By Dr. Lisa Hunter, Child Psychologist
My 7-year-old is very chatty in class. Academically he is strong in all the subjects but refuses to be quiet and is disruptive in class at times. I've tried removing his toys and rewarding him when he is good, but he always returns to his talkative ways. I'm thinking he is not mature enough for second grade. Should I remove him from second grade and place him back in first grade?
Based on the information you provided, I do not think your son needs to be placed back in the first grade. It sounds like he needs a behavioral intervention plan to address his disruptive behavior in school.
Your son's teacher or the school's social worker should be able to devise such a plan with your input. The plan should identify three to five target behaviors that you and his teacher would like to see increased in school, for example, raising his hand when he wants to speak in class, listening when the teacher asks him to be quiet, using an "inside voice" in the classroom, etc.
The target behaviors should be specific and positively stated. Once the behaviors have been identified, the next step is to make sure that the teacher reinforces your son every time he demonstrates the target behavior. For example, he could get a sticker each time he demonstrates a target behavior and if he earns a certain number of stickers, he gets a bigger reward at school (e.g. extra time on the class computer, extra recess time, getting to be a special helper to the teacher, etc.) and at home. It is important that your son is reinforced immediately after he demonstrates the target behavior to help him make the connection between his behavior and the reinforcement.
A thoughtful and consistently implemented behavior intervention plan should lead to some positive results after two weeks. If your son's school behavior does not show any signs of improvement after this time, you may want to have your son evaluated by a child psychologist to determine if there are any other factors that may be contributing to his behavior in school.