truly was a very traumatic time for us as a family. Teachers are human beings, not all are bad and not all are good. To pretend it does not happen is to suggest that we believe teachers are not from the real world. "
11/7/2011:
"What about BULLYING ADMINISTRATORS! Teachers are forced to work with unattentive, disinterested, slave-driving, inept, dishonest principals, who by the way treat teachers the exact way a bullied child is treated. It forced me to quit teaching and start my own education business. I could not deal with the offensive, lazy, lying administration any more. "
11/7/2011:
"My 4th grade daughter is going through the same thing. My daughters teacher was nice to my face and than I realize it was a mask to hide the bulling she has been doing in class. right now I have a meeting set up to confront both of her teachers. it is not right that my daughter is so scared to miss an answer or her teacher will call her up in front of the class and shame her and other classmates or take her out in the hall and scream at her because she did not understand the work and asked for help. this same teacher just told me that non of her other parents show their kids attention and I needed to stop because that was favortisim on my part and I needed to stop walking my daughter to class and leave her in her hands to mold, I asked her when have I ever walked my daughter to class because my daughter is a car rider and I drop her off at the car rider ares to one of five teachers to see her into the school. at this meeting I am telling them I want my daughter removed from ! this class. which I already talked to the principle and she told me that her teacher is the only gifted teacher for the forth grade and for my daughter to change would mean my daughter would have to be demoted to a regular class and I should'nt do that to my daughter, sooooo what I should leave her with this teacher to bully! I can only think how bad she will be after our meeting this week. did I mention this teacher has her daughter in her class as well and if she puts her fingers in her mouth she makes her do 10 jumping jacks in the middle of the classroom, my daughter says that the teachers little girl says she hates being in her mothers class. "
11/4/2011:
"The only real advocate your child has is an attentive parent. Most teachers and administrators must focus on a broader spectrum of details surrounding the school environment. Therefore, it is imperative that parents keep open and thorough communication ongoing with their child and the teacher/administrator. With that said, there will be times when your child would profit more from relocation. "
11/3/2011:
"My son was bullied by his 4th grade teacher this past school year. If you did the work wrong she would announce it out loud to the whole class. She took Easter candy out of his sack lunch and told him you cant that it's not Brain Food! My son was scared of her. Bully teachers do exist!! So far this year he has a wonderful caring teacher at a new school. "
11/2/2011:
"I would encourage you to write more about how teachers can deal with a bully principal. I relocated and took a position as a science department chair, over the objections of the new principal. She proceeded to make my life miserable. She wanted to hand-pick her department heads and resented those of us who had strong academic backgrounds. She came from the physical education department and supported the sports but only if she agreed with the coaching. For 8 months she publicly belittled me, making multiple additional assignments that the union representative took to the board - for both myself and another department chair. She ridiculed me in front of students, parents and other teachers, as well as daily observations with pages of criticism. After 8 months, I resigned. A year and a half later she was removed, but by then 25% of the teachers, many with tenure, either took early retirement or transferred. The union had to hire a lawyer and take the case to court. "
11/1/2011:
"In regards to teachers, there are MANY wonderful teachers out there, not getting enough pay, and doing an absolutely great job! My experience was with one teacher only. I just want to clarify that there are other career options for people who don't fit the position. "
11/1/2011:
"My daughter in 3rd grade came home very beat down. Having loved all of her teachers until this point, she wasn't sure what to do with a teacher who "seemed" to hate her. When someone got an F on an assignment she would announce from her desk to the entire class "Come get your F". This is unacceptable behavior from an adult especially when your job is to help children love to learn. This was not an environment that promoted a love for learning and building confidence. There are many career choices available to people that don't involve people, let alone little children. She would be better suited with people her own size, who can stand up for themselves. I pulled my daughter 8 weeks into the school year and homeschooled her. It was ruff for both of us but she made it. "
11/1/2011:
