"I have a 4 year old boy, he is very angry child. If nothing goes his way
he kicks out and get very aggressive. He has punched his 2 year old cousin
in the face for no reason and smashed his bedroom up:- pulled curtains
down. lob clothing everywhere and also toys he has also kick me in the
"I have a nine year old boy that is always angry, he doesnt listen to a
word any one says, he talks like a gangers and he fights none stop with
his sister and doesnt mind the adults.. Please help me figure out what to
do iv tried everything he used to be the perfect child and now he is just
so hard to be around help get my son back to the way he use to be... any
"I have a 6 yr. old adopted grand daughter who is very hard to handle if
she does not get her way, would scream very loud, says things that
sometimes you wont even believe because she'll create things like "you hit
me, crack my bones, and so on". She even throws and mess things around
her, and she'll not quit, til her last strength couldn't grasp on anything
else anymore, but she is so sweet when she's in peace. She can surprise
you with sweet words and so on. Need help, we just moved here couple of
months ago, and I'm scared that someday were gonna chased out of this
apartment. Help please!
"My Daughter is very angry a need help I speak spanish,she has 4 years old
"Great article. I am going to print it and show it to my husband. We have a
13 year old son with severe anger problems. He is ADD and being on
medication helps him to concentrate in school. Most of his anger issues
are at home...especially when my husband isn't home. I am going to do more
research based from the info I gained from this article and then take it
to our family doctor. Thank you so much for providing this info to us
"my child is 11 he has always made the honor roll and been good in school
till this year. He is verbally abusive,talks back to adults and doesnt
have ny ambtion to do his school work anymore heis now making c,d, and
f's. He says he is mad butr doesnt know why. He has a great home life
theres no fighting or name calling so where is itg comig frm"
"I have a 13 year old daughter who is out of control. When she gets angry,
she destroys any and every thing that she can get her hands on. She has
now resorted to calling me the worst names that you could possibly think
of. I've tried everything that I know of but it's not helping. I stay
calm whenever she starts raging but eventually have to physically restrain
her from hitting and/or hurting her 2 younger sisters. I'm at my wits end
with her because I won't allow her to put herself or any other household
member in danger."
"I was just wondering if you could give me your opinion. I have a 7 year
old son and he is very aggressive when he is angry, almost always
defiant. You can't ask him to do anything; even by bribing him. The only
time he will pick something up to putt it away or throw it in the trash is
when he knows with out a doubt that it will make his brother(age-3) scream
and cry. Then they start fighting(hitting and kicking each other). He
didn't have the whole terrible two's thing. But shortly after he turned 3
he started telling us No. Then I found out I was pregnant and he started
getting worse. Always wanting me to do things that he had done his self
for almost a year. Getting really mad when I couldn't carry him or stand
up to hold him. We just figured it was a phase and once he got use to the
baby he would get better. Boy were we wrong. For the first 2 years he
was pretty protective of his baby brother, but as soon as he turned 2 He
started treating him just like he trea!
ted me and his dad. At fist I was the only one that he would hit now he
will hit any of us. He fights with his cousins, But he minds quite well
for any other family and for all of the teachers at school. He does have
a little bit of a problem getting along with other kids outside of school
and these are the same kids he goes to school with. At school I know that
he is looking for praise from the teachers and he knows that if he does
anything to get into trouble than he wont get any kind of rewards. They
get what is called 'caught being good' and they get to turn their slips in
for a reward and at the end of the year they all go into a drawing. He
knows all about this and so he treats everyone so much different at school
than at home. His anger is doing nothing but getting worse and I've tried
everything I know. We are in counseling and almost all of her techniques
seem to be some form of bribe and I just don't like that idea. I don't
mind giving him a reward if he '!
s been exceptionally good , but to tell him okay you not being!
good so your not going to be able to get a treat unless you straighten
up and behave until we get finished with what were doing. I think that's
wrong. And when he gets angry I can't handle him. He's stronger than me
and he hits and kicks and has left bruises. Just yesterday we were all
outside and he was playing with his T-Ball and everytime he hit the ball
his brother would go and get it. Well for some reason he decided to go
get the ball himself and they were both running to the ball and next thing
I knew my 3yr old was screaming. MY husband went to see what happened b/c
it wasn't clear from where we were. My 7yr immediately got mad when asked
what happened and threw his bat across the yard. His dad put everything
up and we told him to go to his room . It took me 10 minutes to get him
in the house and then it took him about another30-45minutes to calm down.
His dad usually hold him down for about 5-10 minutes until he calms down
to keep him from hurting anyone!
or braking anything. I just really need something that would work . I
don't know what to do with him and all I seem to be getting from the
counselors we've seen so far is bad parenting. They are trying to teach
us new and better parenting skills on how to discipline by way of
reinforcing good behavior, and time out techniques. Also how to teach him
to control his anger and redirect it into more positive feelings. And how
to use words to express how he feels b/c using your hands hurts. Hope you
can help. Thanks for listening, BlueLucy"
"I am extreamly worried about my six year old grandsons anger issues...I
have been around many children but I have never seen a child that goes to
the level that my grandson does.I also worry about his three younger
siblings when he is having his fits.What can we do to help him? "
"Well, thank you for writing this article. My wife and I have twin 7 year old identicle girls and an 8 year old girl. We have been struggling with these very issues for too long now. Not really knowing what to do, we have done many things none of which has worked. Possibly due to being the wrong thing or being inconsistant most of the time? Our 8 year old daughter displays extreme sweetness only to snap and be not only Angery but vocally abusive as well. She has always felt as if the twins get all the attention and they always have someone to be around. To the contrary, the 8 year old gets all the attention, demands the center stage, has the most, feels left out if the twins have or get anything etc.....The twins however just roll with the punches often being left out, not getting to go with the relative b/c it is too much to handle so on and so forth. My 8 year old is a year young for her 3rd grade class and often is very bossy but can't take it when anyone gives it !
back to her. We are struggling but coming to terms with trying to read up on and be aware of our actions in every situation. All this in an effort to re-direct this anger so we have a more happy little girl......Again, we are working on weather or not we have a AD/HD child, Bipolar Child, Accessively Angery Child or just a child frustrated at her situation with regard to her sisters, parents etc. Thank you again for writing this article......
Searching Parent, "