"I did not recognize that my five-year-old son was repeatedly bullied by
his teacher until he told me that he didn't want to go to school. One of
the so-called nonprofit school in Siem Reap, Cambodia, assured that the
school mission was to help educate Cambodian children so that they have an
equal opportunity to quality education. This profit-oriented school, as I
may say, charged every student US$120 a year and would not any allow
anyone who failed to pay the fee on time step into the school premises. I
found that this school has had no anti-bullying measures because educators
themselves are the bullies.
"i have been bullied since 1st grade and the bullys whould not stop and i
go to a christain school.that is why i am makeing a stop bullying program
next year "
"Unfortunately my family is no stranger to Bullying. Recently my son a
sweet 10 year old is still being bullied, and by a female! She punched my
son in the face because she did not like his backpack. I am still be
wildered by this.I called his teacher and she got the principle involved.
In short he gave her lunchtime detention for 2 days, ok but she did not
apologize. I talked to the "Principle" and requested she apologize to my
son, I stated it is morals which are important this is the way my son was
brought up, and this would make him feel better. The principle stated "
Morals or not he does not know, but he cannot make her apologize, he
further stated he does not know about morals." WHAT!!!! I am really tongue
tied now how can the "Principle" say this?? He is obiviosuly a part of the
problem, I then approached the teacher and she made the female student
apologize. My goodness this is not over I am gonna take this issue to
another level due to the Attitude of the principle.!
Everyone who has been victims must must speak out!!!! You child is worth
alot more, and it makes them feel loved and wanted just when they need it
the most. Please speak out for them....
"Reporting it doesn't help. Get over it. Nothing helps. It only continues.
It always will. It will never end.
"School districts are not motivated to do what it takes to stop bullying.
I'm an educator who has tried to stop abuse and bullying for years in
multiple settings unsuccessfully. I'm in the minority. Most educators
will not risk being uncomfortable and confronting bullying behavior
whether in children or adults. Lunch room and recess bullying are
rampant. Staff perceive reporting as tattling and don't end bullying when
it crops up. Same dynamic occurs with adults bulling little kids. No one
wants to stand up and identify bullying behavior, or too few take a stand
to be effective. Stan Davis of www.stopbullyingnow.com has a great
program but getting staff and community buy-in is almost impossible if it
doesn't come from top down. So if you find yourself trying to protect
your child from a teacher bully like I did you have to go up against a
very powerful teachers' union who has very deep pockets and more control
of school districts than parents do. We had to pull our!
kids to home school them because our community wouldvrather support
abusive teachers than stand united to protect kids.
"i dont like bullys!
"I really would like to know how I can start an antibullying program here
in Anchorage Ak.
"My heart goes out to the child who is bullied and the parents. I too have
a daughter who was bullied and it is a living hell not only was she
bullied but had her head bashed into a cement wall at schoollunch
headaches for the rest of her life.lost all scholarships grades went down
hated to go to school . went through the court system ,school board tried
to get a order of protection and the girl is still allowed to attend that
school. What is wrong with this picture. We live in a state with zero
tolerance for bullying does any one follow the statue? The bully pleaded
guilty. and her parents awarded her with a car. any help would be helpful.
I believe I and my daughter feared for her safety as she attended school
on a daily basis. Every one needs to be educated and parents need to be
responsible for their childs actions. This is the future America what are
we teaching our children.As parents the more people who speak out the
loudest someone is going to hear that this is a matter that needs to be
addressed right away.
"Teachers are the bullies!~
"I am a parent but i remember the endless days of being teased. I want to
be educated on what to do if that time comes whether it be they are being
bullied or being the bully. I must say that I'm not surprised by the
schools reaction nor the parents of the bully. When I was kid you were
told that kids are cruel only to find that they can grow up and be cruel
"Champions Against Bullying applauds intervention. We also send accolades
Because silence and denial and shame and blame keep the brakes off
bullying at an earlier stage, parents need to learn how to recognize the
signs of bullying and help their child safely, while preserving as much of
their child's self-esteem as possible.
As well, when choosing bullying prevention programs, find out what the
success rate is before deciding on one.
We are thrilled that Newman's son is doing well.
Alexandra Penn, Founder
Champions Against Bullying
" I had this ugly experience. I know what it feel to have been a bullied
and It isn't good. My son was bullied at public school that just wasn't
just two kids involve also was 2 workers involve against my son and me
that I have to take my son out of the school ( Claire Lilienthal - Scott
campus ) Not one no even the Principal did nothing to stop and believe in
my son and me and still are working there protecting each other. It is
good to take action to prevent these things. Bulling has affected my son's
life in a big way. It was so serious i had to take him to the physiologist
and has to get this trauma out of his life and out of his mind. This also
affected him academically lowing down his grades , emotional lower his
self-esteem, constantly headache etc. I took all the steps possibly but
felt that i wasn't heard and had to transfer him out of the school.
luckily the new school was the best ever! We should all be aware of
problem and start programs to one by one solve th!
is problem, or at least try to make it better.And the most important
thing have prove to be believe and act quickly.