"I could write a book but I will do my best to keep this short. I was a normal and happy child until I reached 4th grade in 1974. I went to a Catholic school and my 4th grade teacher physically and emotionally abused me EVERY day. The worst part is that she made a game of the other kids making fun of me (some had been my best friends since early childhood). She told me I was stupid, she would call on me when my hand wasn't raised and not call on me when it was. Left my papers and artwork off the wall (only mine). My parents did what they could do and by Christmas of that year I was transfered to another class. By then the damage was done. She had her little posse of other teachers who made sur that this continued all the way through 8th grade year. I had no friends. I was smacked on the head with a note book in front of the entire class because I didn't take the right notes. It escalated to the point that I missed 28 days of school. They called my mother and told me! I was a faker and that she should stay in the room while she took my temperature. The only classes I failed or recieved a D in were the classes of the teachers that we part of her little posse. I don't believe someone saying that their life was "ruined" because their dad was abusive or what ever other growning up problems they had as an excuse for any poor behavior. But because of that teacher I have never been the same. She took away a part of me that I will never get back. To this day I have horrible self-esteem problems. I think my parents did the best that they could do at that time. It is intimidating to sit across the desk from a nun who could care less what you have to say or what you feel. I was called to her office many times for no reason. This was truly life changing and has effected me emotionally. I have told my children to respect their teachers at all times but to come to me immediately if there is a problem. I have also told them that if another ! child (I was made fun of EVERY day)was mean to them that I wou! ld help them through but if I ever found out that they had been mean to another child I would tell them my story and I believe they would never do it again. Thankfully I have 3 beautiful children who actually step in and stop a child who is being bullied. It has been 32 years and it still feels like yesterday. More has to be said about this so that no other child has to go through what I have. So they never lose part of themselves that they can never get back like I did. "
11/1/2011:
"I have a dilemma; Last week, the grandson of my daughter's 2nd. grade teacher pushed my daughter and hurt her.. It was an accident. But when I questioned the teacher, she immediately defended her grandson and said my daughter has been causing lot's of problems in the class and in the playground. And even brought lot's of other issues from last year. Well, Up until the boy put his hands on my daughter, my girl was an example of a student. she always is rewarded for helping other kids and appraise all the time. Last year she was not even my kid's teacher. I volunteer at school once or twice a wk. I always ask about my child behavior... and like I said until last week there's was no problem. I felt like the teacher is acting as a grandma instead of being a teacher. I brought this issue to the principal attention and he offered me to switch my kid to another class. I'm very disappointed and don't know what else to do. could you please advised me. Thank you, Nidia Bernal "
11/1/2011:
"Bullying and other forms of abuse are merely symtoms of our materialistic society that values wealth, possessions and competition over relationships, community and cooperation. Bullying occures in the work place, in the home and of course, in our schools. There are 2 basic reasons why children misbehave in school: 1. to escape 2. for attention There are bad parents, teachers, lawyers, executives, bosses..oh and of course - politicians. If you want to start a witch hunt, I suggest that we start with the big and powerful abusers before we work our way down to the easy targets, namely teachers. "
11/1/2011:
"My son is being bully from students and teachers. He is no angle but I'm understanding now why he is having a hard time in school-- what should I do "
11/1/2011:
"Yes. Some teachers take personal things at home to work. Some teachers would never smile or greet parents. It is unfortunate but it happens. "
11/1/2011:
"my son was bullied by his 3rd grade teacher. a police officer at my older sons high school is the one that made the connection after my child walked from his southside school to my northside business. he talked with my elementary aged son and told me he was being bullied. i was surprised to find out it was the teacher a couple of weeks later. i was outside her classroom and heard her bullying another child. the principal at the school overlooked what her teachers did. "
11/1/2011:
"Its funny how you can tell who the teachers are that wrote comments on here, they are the ones blaming the kids and the parents and defending the teachers actions. Yes there are many wonderful teachers, then there are a lot of incompetent and psychotic people out there teaching that should be fired but wont because they back and cover for each other and your complaints will be ignored. The whole system is disgustingly corrupt and tax payers are screwed. "
11/1/2011:
