Family dinner conversation starters
GreatSchools staff members reveal the conversational tips and tricks that work for them.
By GreatSchools Staff
Research has shown that discussions at the dinner table can help develop children's language skills. We asked GreatSchools staff to share their tried and true conversation starters — what works with their families today and what worked when they were kids. Here's what they had to say:
Have each child select a word of the day for the next day in the dictionary. Each child learns his or her word, uses it in a sentence, and then gets to use it the next day as many times as possible. The stories can be told the next night.
Play 20 questions with a theme each night. These could be topics such as ancient cities, state capitols, mammals, etc. This is a great way to keep the whole table engaged and forces kids to research prior to mealtime.
"What did you learn today?" This one is a classic and is fun for little kids — it encourages them to be aware of the learning process.
Family dinners are not the ideal American family dinner at the Fung-Aguirre household. I rush out of work, pick up kids around the city, and come home. When there's no parent-teacher potluck, school committee meeting, or karate tournament in the evening, we eat dinner together. We take frozen food out of the freezer, and , with everyone's allergies and picky palates, I end up making three to four dinners. I feed the kids first and then myself and, on a lucky evening, Robert. We crowd around the kitchen table and quickly chat about all the things that need to be done before bed — practice guitar, two pages of Kumon, homework, brush teeth, shower, change into pajamas, and read. I'm basically preparing the troops for the race to their beds.
On the other hand, Sunday brunches are when I can make pancakes (yes, I know …it's just mix and water, but I call it "make"), cut the fruit, scramble some eggs, and we can all have a leisurely breakfast conversation about the week, weekend, what we liked, who's our friend of the week and who's not, and what too look forward to next week. It's a time of reflection, catching up, and looking forward.
Your sports teams: Being from a big sports family, discussing the 49ers or Giants always got the kids (my brother and me) involved in the dialogue and still does to this day at family dinners.
Nutrition: Also, having a mother nicknamed "Mrs. Vegetable" by all my friends, the taste-versus-nutritional-value debate was constant at our kitchen table. This could certainly become a heated debate depending on someone's aversion to the Brussels sprouts on their plate.
Highs and lows: Easy and effective. Going around the table and sharing your highs and lows for the day get's everyone involved and talking. Even the teenage brother who would rather grunt out two lows than offer a high. This is something that my family did often.
Otherwise, dinners in my family were often about listening to my dad and mom explain what they did that day, which, at an elementary school age, certainly got us asking those incessant "why" questions.
Have each person tell a joke, or one person per night tell a joke and trade off joke-telling days.
Have theme nights once a week and let children be involved in picking the theme, examples are Taco Night, Pasta Night, Salad Night, etc. Then have children give their feedback or talk about what they like best about the theme.
Ask fun questions at the table and let each person tell you what and why they pick what they do: "If you were any animal, what would you be and why?"
Stay positive at the dinner table; don't use dinner table conversation as a time to criticize or reprimand children.