"An amazing program on school buses to address, bullying, health, fitness, obesity, education, safety.
"how do you protect a child when the staff and administration with their
lawyer join hands in defending themselves to save their jobs and become
bullies themselves, hire a paid witness from your tax money to protect
themselves who walks with your child all day in school just to negate
everything that happens to him/her in school. the teachers feel very
strong and protected and go a step forward to hurt the child therefore
putting the childs future in the dark, taking an A student to the brink of
failing, using every dirty trick in the book.
i s there any help out there? or any suggestions? desperate to know"
"what do you do and who do you approach when in order to defend themselves
the school (staff and administration) becomes a bully because they were
not able to prevent bullying in their school. its easy to target one child
and go after him/her . i would really like to know who to seek help from
in such a case because it seems like a child or parents have absolutely no
rights in a school setting which gives the principal the freedom to make
laws and enforce them within the school while bullying the child and
having the parents watch helplessly because they also have full backing
from the lawyers provided to them by your tax money. the child also goes
thru the injustice done to him. its a shame i would really appreciate any
kind of information and help in this matter at the earliest so i can help
my child .
"Hope High School teachers in Hope arkansas are bullying kids as well!"
"This can get ugly, but no child deserves this kind of henchmanship. I am
an educator and have had my share of administrators who seem to 'favor'
the bully or are terribly slow in responding to the needs of bullied kids.
This is what we recommend.
Call the district office and state your problem. If you are not referred
to those responsible in the district office then inform the laison with
whom you are speaking that you have waited long enough (for those whom you
have previously contacted) and are going to contact an attorney.
Our experience is that most provide the first call free of charge and some
are even willing to go to bat for you subsequent to this call without
Do not threaten. Just do it. There are times when administrators are
delighted since they now have concrete ammunition to deal with other staff
who are ignoring your child's pleas."
"Please do not send your child back to the school for more pain. Take it
to the principal immediately. Your child is not tattling. Your child is
reporting what happened and the school needs to protect their student -
"It's happening to my family as well. My nephew has been bullied for last
2days. Just today he was bullied on the school bus(from school to home).
When he arrived home he was in deep rage, he ran into the kitchen and a
got a large knife and proceded to go after the bully, my sister and his
stepfather ran after him. They talked with him again, stating it will be
alright. Attempted to contact the parents, who r n denial(my son SAID he
didn't do anything), ok. Called the principal, who say he will take cAre
of it(3rd time). We will see what tomorrow brings. HELP, now I'm wondering
if my nephew needs couseling?"
"excellent idea. Living in Caracas, Venezuela, I noticed many schools
publics and private with bullying here, too. As a children's
psychologist I'm very concerned about this situation. I'd like to contact
those women to know about their work and how are they doing in the
"i am a student in a private school and since it is such a small
environment there is no bullying. at my old school there was, though.
teachers didnt know anything about it and since the bullies were top
students they didnt believe us when we told. Anyway, bullying iis
definetly an issue i am glad someone is doing something about it."
"Bullying is a growing problem that our youth has to endure. As the
Executive Director of S.U.P.E.R.B. (Students United with Parents and
Educators to Resolve Bullying), a systemic anti-bullying program in South
Florida, I would like to share with you some information on how to resolve
it. Please check out our website www.flgraduates.org/superb and feel free
to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org for information on how to
bring our program to your children's school."
"My daughter has been getting bullied by three other students in her class.
She tells the teacher, but the teacher tells her to stop tattle telling.
Also the other three students join together and lie on her so she always
gets in trouble. The teacher believes them more then my daughter. It
creates hostility and sadness for my daughter in which she has trouble
"All excellent recommendations. One group to be sure to include is your
PTA...the PTA at your school and your PTA Council at the school district
level. Our PTA Council provides resources for parent education, brings in
anti-bullying expert speakers and supports programs such as Olweus."
"I would make sure that every incident is documented both by you and the
school in writing. My next step would be to obtain a temporary
restraining order detailing any threats or actual physical harm in
chronological order. Usually you can complete a court document and attend
an ex parte court where if granted you then have the children served by
law enforcement and appear in court a couple weeks later. I would also
consider consulting an attorney regarding the enforcement of your child's
state constitutional right to an education being violated by bullies and
school districts inability or unwillingness to protect your child's right.