"My 8yr old daughter is in 2nd grade. Her teacher yells at her saying "disapointed in her" when she doesn't follow directions. I just don't like that. As a daycare provider, that was one of the "No No's" we are taught never to say to a child. Then they will feel like a disapointment. Expecially in 2nd grade when they are trying so hard to be perfect. She went bullistic when my daughter didn't turn her paper over to the correct side in class when she asked the class twice to do so. When she hounded my daughter as to why she didn't turn over her paper, my daughter replied, " I thought you were talking to the rest of the class and that my paper was turned over to the right side". The teacher deamed this as my child having way too much self confidence. All she had to do was turn over her paper for her. The teacher used to teach 6th graders. 2nd grader don't think the same. This teacher acted as thought my daughter was not following directions to annoy her on purpose. I do! n't think this teacher is used to being around 7-8 yr olds and needs to brush up on how THEY learn, and how THEIR brain works. I'm sure this teacher is doing her upmost to get these children to learn. I just thing she needs new strategies for 2nd graders. "
11/1/2011:
"I am 69 years old and attended school when it was common for adults in general to treat children abusively whenever they felt frustrated. Child Abuse Laws were eventually enacted to protect children from abusive adults. However, much more needs to be done to change the culturally ingrained attitudes and behaviors of our competitive and aggressive society. I like the ideas in this article because they point to the fact that no one has to become a victim and no one has to get revenge...setting boundaries and having options works! "
10/31/2011:
"did the author approach any of these teachers for comment? since you print the parent's name, dozens of people now know the teacher. maybe i missed the fair questioning of the teacher. if you did not give that teacher a chance to respond you brole a fair journalism rule. "
10/31/2011:
"Who's picture is that anyway. Is it the author? If so she did a great job acting. I hope this web site did not actually pay a model to pose. I hope in your next 'issue' you show a candid photo of a loving teacher actually doing what thousands of teahcers do each day. But you won't. No sensationalism there. "
10/31/2011:
"What nonsense. Did you ever think of asking your face bookers to report on great teachers. No! Didn't think so. The trend these days is to criticize teachers as often as possible. There are reasons for this. Ignorant people actually believe teachers only 'work to three' and do not rezlize that most teachers either take classes during the summer or work a second job. Plenty of envy there. Also, it is much easier to blame teachers than parents for children's behavior, lack of success. A politician can speak out against teachers and risk loosing a few thousand votes. But if a politician criticizes parents they would never be reelected. Same with the media. You would not beleve what is printed in the imition newpaper we have down here in Port St Lucie, FL. Seems like the editors are trying to earn Pulitzers at teacher expense - and loosing no readers at all. Then of course there are parents who did not teach their children behavior strategies or social skills, who did not sit down and read a book with their children - who were to bosu sitting in the with Uncle Joe (Aunt Josie) blowing joints while their kids were watching semi porn and Jerry Springer on the tube. Why not blame teachers who to their minds are making too much and should take the blame they will not give themselves. Its a sad situation. And this web site should be ashamed. If you do not know how hard teachers work - well, I guess ignorance is bliss. "
10/31/2011:
"Tourtured? There are some teachers out there who I would fire in ten minutes. But teh GREAT majority of teachers are fantastic. There are more bullying parents out there than there are teachers. I would wager that half of the anti - teachers who responded to these horrendous articles have children who have behavior issues. "
10/31/2011:
"Poorly written article - no documentation - a posed photo meant to do what? 'get parents thinking. This is another attempt to smear teachers. This article and the others are examples of teacher 'critiques' who could not spend ten minutes in a classroom without leaping from a window. Don't spread fear amongst you readers. Also, your mention of the teacher who repented in tne next articvle - again without substance - is ludicrous. Parents? Do you disagree with me? If take a tour of your child's school. Stop reading this bullying rag. If you do they will have nine readers instead of ten - I'm cancelling so they have eight readers. "
10/31/2011:
"My son was tortured by his 5th grade teacher- she was from military and she let all her students know that she was tough. Some of the kids in her class threw up after school they were so scared. She tortured my son beyond belief. He also started to torture me- why do one when you can drag a mom in to?? It was a horrible year that I did everything possible to help my son. Yes the principle was supportive- talked me into keeping Zach in the class but really did nothing- she believed the teacher who was also a lier and put on a different personality in front of superiors. It took my son and I over a year to recover from the abuse. We still have moments. I advise any parent to take there child out of the class ASAP. The damage can never really be undone. Why put your child and your family threw it?????? He could have gotten any other teacher and had a great year. "
10/31/2011:
"Oh this story looks exactly like what I went through recently. I moved my daughter from private school to public school this year. Turns out, my daughter's teacher was a bully - picking on her for no reason, yelling at her, saying mean things, making faces etc. My daughter coming from private school environment couldn't take this mean behavior, and started complaining. I initially thought it could be that she is trying to adjust to her new environment, I encouraged her to talk to her teacher. I even sent couple of emails to the teacher, asking her for help with my daughter's transition from private school environment to public school. The meanie teacher did not reply to any of my emails, that made me think about my daughter's complaints. Every day when I picked up my daughter, she would tell how her teacher was mean to her that day, and also sometimes mean to few other kids. She even cried a couple of times. I took this issue to the principal. As expected he defended the tea! cher (who is been teaching for the last few decades). I threatened to take the issue to the media and/or to higher officials. That made him agree to move my daughter into another class. Even though my daughter is been saved from everyday bullying, the mean teacher continues to be mean to her whenever possible - like in the assemblies, joint PE sessions etc. I'm so helpless, it is so sad, our education system is designed such a way that it is very difficult to handle bullies more so when the bully is a teacher! "
10/31/2011:
"Ugh, I guess I missed the first article. I had a math teacher bully me in that female relational-aggression way until she'd reduced my math skills to where I was in 3rd grade. To this day I have no idea why she picked me -- I was an A student with math scores in the 99th percentile. But she told me I was stupid, until I actually was. I was tracked out of math and science for life. "
10/31/2011:
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10/31/2011:
"My sons 3rd grade teacher was a horrible bully. I spoke with her numerous times, all ended with her blaming my son and his ADHD or her opinion of my parenting. I came to find out from other parents, classmates, as well as previous students and their parents that she is (and apparently as a teacher always has been) a bully. I spoke with the Principal only once. He was not receptive and told me that I was off base and looking to start a fight. My son begged me every day, starting the 3rd day of school, to please be home schooled. I explained to him that sadly there are people like her whom he will be encountering all throughout his life. Sadly though the situation was Not ideal, he learned ways to deal with her. He had our full permission to leave the classroom and the situation if he ever felt it was too intense. We told him not to be scared of being in trouble, and if anything ever happened to get up, go to the office and tell them to call his mother, and from there I would ! deal with it. Thankfully, things did not escalate to the point where he felt he had to walk out. About half way through the school year I had a verbal altercation with the teacher when my son had forgotten a book and I followed him to his classroom to get it. As I waited outside the door for him, she had the nerve to tell him that if he wasn't so stupid he wouldn't have forgotten it in the first place. By this time I had enough and sent my child out of the room. I am not proud to say that I gave her a taste of her own medicine, but apparently it did the job. She was still prone to yelling, but according to the kids, it became more in general rather than singling out a child. Thankfully when my son went into 4th grade, he had an amazing teacher and came to love school once again. "
10/31/2011:
"I am very disappointed with this site for having presented this article. As a teacher, I recommend this site to all of my parents and other staff members. However, after this article and the bias you have presented, I will be removing my subscription and NEVER recommending this again. Teachers are natural nurturers and caregivers. You are talking about a tiny population in this article. I feel that you merely used this headline to increase a "certain type of parent" to subscribe. So disappointing. "
10/31/2011:
"There are all kinds of School Employed BULLIES. Our daughter's guidance consoler, this person bullies in ways of keeping our daughter from succeeding, this person does not have our daughter's best interest. We have been unable to obtain the necessary educational classes for college acceptance. This person has kept our daughter from taking advanced studies that she has been previous test for, has manipulated her school schedule to complicate proper placement. We have emailed, documented and saved all the correspondence between parties involved for future attachment to college applications. This consoler has family within the upper tier of the Superintendent level, job secured and enough said. We have emailed the principal, called and left messages with the Superintendent and even sent a letter to Barack Obama (our school concerned president), never resolved. "
10/31/2011:
"Thank You Thank You Thank You!!!! I have been dealing with this! Great article! This is so true! "
10/31/2011:
"My sons teacher screamed all the time and told students they were stupid.I went to the school and this teacher was so full of himself I almost lost my manners.I had my son removed from his class and I reported him to the headmaster. Once I saw the headmaster did not care, I reported bothof them to the school board. "
