"Based on my experience, having had an ADD son and now an ADD grandson, the
schools are NOT set up to deal with ADD children! They are treated as
children with behavioral problems, not with medically diagnosed chemical
imbalances in the brain. The principal at my grandson's middle school
recently sent him to a disciplinary location outside of the school because
a teacher had become frustrated with him because he could not do a task
that she assigned in the time she assigned. The principal at this
particular school has no patience with ADD children. Really, there is
supposed to be a "no child left behind", but it does NOT pertain to ADD
children. There virtually is NO program in the public school system set
up to accommodate them. The only special-needs children accommodated are
either neurologically impaired or gifted. I have seen no advancement in
the schools' policies since I had to fight the battles for my son in the
80's & 90's. What a waste of these wonderfully !
"I am wondering about granddaughter who just turned 12 and is in middle
school. she can do many things when she want to. however she always have
to be threatened when it comes to her school work. She just will not do it
and her answer is always that she know the work. Whenever something is
taken away, she want to go somewhere or do something special, she gets the
work done very quickly and correctly. The teachers complains because her
work is going down and you fight with her at home, you try to work with
her but she tells you point blank that she don't need any help. She do
help others at school and where she may be, other children parents always
talk about how smart and helpful she is but she will get her work wrong
unless its a special practice test then she'll come home with her paper
and announce broadly "my teacher said that if this was the actual test,
I'd get all 4's. She went for a one day tutoring just to see and the
person said that she is smart but, is outsmarti!
ng herself because the drill that he put her through she wouldn't be able
to do it if she didn't know what she was doing however it takes her a
little while which can affect her when time is of the essence. What can i
do to encourage her . She reads very well and above her level which i do
not understand. The other day she read a book but said that the teacher
wouldn't give her any credit for it because the book had too many pages
(538) and was above her level.
"This article is so true. I suspected something wasn't right when my gifted
child stopped making straight A's in 6th grade then eventually began
failing school by 10th grade. Despite having him diagnosed with ADD and
treated with medications in 7th grade, he still failed to improve. After
many meetings with school guidance counselors and teachers, no one could
help him and was told by the guidance counselors that no assistance or
evaluation by the the district psychologist was warranted until he
actually failed a course. I wish I had him evaluated by an educational
psychologist by the end of 6th grade because now his hopes of getting into
a top level engineering university are gone since his GPA is 1.5. Parents
MUST be their child's advocate. If YOU think there is something wrong with
your child's learning ability, do something about it.
"I read the article and am left ok you think you see some signs now what?
What direction does one look to take??"
"i'm in 4th grade and never knew that! thanks for the imformation so i can
plan ahead. i think schools should talk about this to all the students in
"My son shows all the classic signs of having a learning disability and ive
mentioned it to several of his teachers asking for him to be tested and
the end result is basically being brushed to the side. Ive even asked his
doc. to evaluate him. Necessary paperwork required from school and is
extremely fustrating i feel stuck between the two. my grades are horrible
attendance is great. isnt that a red flag that something going on. Help
any suggestions will be greatly appreciated."
"Where do we go from here? When a child in middle school is finally
diagnosed with ADD, what is the next step? What do we as parents need to
do to help them succeed in school? Can the school help with accomadations?"
"Currently I've seen one posting from a parent to state she read more to
her child and her reading improved. I've watched my 7th grader struggle
in school. He's pretty smart and reads, but a hint of LD showed in
3rd/4th grade, but teachers brushed it off, saying it's normal and will
resolve itself. He was in private school. He's failing now (in Public
School) and no one seems to want to guide us on what to do. I've gotten
professional tutors, but I have wondered for the last two years if maybe
too much homework (the pacing of daily responsibilities) is the problem.
When does things become too much? Things may run too quickly for him,
having him feel too much pressure during a limited time period. Maybe
homeschooling is the best option when a child is struggling so much in
school. When problems like this continue to grow maybe it's best for
parents, like myself, to short change themselves on the career ladder,
sacrifice promotions to assist our child(ren) more and be !
more at home. By the time I get home he's not interested in correcting
what I've looked over. Teachers have too much responsibility to support
every student in class (even if they love teaching) and ...I don't have
enough expertise as them, although I know how to read and write well I
don't know how to identify his learning style and that's where I need
help. When I look for support on what resources to look into I receive a
blank stare or someone will say they will see what can be done, but then
won't follow-up or return calls. An answer is out there, I just don't
know where to find it."
"There are no answers in this article. My child has issues that I don't
know how to resolve. He's medicated for ADHD, and gets good grades (all As
and Bs) because he's smart. He cannot complete projects on time, let alone
comprehend what is expected of him. Teachers say he doesn't manage his
time well. Duh. He needs help and where do we go?"
