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By Sarah Henry
A child is considered obese if his or her body mass index (BMI) is in the 95th percentile for her height and age. A child with a BMI in the 85th to 95th percentile may be considered overweight. If you want to find out your child's BMI, visit your pediatrician, who will plot your child's BMI on an age growth chart to obtain a percentile ranking. This screening tool can be used in children beginning at age 2. If there is cause for concern, your child's doctor may also advise evaluation of diet and physical activity, family history, any underlying health or medical concerns, and a skinfold thickness measure.
A word of caution is in order if you're worried that your child is too heavy. As any good pediatrician will confirm, children grow at different rates and times. Some kids carry so-called "baby fat" a little longer than others, and some pre-teens thicken up a little around the middle before puberty, when they may shoot up and turn into long, lean string beans. For these reasons, it's important to have your child's doctor explain weight gain in relation to your child's growth during a physical exam.
If your health care provider confirms that your child does have a weight problem, it's important to address it. A recent study found that parents find talking to children about weight more daunting than most other difficult topics — including sex. But not dealing with a potential problem can lead to a lifetime of unhealthy eating habits, yo-yo dieting, and poor body image — in addition to serious obesity-related illnesses.
How you talk about the subject is important, experts say. Keep the focus on healthy choices in terms of eating and physical activity, advises Dana Gerstein, a senior specialist for the University of California at Berkeley's Center for Weight and Health. Gerstein recommends that all parents introduce the subject of healthy behaviors long before weight gain is an issue. And skip the labels. "We encourage parents to focus on talking about what's good for your health and body and avoid terminology like 'overweight' or 'obese,' which can introduce shame into the equation," she says.
If you're concerned about your child's weight, you need to be honest with your child, but you also need to be sensitive about how you raise the issue, adds Karen McGrail, assistant director of the John C. Stalker Institute of Food and Nutrition at Massachusetts' Framingham State University. It's essential to avoid shaming a child about weight, which can trigger an eating disorder or contribute to poor body image.
If your child raises the subject first, it could be a sign that she's being teased about weight and you should find out exactly what's causing the concern, Gerstein advises. Most schools today have anti-bullying policies, and your child's teacher and school administration should be informed if your child is being teased or harassed. As a parent, your role is to provide emotional support for your child to discuss what's going on, as well any accompanying feelings of embarrassment, shame, or fear.
While the language you should use with a toddler is less complex than you'd use with a teen, the basic premise is the same: keep the focus on encouraging healthy habits that can last a lifetime, says Gerstein. For children who are older — upper elementary and beyond — involve them by asking about their goals in terms of weight and health, McGrail adds.
Helicopter parenting tactics — nagging, bribing, shaming, negotiating — should be avoided at all costs, since they're apt to make the problem worse. Likewise, it's not a good idea to put your child on a restrictive diet unless medically indicated (if, say, your child has dangerously high blood pressure or elevated blood glucose) and then only under the supervision of a health professional. The focus instead should be on a balanced, healthy diet, including lots of vegetables and fruit, as well as lean protein and whole grains. Think apple slices rather than potato chips; milk or water instead of soda.
Is an occasional trip to the ice cream store OK if your child has a weight issue? Yes, says Gerstein, just don't keep tempting treats at home or offer them on a regular basis.
The biggest mistake parents make when dealing with childhood weight problems? Trying to change too much at once, says McGrail. "We recommend families focus on three things they're willing to work on, which is more realistic than trying to change everything," she says. Her top picks: eating (versus skipping) breakfast, eliminating sweetened beverages, adding some or more vegetables to the child's diet, monitoring portion size, cutting down on snacks, and serving only healthy snacks.
Parents don't have to go it alone. Baldan-Carpenter and her daughter attended a six-week program sponsored by Kaiser Permanente called KP KIDS (Kids in Dynamic Shape), designed to help families learn how to eat well, get more physical activity, and lose weight. Within eight weeks, Cindy dropped 18 pounds. Today, she weighs 118 pounds and has a BMI of 85 percent – down from 95 percent at her heaviest.
"She feels so much better — she's not tired, can sleep, has more energy, is making friends more easily, has higher self-esteem, and is even doing better academically," says her relieved mom, who packs her daughter's lunch for school and camp to ensure Cindy makes healthy food choices all day long. "I learned the hard way that you can't just ignore [weight problems] in your child," she says. "It's a medical condition — just like the flu or cancer — and you need to treat it to prevent it from damaging your child's body and to protect her health."
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