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By GreatSchools Staff
"I, along with my older sister and brother grew up in a divorced household. My parents divorced when I was 7. I was very fortunate that I was raised knowing that my parents both cared and loved us, but couldn't get along with each other. I think that feeling is not always conveyed to the children, or the parents somehow lose sight of that fact while they bicker with each other over the years. I think that parents that 'stay together for the kids' are very naive to believe the kids don't see the problems, or perhaps worse, grow up believing that their parents behavior is what they can expect in their own relationships."
A Virginia father writes: "I have a sophomore in high school. Based on advice from a psychologist, I have decided to continue to live at home with my wife and son until my son is out of high school. I was advised that my son would do better in school, unless there is physical violence or threat thereof or constant yelling and screaming. While I would like to move on in my own life, I owe it to my son to provide as stable a home life as possible until he graduates from high school. The psychologist said that the likelihood of successfully 'launching' your child improves when both parents are in the home."
"The overall factor critical to a happy child, successful student and calmer family life is for both parents to communicate and coexist peacefully," writes a veteran teacher with 20 years experience. "I've had students who did seven-day shifts with each parent. They were more organized and less stressed.
"In my current case, the mom tries very hard and is consistent at home. Dad has little to no discipline, never helps with homework and often is late picking up the boys. What helps is that mom and I email daily so even when the boys aren't at her house for the week, she can still call and bug deadbeat dad to turn things in.
"My possible worst case turned out great! Dad was a pilot, mom a flight attendant. Both had different daycare arrangements for when they were in town because of proximity to their homes. They had different buttons made for their 5-year-old. Each morning he came with a button on his backpack that told me where he was to go that day after school. Both parents arranged to be at conferences, and both made themselves available for class events and field trips. Great kid! Great people!"
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