"My son Chris is on the verge of expulsion from public schools. I placed
him in a christian private school and 3 weeks later he was disenrolled
because he doesn't think before he speaks.I'd hoped he was controlling his
ADHD but socially he can't control what spews out of his mouth nor has
grasped the concept of irritating people for attention doesn't mean
they're your friends. I need to place him somewhere but I don't want him
in a school with troubled drug-using gangsters. I want him to be safe from
the rift-raft type people who refuses to excel in life. He's smart,he's
witty,he's vocally explict at times for a shock factor,but he has a good
heart, and an innoncence from bad lifestyles that I want to preserve so he
doesnt get hardened and turn to the wrong influences that will lead him
away from God and his family. Please help me with some ideas for schooling
while I transition him back onto his meds in hopes he can complete his 6th
grade school year on schedule withot getti!
Mom in Manteca"
"My son was diagnosed with ADHD by the school psychologist and by a reg
psychologist. He is on this plan that is supposed to adapt to his needs.
He is almost 12 in the 5th grade, loves to read, but is failing reading
because his teacher will not adapt to his needs. He still cannot write in
cursive, still writes big. He struggles to understand what she wants him
to do. the comprehension is what he is lacking. If you ask him, he gets
it, but testing him or asking him to write it is impossible. He also
struggles in Math, but thankfully he has another teacher for that, and
helps him, so he does well. he will have him do less work, etc..he gets
overwhelmed. this yr. he had-language, english,
math,history,reading,computers,and science! He didn't know what hit him! I
have been screaming he is overwhelmed. He is not organized and loses
everything. It is a mess..how can he manage middle school?"
"Great story but it really leaves us parents hanging! What are we supposed
to do and where do we go when the school can't or won't find out if our
children have a LD? I know something's not quite right with my 11 year
old son but I don't know exactly what it is. He seems smart, he's very
intuitive, can do 'bits' from all the movies he's seen, reads well (he's
in 5th grade and just today tested at 6/2) but he's not doing well in
school at all. It appears that he's lazy but I work with him at home and
he just doesn't get it. In Math, I explain it to him, give him examples
and have him do it. I can see sometimes that he's trying hard to
understand. When he does get it, he forgets it. I've had him come home
from school all excited because he understands Math or something else and
sit and do his homework all along and them bring me this very neat, great
looking paper with all the answers wrong! One night he can do it, the
next he acts like he never saw it before. He Does!
have trouble staying focused, but not to an extreme (I had a step son
like that). He can get excited and talk fast but he can also finish
things and read quietly. In English/language arts he has the answers
right in the book but can't figure it out. We thought he was being too
lazy but now we don't think that's it. I know this is too long but the
school has no clue what to do, and because he tests that he learns, he
doesn't qualify for any services even though he's getting F's! Any ideas,
"Thank you for this. My son struggled for years and we finally made the
decision to homeschool him halfway through 7th grade because he was just
as you described--not low enough for services but totally overwhelmed. We
know he has a vision processing issue but hoped he could manage it. In a
class of 35+ students, the teachers have a nearly impossible task of
reaching all students according to their particular needs. I appreciate
your information. I am chronicling my own journey of homeschooling a
struggling learner at: http://thsregel.blogspot.com "
"hi. i am 15 years old and am an ld student. i currently attend bridges
academy which is great for your kids but when it comes to someone like me
that is only a little off,it's not so great. i need a place that can help
me when i need to but teaches a curriculum that will prepare for life
outside of school as well as help me to respond better to social
situations. p.s it would have to be in the los angeles area such as studio
city or north hollywood."
"My daughter was diagnosed with a LD in preschool. As she entered high
school she was reading at a third grade level. They stated she needed to
read the same books as required for high school. She loved to read but
struggled. expecting more can help by her junior yr she was out of all her
ld classes and was reading at a high school level. Keep reading to your
children so they get a love of books and I believe they can increase there
levels of reading."
"Iam interested in learning more of great schools.
my son is 14yrs old 7th grade,and has a learning disibility.he's not in
school at this time due to his learning difficulties.the school he was
attending could not meet his needs."
"Where do you go for an assessment? My child is in middle school and I am
"I have a 13teen year old, and from the time she was in the 1st grade, I
have been screaming she has a problem learning the basics and remembering
them compared to the other kids in her grade. She was finally held back in
the 6th, cause she just wasn't passing like she needed to, and now that
she is in the 7th she still is failing simple math, she can not keep up
with her homework or when it needs to be turned in. She would rather lie
or hide it all together. Bu I really feel like she has a problem with
learning and I can't getthe teachers in her school test her and keep up
with it or give me an answer on wehter or not there's a problem, I need
help, or advice to get something done before I have to keep her back
another year, If this keeps happening she is not going to get a diploma
because she will be to old. Please help me!!!!!!!"