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Boost your older kid's emotional intelligence

IQ isn't everything! Six tips for strengthening your child's EQ.

By GreatSchools Staff

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Ask your child "What would you do if ...?"

During family car rides or as conversation starters at the dinner table, the “What would you do if ...?” game gets kids thinking about ways to respond to different situations. Ask questions that encourage your child to behave with more emotional smarts: “What would you do if you saw someone bullying another kid at school? Or if I blamed you for something you didn’t do?” Asking these kinds of questions when emotions aren’t running high gives your child a chance to come up with ideas on how to best respond — and for you to offer some ideas of your own.

Comments from readers

"I could teach EQ in the '70s and '80s when parents allowed me to give the tought love needed to help children grow. Now when I do those things I have to fear the complaints of the many many (majority) parents who are trying to lead their kids through life without any disappointment or emotional pain. They are fools. But my administrators don't want to deal with them so they discipline us when we garner too many complaints. "
"Im a grandmother raising a almost thirteen granddaughter. Sometimes 2 or 3 grandchildren are here with me. This is a great article. Emotions at this age start to run rather high. One of my granddaughter's parents are getting divorced. I am having a hard time reaching this girl. She's become rude, disrespectful and wont listen to me at all. She just turned 12."