By Katy Smith
John seemed overwhelmed as he unloaded his backpack one day after school. His fifth grade teacher had assigned a long-term book report project that had several components, included multiple deadlines, and involved reading three books. John loved to read, but having AD/HD often challenged his ability to organize materials and follow timelines.
"Mom," John groaned, "I'm not sure how I'm going to handle this."
It was clear he'd need plenty of support at home. And, since his father and I are divorced, John splits his time equally between our respective homes - a daunting task for any child trying to keep his school work organized!
Fortunately, the "Book Box" project was described in detail (deadlines and all) in the assignment sheet from John's teacher. The project would be spread out over the next two months. The first step, I thought to myself, would be to break the project into individual pieces, like a puzzle. The challenge would be to keep all the "puzzle pieces" together, not scattered between two homes with the possibility of key pieces getting lost in the shuffle.
Within a day or two of John's getting his assignment, he, his dad, and I met to plan our coordination of the project. His dad and I may have our differences, but we're strongly committed to working together when it comes to John's well-being.
Here are the strategies we used to plan and complete the project:
Overall, this plan helped John stay on track and feel confident throughout the course of the project. He fretted less about losing things and devoted his energy on the work itself. Like many kids with AD/HD, having clear and consistent structure in place helped him stay organized and focused.
As parents, we had to resist the urge to do the work for John; our role was to guide and coach him. Doing the work was his responsibility. We made it a point to comment on how well he was meeting his deadlines and how much less frustrated he seemed compared to his previous projects. His dad and I also learned that modeling the desired organizational skills and behaviors was far more effective than lecturing him!
When the final grades were in, John earned an "A" on his "Book Box" project. He was thrilled! We were so proud of his efforts and the team work we'd learned as a family. At the school Open House, his book box was on display for everyone to see. I couldn't help but think of his project as a hard-earned trophy for our family - one well-worth the effort!
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