By Jonathan Mooney , Kristin Stanberry
Jonathan Mooney has dyslexia and didn't learn to read until he was twelve years old. He graduated from Brown University with an honors degree in English and received the distinguished Truman Fellowship for graduate study in the field of learning disabilities and special education. He co-authored the book, Learning Outside the Lines, and speaks to groups of students, parents, and educators nationwide about living with learning problems. We recently spoke with him about his experiences with goal setting and motivation.
Unequivocally, what motivates me most is passion. I always emphasize this point when I speak to groups of students: Figure out what you care about and let it motivate you. Research has shown that passion contributes to people's success. People often ask me, "What is the magic bullet?" or "What pill did you take to succeed?" My answer is always the same: It's passion!
It's important for parents and educators to help kids develop what's called intrinsic motivation. Intrinsic motivation develops from within oneself and is based on one's true, individual passions and interests. External motivation - such as earning a gold star or top grades, conforming to the goals other people impose on you - will, at the end of the day, fail you. Adults who work with kids should encourage them - through dialogue and support - to discover their intrinsic motivation.
Another motivating factor is anger. Anger can be quite energizing, although it tends to have diminishing returns. I admit that anger motivated me early in my college career. As a freshman I told one school official I wanted to major in English literature, which is my passion. After looking at my records and test scores, he smugly told me I should major in something "less intellectual." His attitude really angered me. I had a choice of what to do with that anger: either turn it inward and let it destroy my self-esteem, or take positive action. I chose the latter and promptly enrolled in four literature courses! I earned a 4.0 GPA that semester. The drawback of anger - of trying to prove others wrong - is that if you continue to run on anger long-term, you can lose yourself in the process.
Unfortunately, my mantra as a little kid was, "You're stupid, crazy, and lazy..." This tape ran in my head constantly. In speaking with kids who have learning differences, and their parents, I find this is an almost universal mantra for kids who struggle in school.
By high school I was able to repress that mantra, but it was still there lurking in the background. As I worked with my mom and teachers who understood my learning difference, a more positive foundation began to form. My mom and "Mr. R.," my third grade teacher, told me, "This isn't your problem, Jonathan. It's our problem...You don't need to be fixed. We're looking at a broken educational system that needs to be fixed." Mr. Starkey, my high school English teacher, always told me, "You struggle with writing not because you're dumb, but because your mind moves quickly and in 3 or 4 dimensions, and text is only 2 dimensional."
I believe strongly in developing metacognitive skills, or "thinking about thinking." By the time I was in sixth grade I was forced to actively explore my mind to understand how I work and how I don't work. Through that process I gained great self-awareness. By the time I entered Brown University, I recognized my own abilities and my weaker areas. This self-knowledge has helped me tremendously in school and can be a huge advantage in the workplace. When you can communicate with others about your learning style or working style, you have a better chance to succeed and avoid misunderstandings.
I urge kids and young adults who have LD or AD/HD to view their struggles as an opportunity to learn about themselves. When being tested and evaluated for learning problems, it helps to view the process as a chance to learn about one's strengths and weaknesses.
I encourage parents and professionals engaged in evaluating kids to be open with kids, not secretive about the process. They can help kids start to understand their abilities along with their struggles.
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