
By Carol Lloyd
“We’re thrilled,” declared my friend when I called to find out what school they’d chosen for their 5-year-old daughter. “There’s this beautiful garden, and the teachers seem brilliant. There are science and art projects everywhere you look.”
My friend was one of those übermoms — she’d toured a bazillion private and public schools. She thought carefully about what would be right for her little learning sponge.
But within a few weeks of school starting, she left me a message: “We’ve been in kindergarten hell!” Her daughter loved the new school and was learning like gangbusters, but something wasn’t working. “We’re switching schools."
What could justify a parent summarily yanking her child out of a school she loves?
In a word: safety. For most parents, school security is the place where the rubber meets the rule book. If your child isn’t safe from violence, bullying, sexual harassment, and fear — even if everything else is perfect — brilliant teachers and gorgeous gardens just can’t balance it out. After all, studies suggest that when children feel threatened, both their academic performance and emotional health suffer. Stress hormones impair kids’ neurological development, and they are literally unable to learn in the same way.
But school safety (or a lack thereof) isn’t as visible as a new paint job or a science display, as my friend discovered. It took just a single child with persistently violent behavior — and an administration that didn’t know how to handle him — for her child's dream school to turn into a nightmare.
Unfortunately, safety statistics are not as easily available as they should be. During a 2009 hearing before Congress, experts bemoaned the sorry state of the nation's school-safety statisitcs and how shoddy records have a deleterious effect on school security as a whole.
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So what’s a concerned parent to do?