"My daughter is going through this right now... I have done just about
everything i know to do and nothing has helped... I have even called the
School Board... Im guess the next step is pressing charges?? Can someone
"I like that your article gives specific information how to deal with the
problem in the school. I believe that parents must be involved in a
proactive way to protect and advocate for their children. Your article
shows the steps to take to resolve a growing problem in all schools in a a
very positive and effective way. Thank you."
"This is getting to be such a problem!! It gets worse every year. A good
book to discuss this issue is: Short Mort and the Big Bully for boys and
Meredith and the Mean Girls for girls. It helps open the discussion.
Both books are available on amazon!"
"This is a huge issue for me because back in elementary/middle school, I
was bullied/picked on like many kids today. I really think schools and
parents need to create anti-bullying programs to control/abolish bullying!
Bullying needs to end. When I got bullied, it really effected me mentally,
socially and academically. I have moved on, but the pain I went through
will never go away. We can't let our children or future children go
through the same thing. We need to do something!"
"Even when there is an anti-bullying policy in place doesn't mean it is
followed. I know because my granddaughter has been living with it. She
is also in the 5th grade."
"The young actress is named Miranda Cosgrove, not Melinda. :)"
"I think when a child is being bullied, he/she should not hesitate to tell
the teachers, parents and other adults in authority, maybe even a best
friend. Although teachers say they are there to teach, I believe they
also have an obligation to their students to make sure they are safe and
any bullying should immediately be dealt with and parents, (including the
bullies parent), principals and guidance should be involved so that the
child knows he/she has people on her side and ready to protect her."
"Our school has a zero tolerance policy but that hasn't/doesn't stop a
thing as it is not adhered to. We found help through the social worker
that works for the ISD in our county.
Oh and how about teachers bullying students? Not the stay in line kind of
thing, but the smashing a child's self-confidence into the ground kind!"
"stop the bullying"
"My son has ADHD and is continuously bullied at his school. He has a
reputation due to strange and hyper behavior due to his medical condition.
As a result, he's very lonely. The kids all treat him badly, and his self
esteem is extremely low. He's gone as far as to beg other boys to be
friends with him, and have them reject him repeatedly. I wish I knew what
to do for him. Things keep happening to him, and I'm feeling so
frustrated. A child recently invited my son to a sleep over. That NEVER
happens. When my son went to the boys house (he lives down our street) the
boy proceeded to beat my son up. The sleep over was just a trick. I was
bullied as a child and hoped not to have the same thing happen to my own
children. Now I'm watching my son endure so much. He has a heart of gold,
and his spirit is breaking."
"Nice job. When it comes to bullying, nobody gains. These policies should
be the national standard so that parents everywhere don't have to
"I agree with these Moms. I also have a child in school. I have had a
complaining from her before, but I did not pay attention. After I read
this article, it's kind of scare me. I will keep an eyes on my daughter
and report to a school immediatly.
Thank you for letting me know about this problem
"what happens when the bully is a high school coach with tenure who is
savvy enough to bully people into silence ... so no one else will stand up
and corroborate what's happening to your child and other children -
because the kids want to play their sport and the parents go along with it
so their kids can play their sport? and the school doesn't seem to care
what 1 or 3 families are saying? seriously messed up :("
"My daughter was bullied for several weeks. I reported this to the anti
bullying line and even spoke with someone who ran the anti bullying line
NOTHING WAS DONE. Then my child was cornered in the bathroom by four girls
and their taunting continued, Once I got the police involved because the
school staff still did nothing, they fired back on me and said because u
involved the police we are not doing anything! So I called the police
again, the school dept and even the mayors office. I am so sorry this had
to go this far, but they turned their faces for three months. Now, they
know I mean business. BPS what a major slap in the face."
"Perhaps another vital step is to take proactive steps to ensure that your
own child won't become a bully.
I'm still trying to figure out just how to do this, but one tactic I have
is to curtail access to violent TV shows, movies, and especially video
games. Lots of people insist that the violence in the virtual video game
world can't be directly linked to increasing levels of violence in the
real world, but I disagree. At a minimum, I believe graphic video games
do desensitize children to violence and the consequences of violent
"This happened to my son at his school. He's also in the 5th grade. My
husband & I went to the administrators and teachers and their solution was
to tell the other boys to stay away from my son. Ultimately isolating my
son and making him feel like he'd done something wrong. As big of a
problem as bullying is, you would think they would be better trained to
deal with the issue. I really appreciate you posting this article. I
feel like I'm not alone in dealing with an inadequate system. We are
moving our son to a new school next year; however, our daughter will be
starting Kindergarten in the Fall. This gives me ideas on making sure
this doesn't happen to her.
Thank you again!"