01/5/2012:
"my three year old daughter always lie that her two yr old cosin hit her
when he didnt.. and always says her imaganary friend told her to do that.
how can i stop this "
12/6/2010:
"i have a 8 year old that lie to me about all most ever thing she lies
about what she say to her dad about thing in school. I dont know what to
do i have tryed ever thing.also if we do prase her she acks up even more
can you help please."
09/24/2010:
"If the reason for lying is 'to avoid punishment', would you recommend
guaranteeing to the child that they won't get punished as long as they
tell the truth?"
11/2/2009:
"What do you do when you have a teenager who refuses to grow up? I have a
13 year old who just doesn't want to take responsibility for things, he
lies about homework or things that he thinks he will get in trouble for
(which in our house just means losing privileges) , and generally acts
like an elementary school kid by crying when we talk to him about having
done something wrong, and he doesn't like to finish ANYTHING. We've tried
rewards, discussions, and punishments. Nothing seems to get through to
him. He doesn't seem to want to mature past that of an elementary school
kid when it comes to his interactions with adults. Although, when he's
around other kids he can either be bossy (with younger kids) or quite
mature with kids his age. He has slipped a few times and shown me his
alter ego by cursing and having a nude picture on his hand held device.
The conflicting sides don't make sense to me. Can you help??"
05/27/2009:
"Are you kidding??? This crap is exactly why kids act the way they do..Why
shouldn't they feel guilty for lying? If they did something wrong they
need to apoligize and have consequences!! Parents need to buckle down and
actually start being parents, which includes discipline!! Children didn't
act like this years ago when parents understood in order to raise
responsible adults they need accountability. Now there's 10 year olds
getting pregant, involved in school shootings, drugs, and just out right
murder!! Maybe if these children knew how to deal with disappointment,
instead of the parents trying to change how they parent to fix the
situation, these things wouldn't be as common...When your child does
something wrong, they need to have consequences!!! And yes, they should
have a consious, Which includes feeling bad when they've done something
wrong."
11/12/2008:
"My 11 yrs old child has been constantly lying which has lead to him stealing and being caught in school stealing. His lying has gotten so bad that ACS is now involved and he shows no remorse or concern when he gets caught. His excuse to me was 'It's just what I do.' Please help me."
08/6/2007:
"this is crap!
My sister was raised on this theory and her stealing and lying cost my parents, my self and my brothers thousands of dollars and produced a young lady that cannot be trusted by her words or actions. My sister is and adult that still can't be trusted and has been fired from numerious jobs for stealing and lying.
What I really fear is that my 12 year old daughter has the same traits as my sister. I don't know how to prevent my own daughter from turning out like my sister. She is 12, has no remorse or feeling of guilt and never apologizes for any wrong or pain that she has causes to others, espicially lying or stealing. This is not the daughter i raised. My 8 year old son is just the oposite, He asks permisson, speaks with proper respectect and never takes without asking. I love my daughter, but am calling the police if she does it again. she needs to know firmly that stealing is wrong and the legal punishment that goes along with it. I'm looking for answer and direction but haven't found anything yet."
11/21/2006:
"I found this article to be very informative with relation to my first grade daughter. The article couldn't have come at a more opportune time! She just spent her weekend on punishment for lying 5 days straight! For what I thought was no reason, until I read your article. I will now try to observe a pattern and counter the lying. My child is a good child and I don't want to make her feel bad about lying - so, thank you for your article!"