10/31/2011:
"My son too had a "bullying" teacher when he was a senior in high school. Another student, a friend of his confirmed this teachers treatment of him. Luckily we had an outstanding assistant principal and counselor who came to his aid...to a degree. You never want to hear from the AP or the counselor that, "we understand what you are saying and we won't let her fail him." This is almost an admission that she is a problem. We believe it started due to moral issues. We did not want him to watch a rated R movie she wanted to show the class, a version of Macbeth. "
10/31/2011:
"teachers who bully have "control" issues and they don't teach much subject matter. they are too busy handing out their brand of "discipline" which is very punitive or abusive. "
10/31/2011:
"My son is 11 this yr and after yrs at a school he loved we had to transfer. He likes the news school but everyday its something about his science teacher. My son has never been to the priciples office before but if 5 weeks has been 2xs and in detention...all from this man...he is a coach who raises his voice. I watched him ask a child a question and when she tried to answer he yelled over her and cut her so he could yell at the answer she didn't even have time to give...in front of the principle and counselor who said nothing. He demanded my child be suspended because he had an extra science book in his locker. My son has 2 science assignments a night and went from an all a-b student just weeks ago at the old school to an F in this class...I'm upset and worried but the counselor and principle just keep saying "he'll be ok. He is adjusting" I don't believe my son can adjust to this teacher who yells and has them taking notes all class and doesn't seem to be teaching him anyt! hing because all the actual work I do with him at home. Also last week he had so many students in detention for having 3 zeros that week (the work load is crazy they can't get it all done and learn it) that he had to have his own detention bc there were to many (over 30 out of 125 students). Trying to get thru it and stay calm for my son bc I know if I go in "guns blazing" I can make it much worse. Its scary because in 5 weeks he went from a child who loves school and couldn't wait to go to science class to a child wh begs not to have to go at all because of this man "
10/31/2011:
"Passing this one along to friends who have children who have been bullied by teachers. Sad to hear that it's going on elsewhere. "
10/31/2011:
"As a parent of four children, I can tell you very honestly that my children have been bullied by teachers far more often than by other students. Additionally, when there were occasions when they needed a teacher's support regarding bullying....it was seldom provided. Just awful! "
10/31/2011:
"I am sure as counsellor that bully teachers do exist in schools and many a times show that they are serious about child's academic progress. But the problem does not end there. We have to train- train and train them to understand the psyche of child and to understand the damage possible by ' bully teacher'. Mere seniority does not make a person wiser or knowledged. I am aware here in India we get teachers, specially in private state board schools, without any kind of training because either the schools not able to afford or trained teachers are not available . I had read ," Good teachers cost more , but bad teachers are costlier because they damage lives of many kids" So I thank 'Great Schools' to bring up this issue.I will be more than happy to join hands with 'Great Schools' for this cause. Dr Rajesh Sharma, Principal , Calorx Public School, Savita Nagar, Rajula, Amreli, Gujarat, India. PIN- 365560 "
10/31/2011:
"There are teacher-bullies that need to be taken out of the classroom. However, I am obliged to note that in college I was often a target that was meant in humor and I took it as such. I recall, with endearment, the history prof who took the risk of starting class with a moderately stupid comment and expanding on the claims until a student challenged him. I was often the one who ventured to challenge him. He conceded the argument by saying: Can you believe that's a woman arguing with me. While my body swelled with pride, others became insensed. I knew I had won. (Okay, this was 40 years ago.) I greatly appreciated his playing ignorant for the cause of engaging students and I was totally unconcerned about his method of admitting he'd lost the argument. I would never want to discourage teachers making fools of themselves in the name of being considered abusive. That's all. "
10/31/2011:
"This is a great article, and one that needs more focus. We have been in the situation of bully teachers and it is very traumatic for the kids. Fortunately, at least of the teachers did not have her contract renewed. "
10/31/2011:
