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Fostering Motivation in Kids With Learning and Attention Problems

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By Robbie Fanning, M.A.

Foster Long-term Motivation

Research tells us that parents who encourage a child's self-sufficiency often have children who are motivated from the inside, out. This means holding back a little before you jump in to help your struggling child. "Children with learning disabilities are especially vulnerable to developing perceptions of themselves as academically incompetent and to develop low expectations for success," Dr. Stipek says "In an effort to ensure success we sometimes provide more help than children with learning problems or AD/HD actually need. This takes away from their own pride in accomplishment and the enthusiasm that a sense of achievement and competence can produce."

Children with learning difficulties often have a marvelous ability to see the world in new ways. When you guide your child to pursue his interests, operate from his strengths, and not shy away from challenges, you help him build a positive cycle of accomplishment and self-motivation. Celebrate each hard-won stumbling step your child takes on the way to learning and developing strengths, so that in the long run, he can sustain his motivation - and passion - for learning.

Comments from readers

"What a wonderful article but my question is why are our public schools ( my son attends in one of the best districts in the country) still have no real empathy or even learning tools or curriculum for my son with LD and possibley ADHD. I am now looking into a private, expensive school which does so he does not fall through the cracks or worse. My taxes are incredible, we gardens, water features but no specialized, not special eduation for our kids. "
"This is excellent for our parents who are desperate for information. I just was on a ADHD Blog and found the experiences of the parents horrible to comprehend. Stories of young boys, mostly, being drugged with various meds that don't necessarily help yet turn a child into someone else. I feel that many right brained, visual spatial learners are being diagnosed as ADD or ADHD because the system is setup against them. Special Ed has become only a behavior management field and is not helping. Children should not start school until 7 yes old. School has become babysitting because Mothers have to work. Our poor children. Our poor country. "
"Children with learning disabilities are especially vulnerable to developing perceptions of themselves as academically incompetent and to develop low expectations for success "
"Yes parents can be negative. Yes teachers can be negative. That's why it is critically important to expose these kids to as much positive healing energy. As a high school special ed teacher I work with A LOT of ADHD kids. It seems everything I do to try to lighten their emotional load a little annoys my colleagues. One of my subs even yelled at my most energetic little angels for bouncing on the ball! What does he think they are there for! Decoration!! Teachers like control. Kids need structure. OK. I get it. But in addition to structure they need fun play. They need their teachers and their parents to smile at them and ask them how their day was -- just like us. They need control in their lives -- just like us. They need to be loved and respected -- just like us. And they need each other -- just like us. Keep this blog going. Share it with your friends, family and teachers in your lives. There's some really good stuff in here. :)"
"As a parent, I find this very informative. I feel that I try to parent with these concepts in mind at least most of the time. However there is discontinuity with our raising of our child with LD and the treatment he receives at school. I often find myself trying to fix what teachers have unknowingly damaged in him. My child is very sensitive, intuitive. He reads facial expressions, body language, and ponders comments. Then he internalizes everything. He is a smart kid, does very well socially with peers as well as adults. Unfortunately his 'failures' are beginning to shape him as an individual. I am beginning to understand that the 'scuffs and scrapes' he gets at school are becoming more difficult to heal and need to be treated as deeper wounds... Add to this the daily grind at home, his room gets messy, he forgets to flush, shower and close the fridge door, and so on... I will make multiple copies of this article and pass it on. Anyone who interacts with kids, whether par! ents, educators, coaches or babysitters should get a copy of this in t heir 'in-box'."
"It is interesting to read this article. An interesting point raised is that children need to feel loved and respected by their parents. Lack of love and parental respect, in my view is the greatest obstacle that children in our society face. Poor parenting, discouraging children, authoritarian regime and threats at home mean that children only do things when they know that the consequences of not doing what they are told will be unacceptable and they feel forced to comply. At school they know that they do not face the same threats and so their choice is not to comply with requests from teachers. They show negative behaviour and non-compliance, achieving low results, no matter how hard the schools try. The children do not talk about the negative treatment they receive from their parents, both because they are unaware that that is causing their bad behaviour and because children are very reluctant to talk about the bad behaviour they experience at home. As well as low achievement the children start to bully other children at school, displaying the behaviour they experience at home. Schools inspectors expect such children and parents to be dealt with and for the schools to come up with solutions. How can they? The schools have no power to deal with the parents' behaviour. They may wish to recommend parenting classes or other types of training courses, but there is total lack of co-operation from parents. The situation is therefore at a stalemate as regards the parents, and as for the children, they are growing up to be tomorrow's parents, carbon copies of their own parents, perpetuating the cycle over and over. WHAT CAN BE DONE TO HELP THESE CHILDREN? Plse help."
"Great article. I read this article to address some learning issues with my daughter, just as I had in my youth. As I recall my parents used many of these strategies, along with unwavering encouragement and support. Despite struggling a little in high school I went on graduate from college Magna Cum-Laude with 3.8 GPA and near 4.0 in my department. I then went on to Grad School and graduated with a 3.7 GPA. My teachers used to say I had perseverance, and my dad loved to call it stick-to-itiveness."
"I love this article and agree with every word. Here is another great series of posts with practical tips on how to motivate kids (with or without learning difficulties): Motivating Kids"
" its impressive. I would like to do power point presentation in teacher lecture programme. Kindly send the details and bullets regarding the topic- Best teaching method in Kindergarten or Motivating Kindergarten students. Thankyou in advance "
"Thank you for the GOLDEN information on motivating children with attention problems. If I can use this for questions...I am considering home schooling my extremely creative, 9 year old because of this. The elementary teachers are very helpful in helping my daughter remember to bring home things, write things down, etc. But when she is in middle school and high school, I fear they won't and then her esteem will diminish more than it is. Do you have any where to direct me? Or home school curriculums or ideas that will help me to keep her motivated. She has so much potential. She is SMART. She can't function well in a regular classroom setting. Thanks for anything you can throw my way. Have a nice day! "