"The best thing a parent can do, when all else fails and you are literally
pulling your hair out, is hire an education advocate. I did this and it
was the best money I ever spent. She got a 504 in place and it made a big
difference. Don't fight the battle on your own, the schools do NOT respect
the parents. They do however, respect the law, especially when it's tied
to federal dollars. Sad, isn't it?
"Before I found an excellent charter school for my son, I also tried "to
keep the lines of communication open". The problem is, it's usually a one
sided affair where the schools are communicating to you what THEY want and
not listening to the parent(s). Expressing any opinion that does not fit
their agenda, criteria, mission plan etc etc, puts you in an adversarial
relationship. I know this from experience. I finally got an eduction
advocate to fight the battle more effectively since that's one person the
schools DO listen to (since the advocate can quote them law....) My son
now goes to a school which puts the students' success first and respects
the opinions and input of parents. Gee, what a concept.
"The schools dont give our children a chance my son is suffering from
suicide thoughts and depression he has never hurt anyone he just feels
that the schools teachers and the staff,dont care if he makes it or not as
of Feb 22,11 my son turned 18 the school is telling him that its best to
sign a document of paper work withdrawing him out of school , my son dont
want his GED his not ready to go out there in to the world.I hav failed my
son dont know what to do. he has never been in trouble with the law or in
fights never been physical or violent with anyone. He just want an
education a chance. what is a mother to I hav tryed everything hav talked
to schools the law they tell me that its better for him to get GED :(
"The school my son attends talk about disabled children, i have heard them
as i was there, also there are some great teachers, but some that need
to look at the way they are teaching are youth, my son has ADHD,and
instead of giving positive feed back, the Pricnpal, is very negative, she
should try and teach, children how to get along and resolve these issuies,
instead of giving 1 child suspension, and not the other child even though
he hit my child first, the schools need to be , teachers and the staff,
and the Pricapal let the parents decide,who stays and who goes'"
"So what your saying is that the school has all the rights and we have very
little unless we threaten them with a law suit. I'm sorry, but you are
leaving no hope for the parents. Your saying that we have to work with the
school's ideas and the only way we could get our parents views considered
is if we flatter the staff at the schools. What ever happened to
accountablity? The only way in this world to get people to pay attention
is to sue????"
"Help, my autistic daughter is 17 and is a senior in high school. I just
learned today that it's up to special education coordinator if she is
allowed to stay in school until age 21. Is this true. Is she being
punished because me as a parent pushed her to do her work and keep up best
as possible with her class? "
Everything I have read applies to my son Cameron and His education. I will have to spend more time to research this website. He is in 4th grade, and I feel like we are running out of time to debate and make things more difficult with the school. He is 9 and has the learning capasity of a 5 or 6 year old. This has always been a challenge. I am concerned that I don't know what to expect of the IEP. I don't know what is too much to ask, as for years I have been just signing them and not noticing any major progress.
Our IEP is on October 21st for His 3 year review, and I want to be prepared.
"What everyone fails to recognize is that this isn't about parents demanding the best. It is about school district's failing to fulfill their responsibilities to provide LD student's with an individualized plan according to their specific needs. Instead, they provide placement according to their generic offerings. When parents exercise their rights or concerns, like the parent in the pervious posting and thousands of others just like her, the battle ensues.
The Findings and Purposes in IDEA 2004 are to establish a Higher Standard for a Free, Appropriate Public Education. When the U. S. Supreme Court issued the first decision in Board of Education v. Rowley, in 1982, the standard that school districts did not have to provide the “best” education for disabled students was set. Giving birth to the Cadillac v. Chevrolet comparison (which also needs updating).
Congress has now found that “30 years of research and experience has demonstrated that the education of children with disabilities can be made more effective by having high expectations.” In order to meet developmental goals and grow to be independent adults and contributing members of society, “to the maximum extent possible” is necessary. The bar has now been raised!
This, is now the new legal standard for a free appropriate public education. So, it's no longer about parents wanting the best or their emotional expectations. It's about the school district's responsibility and accountability to adhere to federal mandates. These children have been victim to low expectations for long enough. Everyone is quick to take a stand for civil rights in all areas but this one and it's high time things change.
It's pretty pathetic that some US states, including California, base future prison population needs on the results of fourth grade reading assessments. Bureaucrats know if a child is not reading proficiently in fourth grade that he/she will not be reading at the end of high school. The early years are crucial and when the most significant damage occurs. This is what fuels parents passions when dealing with SD's. Where are the State Departments of education when these discussions take place? Just think how different all our futures would be if They would just create better schools and offer appropriate programs, instead of just building another prison.
And the truth is, we're all responsible to make a change, not just parents of sped kids."
"hello i have a son that is bipolor , adhd and has a bowel problem most of the schools he has been in would not take him they would put him on a home bound program and the hours they would give the people who taught him were only 5 hrs a week . i feel that he is not learning anything by doing it this way what is the standard amount of hrs a child needs to learn or is there even a way that he can be a part of the school and be able to particapate like other kids he is in the 5th grade and just barely knows how to read and can only print i am now trying to teach him is multiplication tables which he knows from 1 to 5 but i want him to learn more . right now he feels like he will never have a chance to be in school no matter how hard he trys . can you please give me your input on this thank you . or would it be best for me to just home school him myself and get him the education he needs to get . "