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Self-Advocacy: A Valuable Skill for Your Teenager With LD

If your teen has a learning disability, self-awareness and self-advocacy are keys to her future success.

By Jodie Dawson, Psy.D.

The ability to self-advocate is important for kids to learn in order to be successful at all stages of their lives. In the past, self-advocacy was a term applied mostly to adults with disabilities, but recently more focus has been placed on teaching this skill to preteens and teenagers.

Self-advocacy is understanding your strengths and needs, identifying your personal goals, knowing your legal rights and responsibilities, and communicating these to others. Because your child lives with his learning struggles on a daily basis, he must learn how to maneuver through life's challenges and obstacles to make sure his needs are met.

Until now, you've been your child's best advocate - protecting him from life's harsh realities. But the earlier you teach him to advocate for himself, the more prepared he'll be for life ahead - no matter what path he takes after high school. Whether in the workplace or on a college campus, your child must understand his strengths and limitations, know how they affect his performance, and be able to communicate this to other people.

Tips for Developing Self-Advocacy Skills

Understanding His Learning Problems

Young people say they need to understand how they learn and be able to express this information in "plain English." Your teenager must be aware of his strengths and needs in the learning process, strategies that help him succeed, accommodations that bypass limitations, and the type of environment that facilitates learning. To gather this information, he should review assessment results with the specialists who tested him; talk to his teachers and/or tutors; and reflect on his own learning challenges, successes, and preferences.

Practicing Communication

A key component of self-advocacy is knowing how to communicate this self-knowledge about the learning process to others. Your child must be clear in his requests and prepared with explanations. The manner in which he communicates can either get others on his side or push them away. To many, what he's asking for may be new. Your teenager may need your help preparing ahead of time, planning what he will say, and making notes to take with him. Role playing is a great way to practice communication skills. By helping him anticipate different situations, you can raise his level of confidence.

Identifying Supporters

It's important to help your child identify his support system early on. Whom does he trust and feel comfortable talking to - parent, relative, teacher, administrator, counselor, mentor, tutor? He needs to have people he can turn to for help, especially once he leaves home. This way he won't have to feel alone as he navigates through life.

Meeting with Teachers

High school is a great place to begin practicing communication with teachers and other school staff. Encourage your child to set up conferences with his teachers. This gives him an opportunity to discuss what's going well and what isn't, to get feedback, and to work out a plan to do better. After all, once he leaves high school and enters the workplace or college, he'll have to do this for himself. You won't be able to call his professor or boss; you have to pass on the advocacy baton.

Comments from readers

"This article is very helpful. I sheltered my son for many years and now I am taking these steps to ensure that he is confident and comfortable advocating for himself. I'm so glad you emphasize role playing. This is an extrememly useful tool in all areas of a child's life. We've role played emergency situations, and what to do if he is lost or confused and intimidated. This has helped him to be confident. People tend to forget that these beautiful children have feelings. They feel embarrassed, overwhelmed and anxious...just like the rest of us. The best thing we can do for our children or relative is support their desire for independence and emphasizing the importance of awareness and ways to get assistance if needed."
"I'm looking for information on self-advocacy in younger children. I started in elementary school with my son by simply giving him choices and letting him have input in educational goal setting. Are there any articles or books on this? Thanks, Dianna"