"When we moved to a new state, we were excited about our boys going to their new elementary school -- until it became apparent that there was adult bullying on many levels at this school -- from the top to the bottom. The principal was a consistent "screamer", a PE teacher called the students "retards" and the janitor -- in front of a room of parents manning a "cultural lunch" screamed "Be quiet!!" to the students (I went over to this person and told that his behavior was inappropriate and rude -- but none of the other parents said a thing). Another time during a book selling fund-raiser, the librarian berated and shamed a student to the point where I finally said "Stop -- it's enough -- I know what you're trying to do but you've gone to far." None of the other parents said a thing until one took me aside in the parking lot and said "Thank you for saying something." and I said "If this is what's going on in front of us imagine what's going on when parents aren't there." ! And there were many examples where teachers were bullying one of our sons. We talked with the administrators, we documented -- we copied the superintendent. The bullying behavior continued. We finally wrote a letter stating that we were not trying to change the culture of this school but we were at the point where we were going to insist on how the school talked to OUR sons -- and if the bullying behavior didn't stop immediately -- we would file a complaint with the State. It stopped. "
10/31/2011:
"I find this site disgusting. So many articles are about "bad" teachers, "mean" teachers, "so-so" teachers.....how about bad parents? How about understanding that with the testing climate, overcrowded classrooms, adhd, autism, oppositional defiance disorder,etc... that teachers are under extreme pressure. Kids want to be entertained, constantly rewarded regardless of doing anything to be rewarded for, have undivided attention. Why don't you interview some real teachers and administrators and do an article on what we have to deal with on a constant basis. "
10/31/2011:
"What do you do if the bully is a school security guard? "
10/31/2011:
"I sympathize with Eubank and her son. Yet I would say, do not be so quick at judging the school system. Often teachers get bullied by the students and parents. Being in the school system myself, very often I have some across where parents instead of disciplining their child/ren will come and blame the school. "
10/31/2011:
"About my healing journey after being a child bullied by a teacher.. http://mcmeekan.net/art/wmrab/ May we someday change our values as a society so our schools become transformed into such a safe, healing space that NO child is ever bullied. "
10/31/2011:
"Boy, does this topic hit a chord! My son had an abusive 2nd grade teacher. She yelled at him and ridiculed him in class, on a daily basis. Normally a happy, outgoing child, he became withdrawn and depressed. He even ran out of the classroom one day and to our house! We went through the chain of command, meeting with her first. Nothing changed. According to parent volunteers in the classroom, my son was not disruptive. He also was the top reader in class and had high grades. It seemed she just didn't like him, so he was the target of her bullying. So, I began documenting EVERYTHING! I compiled a case for putting in another class. The Principal was rude and reluctant, but he honored our wishes. We had no problems for the rest of the year! (Jan 3rd.-June 6th). Unfortunately, by fighting for what was right, we were branded. From that point forward, my sons', and our family, were bullied by other teachers, yard supervisors, office staff, AND THE PRINCIPAL! Then the other students! picked up on all this negativity and thay began bullying my kids. It was a nightmare. We removed our kids from the school and put them in private school (an extreme hardship). We could have gone to another school in the district, but it is small, and we were afraid the abuse would follow. We had to get counseling and the scars are still with us. It was such a painful experience. Especially after all the hours we donated to the school and the support we provided to the teachers. I am a teacher, so I am well-aware of how all of this can play-out. It isn't right. There is a fine line when it comes to being an advocate for your kids. It can resolve the problem or make it worse. Which in our case, it was the latter. "
10/31/2011:
"My daughter had a teacher that was a bully when she was in the fourth grade. This teacher was slapping my daughter in the face with a folder everyday in class because my daughter was “quiet�. I complained but the Principal denied any wrong doing, in fact she even lied about the whole deal. I formally des enrolled my daughter from that school and started home schooling her. The police came to my job to deliver a letter from the Superintendent stating that they were not going to recognize my written des enrollment and charges were pending against me. I hired an Attorney and sent the school another des enrollment by registered mail, the school refused to accept my registered letter, in the meantime my Attorney sent faxed complaints to the School, Governor, Department of Education, State and Federal Representatives, and the Police Department that had delivered the letter from the Superintendent. The day the faxes were sent the school was begging to des enroll my daughter and forget about any charges against me. That was 6 years ago, now my daughter is in another school and is a straight A student and future Valedictorian. It is true that some teachers can be bullies and abusers. The teacher that abused my daughter was fired but for other reasons. "
10/31/2011:
"How about an article on Principals who bully both kids and teachers? "
10/31/2011:
