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Fostering Motivation in Kids With Learning and Attention Problems

Learn how to help kids sustain the joy of learning for its own sake in the face of their struggles and frustrations.

By Robbie Fanning, M.A.

  • Steven is 11 and in the fifth grade. His reading problem causes him to read haltingly. On the day he knows he'll be asked to read out loud at school, he develops a stomachache.
  • Maria, age 9, is in the third grade. Her visual perception and fine motor problems interfere with her handwriting, so it takes her an hour to finish one worksheet at night, let alone two or three. The teacher asks her to write more legibly, but she's doing the best she can. She's losing interest in school.
  • John is 10, is in the fourth grade, and has been diagnosed as having AD/HD. His schoolwork is fine - when he remembers to bring books home and to turn in his assignments. The teacher says he's "unmotivated."

The truth is that none of these children is "unmotivated." In fact, they're highly motivated - to avoid public humiliation or failure.

While children with learning problems must work hard to do well in school, not all struggle emotionally. Why is one child motivated and another gives up before he tries?

What Dampens Motivation?

Much research has been done over the years on motivating children with learning disabilities (LD) or AD/HD. It tells us that the main reasons these children withdraw mentally from school is fear of failure, frustration with inconsistent performance (good one day, stumbling the next), lack of understanding the schoolwork, emotional problems, anger, or desire for attention - even negative attention.

The behavior that accompanies this dampened motivation may range from quitting ("school is boring"), avoiding any attempt ("I'm stupid; why try?"), clowning (for attention), denying ("I don't care about English"), being impulsive ("There! I'm done!"), or bullying (picking on someone smaller).

We also know that of the brain's various learning systems, if the emotional system is in turmoil, the cognitive system must expend energy on it before the brain can focus to learn. This means you must help your child talk about his feelings before you can figure out how to motivate him to do math or to write essays. Help him to see the pattern of his behavior and to understand why he doesn't feel motivated to succeed at school.

What Fires Motivation?

Babies are born with an inherent drive to learn. Your challenge as the parent of a child with learning or attention problems is to help him build what Drs. Robert Brooks and Sam Goldstein (Raising Resilient Children: Fostering Strength, Hope, and Optimism in Your Child) call "islands of competence," to offset the frustrations and low self-esteem that can result from his learning struggles. The goal is to find subjects or activities where he is self-motivated to learn, enjoys the process of learning, and sees the value of what he learns.

Deborah Stipek, Ph.D, Dean of the Stanford University School of Education, is an expert in the subject of motivation in young children. She's also a mother, so her latest book, Motivated Minds/Raising Children to Love Learning, is full of practical advice.

Dr. Stipek says kids will be self-motivated to learn when they:

  • Feel competent about something
  • Have some choice and control over their learning
  • Believe that intelligence isn't fixed at birth
  • Feel loved and respected by their parents

Help Your Child Discover His Passions

One way to build a sense of competence in your child is to encourage his passions. There's an academic payoff to building competence this way. Dr. Stipek says, "The good news may seem paradoxical: research has shown that the indirect strategy of helping your child enjoy learning and see its value is the best way to improve your child's grades and raise his test scores."

If your child has a particular strength in school, such as being a math whiz, find ways outside of school to expose him to math in the real world - computers, hands-on science museums, and math camps.

If he struggles with most school subjects, look elsewhere for his passions. Pay attention to whatever makes your child perk up. Is it animals? Plants? Music? Art? Dinosaurs? Video games? Skateboards?

To play on these passions, help your child deepen his knowledge. For example, if your Internet provider allows you space for a family website, let the child help build one on his favorite subject. He could research and write about the foremost skateboard athletes in the world. Post his drawings of himself skateboarding the galaxy. List unanswered questions about skateboards. Let family and friends interact with the website, too - what else would they like to know from your in-house skateboard expert?