"Teachers bully students because they lack experience, childhood problems they couldn't overcome or heal, and they know they can get away it. The student's file gets red flagged when the parents complaint. Sometimes they go to far as was the case with my daughter. I finally had to threathen the school board. They fight you! Check out Youtube ""jail or toe tag" "
10/31/2011:
"I am a parent of a child who mostly witnessed adult bullying of other kids in a charter school that I enrolled him in ( for one year only). Just like the parent in your article it was pretty, seemed progressive and they spoke as if they had covered all the bases of teaching and caring for children - it turned out to be a purposeful, community wide ploy. It was not one teacher, it was a schoolwide theology that I would later learn the Founder/CEO termed "behavior management model". I now homeschool my middleschooler as a result of that experience. Because it is so difficult to believe many parents chalked up their children's accounts saying "well you must have done something really bad if that happened" or "well what did you do to make her/him say/do that?" The hardest part about addressing adult bullying during that year was actually getting the parents on board. I took to being in school at least 4 days a week at unpredictable times and having a wonderful rapport with kids from all grades. By my doing that it made it near impossible for anyone to mistreat my child and I got to hear and see things first hand and or fresh after its occurrence. I started actively calling parents and telling them what I witnessed. They would always end up calling me back to tell me that the school reported the same incident horribly different - to the detriment of the child. Unfortunately the behavior labeled as bullying in this article is being taught, supported, even demanded from the new breed of education Czars. Even if y! ou are a teacher that knows better, without the benefit of Union involvement, or at least a unified administrative response you have decide on whether to have a job tomorrow, or fall in line... Thanks very much for this article. For those reading please be aware this is not a geographically isolated story. "
10/31/2011:
"When my son was in 5th grade he was in a gifted class and the teacher was a bully (and an egomaniac). After almost an entire year of her unprofessional behavior I got an education advocate involved and set up a 504 plan, much to her displeasure. If you don't know what an education advocate is, you should find out. It was the best money I ever spent. My son is now at a charter school, no bullies, just kind and respectful teachers. Thank God. "
10/31/2011:
"Had Enough, The school districts have gone too far in abandoning children and their safety in schools-from the top of the District Administration levels to the bottom, the education system has seemed to have collapsed upon itself in a very terrible way, leaving children and their families victims to their unsafe and dangerous self- imposed practices and policies which they govern themselves with. I have taken the matters mentioned here to the top of my state and the US levels. The education system has in my opinion collapsed in a very bad way and failed families around the country everywhere. "
10/31/2011:
"I was wondering...would it had helped if mom did a surprise pop up class visit? I have an eleventh grader and a pre-k child. My kids nor the teacher/school never knows when I may appear. No child can focus when they are stressed. They simply can't focus. Then there's the board of education when you can't get results. "
10/31/2011:
"It is still legal in 19 of our 50 states for teachers to beat children with wooden boards in school. I live in North Carolina, where parents have not even had the right to opt out of such abuse. It has been my experience living in such a culture that when school boards allow teachers to hit children, other forms of bullying become mainstream. The entire culture needs to be challenged when child abuse is legal among licensed professional educators. "
10/31/2011:
"Mrs. Grimm, my oldest son's third grade teacher, was grim all right. By mid-year, half of the students had transferred out of her class. My kid learned that if he was perfect, he might ear 35 points in one school day. Meanwhile, penalties for any infraction cost him that much. He and another kid started competing for who had the highest points - negative points, that is. My younger son has an effective math teacher. By humiliating one kid in the class, she guarantees cooperation from the remaining kids. Last year, he was in the middle level class and he was flunking. When she found out he was GATE, she insisted he be moved to the higher level course as a matter of his rights. This year, she is assigned to the higher level class. He's doing better than he did in her mid-level class last year, but not as well as he might. Now she insists he be moved to the easier class. My kid is scared of her and learned last year not to bother trying. "
10/31/2011:
"I believe this is more wide spread. My son is in one of the best school district in the nation (Fairfax County) and he was bullied by his art teacher. I put an immediate stop to it, even caught the teacher in a bold face lie, and had my son removed from his class forever. The most despicable act that he did to my son, who had dexterity issues with writing, cutting, etc. took my son's work and held it up in front of the entire class and asked the students if it was correct. He completely humiliated my son in front of all of his peers! In the meeting with the Principal, teacher, counselor, I called him out on this and said you never, ever, use a students work as a bad example in front of that student and his peers. There were numerous other instances such as making him sit at a table by himself every day to punish him before class started. I actually attend the class one day and couldn't believe they let someone like him teach children at all. I hope the birth of his child wil! l open his eyes to how much harm he has inflicted on my son when he realizes how his actions harm the children he "teaches." Believe your children and ALWAYS investigate!! "
10/31/2011:
"I had the same problem in snellville.ga at a middle school with my daughter teacher. We had a meeting with the teachers and when that didn't make a different , Next I talk to the principle and ask to remove my child from that team and if she would not do that.my next step was to go to the school broad and report the teachers and principle. That's the last thing they to hear from parents that care about they kids education. "
10/31/2011:
"As a seasoned educator, who consistently sees the devastating effects of parents NOT having children accept responsibility(nor accept responsibility themselves), I was furious when I saw the title of this article! Ugh, I thought. Now we're bullying. But let me commend you. This article was intricate, well researched, well reasoned, timely, and balanced. I have witnessed bully teachers and bully supervisors over the years. They are insidious. As a professional developer, I now witness bullying colleagues (and endure them). I think you've raised a valid point. The fact is, in ALL walks of life there are adult bullies; and we have the opportunity to experience it in every realm--from driving in traffic to rude cashiers or fellow customers, to domestic violence and beyond. As the anti bullying campaign matures, hopefully the movement will cause us a movement toward true civility. That will be a hard sell, since the reality tv culture, (inspired by Jerry Springer) sells inciv! ility, big time, as entertainment. Well done. "
10/31/2011:
"My son was bullied by his first grade teacher. He suffered PTSD because of her. He suffers from migraines and she would not let him go to the nurse to get his medication. We are now with caring and great teachers. We had to hire an attorney, but she is still teaching! We do need to keep an eye open for bullies like her! "
10/31/2011:
"My son had a similar problem in 2nd grade. His teacher was a mean bully but no one did anything about it because she was selective with her tactics ... only picking on one or two children every year and always having a convenient excuse which would make it look like it was really the child's problem and not her. Of course eventually her negative tactics had results too as the children she picked on really couldn't concentrate and really did stop performing well because they were afraid of her. The school did nothing! This teacher got away with it because schools figure percentage wise that every class room will have underperformers and kids w/attitude or attention problems ... and this sicko took advantage of that. Automatically the school will take the side of the teacher and view the parent as simply defending their own child. But this bullying has long term affects ... especially when someone starts on such a young child. Schools need to take bullying by adults seriously ! !! "
10/31/2011:
"we removed our girls from a school that has a teacher bullying problem. note: tenure is a big problem too! many parents have complained for years about the same teachers and they are still there. i don't care how high they rank academically, their social skills and common sense rank poorly!! the girls are at a wonderful school now:)-charter!! "
10/31/2011:
"My 5th grader was recently bullied by a teacher who punished the entire class for my son's untimely burp during lunch! He is not a class clown; it was an auto-response, inadvertant (and loud) burp. He was given bench tickets to miss recess. The teacher decided to have the whole class help punish my son, by forcing them to miss recess and on a day he happened to be ill & absent. My son returned to a classroom of enraged kids, suddenly given power (in a powerless world for kids) to have at my boy. Several took advantage of this & let him have it, including several kids declaring it was 'National Don't Talk to Gabe Day!' I wrote to the principal to highlight a teaching source of bullying and told the whole story. I have not heard a peep from an otherwise positive principal. I am still deciding whether or not to write to our local paper (eyes & ears of the community) or beyond. So many professionals wonder at the rise in bullying & it is pretty shocking to learn it is pa! rt of the curriculum at some schools! "
10/31/2011:
"I agree there are some inappropriate teachers out there. My problem with what I keep seeing on your website is blaming schools and teachers when there are many parents out there who do not take responsibility for their child's or their own actions. When children are disruptive at school, how is it always the teachers fault?? How is it the teacher did something to cause that behavior in the child? "
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