Comments from GreatSchools.org readers

02/28/2012:
"What a wonderful article but my question is why are our public schools ( my son attends in one of the best districts in the country) still have no real empathy or even learning tools or curriculum for my son with LD and possibley ADHD. I am now looking into a private, expensive school which does so he does not fall through the cracks or worse. My taxes are incredible, we gardens, water features but no specialized, not special eduation for our kids. "
11/9/2011:
"This is excellent for our parents who are desperate for information. I just was on a ADHD Blog and found the experiences of the parents horrible to comprehend. Stories of young boys, mostly, being drugged with various meds that don't necessarily help yet turn a child into someone else. I feel that many right brained, visual spatial learners are being diagnosed as ADD or ADHD because the system is setup against them. Special Ed has become only a behavior management field and is not helping. Children should not start school until 7 yes old. School has become babysitting because Mothers have to work. Our poor children. Our poor country. "
11/4/2011:
"Children with learning disabilities are especially vulnerable to developing perceptions of themselves as academically incompetent and to develop low expectations for success "
01/24/2011:
"Yes parents can be negative. Yes teachers can be negative. That's why it is critically important to expose these kids to as much positive healing energy. As a high school special ed teacher I work with A LOT of ADHD kids. It seems everything I do to try to lighten their emotional load a little annoys my colleagues. One of my subs even yelled at my most energetic little angels for bouncing on the ball! What does he think they are there for! Decoration!! Teachers like control. Kids need structure. OK. I get it. But in addition to structure they need fun play. They need their teachers and their parents to smile at them and ask them how their day was -- just like us. They need control in their lives -- just like us. They need to be loved and respected -- just like us. And they need each other -- just like us. Keep this blog going. Share it with your friends, family and teachers in your lives. There's some really good stuff in here. :)"
12/13/2010:
"As a parent, I find this very informative. I feel that I try to parent with these concepts in mind at least most of the time. However there is discontinuity with our raising of our child with LD and the treatment he receives at school. I often find myself trying to fix what teachers have unknowingly damaged in him. My child is very sensitive, intuitive. He reads facial expressions, body language, and ponders comments. Then he internalizes everything. He is a smart kid, does very well socially with peers as well as adults. Unfortunately his 'failures' are beginning to shape him as an individual. I am beginning to understand that the 'scuffs and scrapes' he gets at school are becoming more difficult to heal and need to be treated as deeper wounds... Add to this the daily grind at home, his room gets messy, he forgets to flush, shower and close the fridge door, and so on... I will make multiple copies of this article and pass it on. Anyone who interacts with kids, whether par! ents, educators, coaches or babysitters should get a copy of this in t heir 'in-box'."
01/4/2010:
"It is interesting to read this article. An interesting point raised is that children need to feel loved and respected by their parents. Lack of love and parental respect, in my view is the greatest obstacle that children in our society face. Poor parenting, discouraging children, authoritarian regime and threats at home mean that children only do things when they know that the consequences of not doing what they are told will be unacceptable and they feel forced to comply. At school they know that they do not face the same threats and so their choice is not to comply with requests from teachers. They show negative behaviour and non-compliance, achieving low results, no matter how hard the schools try. The children do not talk about the negative treatment they receive from their parents, both because they are unaware that that is causing their bad behaviour and because children are very reluctant to talk about the bad behaviour they experience at home. As well as low achievement the children start to bully other children at school, displaying the behaviour they experience at home. Schools inspectors expect such children and parents to be dealt with and for the schools to come up with solutions. How can they? The schools have no power to deal with the parents' behaviour. They may wish to recommend parenting classes or other types of training courses, but there is total lack of co-operation from parents. The situation is therefore at a stalemate as regards the parents, and as for the children, they are growing up to be tomorrow's parents, carbon copies of their own parents, perpetuating the cycle over and over. WHAT CAN BE DONE TO HELP THESE CHILDREN? Plse help."
12/10/2009:
"Great article. I read this article to address some learning issues with my daughter, just as I had in my youth. As I recall my parents used many of these strategies, along with unwavering encouragement and support. Despite struggling a little in high school I went on graduate from college Magna Cum-Laude with 3.8 GPA and near 4.0 in my department. I then went on to Grad School and graduated with a 3.7 GPA. My teachers used to say I had perseverance, and my dad loved to call it stick-to-itiveness."
07/30/2009:
"I love this article and agree with every word. Here is another great series of posts with practical tips on how to motivate kids (with or without learning difficulties): Motivating Kids"
12/3/2008:
" its impressive. I would like to do power point presentation in teacher lecture programme. Kindly send the details and bullets regarding the topic- Best teaching method in Kindergarten or Motivating Kindergarten students. Thankyou in advance "
10/6/2008:
"Thank you for the GOLDEN information on motivating children with attention problems. If I can use this for questions...I am considering home schooling my extremely creative, 9 year old because of this. The elementary teachers are very helpful in helping my daughter remember to bring home things, write things down, etc. But when she is in middle school and high school, I fear they won't and then her esteem will diminish more than it is. Do you have any where to direct me? Or home school curriculums or ideas that will help me to keep her motivated. She has so much potential. She is SMART. She can't function well in a regular classroom setting. Thanks for anything you can throw my way. Have a nice day! "
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