06/4/2012:
"I have boy & girl twin grandchildren. My grandaughter is far beyond the
1st grade reading level. My grandson is far below 1st grade reading level.
The school has recommened holding him back. As a matter of fact they
insist on it or he can't return. It is a Charter School in MI. I would be
a much simpler decision if they were not twins. I'm thinking of tutoring
the grandson one on one this summer. Any suggestions on what to do would
be greatly appreciated.
"
05/29/2012:
"Where Can I find my states lawa on retaining my student? My son has all
a's but because his reading fluency is low and he is not quite at grade
level with his reading they are trying to hold him back. he is already
older than his classmates, this will put him 3 years older in the fall if
they do this.
"
05/24/2012:
" I totally agree with keeping back a child for another year if they are
not performing well in school because in my years of teaching and as a
parent i saw that did wonders for some children becaused it gave them the
opportunity to understand the previous work they had problems with.
"
05/22/2012:
"Probably the most important statement in this article is: Smith’s son is
now faring quite well in high school. “His brain needed another year to
grow,� she says simply. “Really, there have been no issues ever
since.� And that was preceded by:
She worked with the teacher to identify her son’s obstacle: reading
comprehension. Smith enrolled her son in. . .
Here is an involved parent, working with the teacher, doing what is best for
the child AND realizing that despite both her investment and the teachers'
best efforts, her son needed more time. These are all essential parts of
the formula that produced a good outcome.
We can't just hope that a student will develop skills just because s/he is
with friends of the same chronological age.
While socialization is important, the primary purpose of school is education
for life.
"
08/17/2011:
"One of my daughters was held behind, and it was very detrimental. Her grades continued to decline and her self-esteem was irrevocably harmed.
"
07/12/2011:
"I'm a teacher and I have a problem with the following statement about
working with your child over the Summer: "You have an immediate opportunity
in those three or four months of summer to provide targeted instruction to
address a child’s needs�
First of all...3 or 4 months? Try July + August = 2 months!
Secondly, parents should be addressing their child's needs EVERY SINGLE
DAY - don't wait until Summer. That's a big part of what is wrong with the
entire educational system. There is a general lack of TEAMWORK. Student,
parent(s), teacher...you need all 3 on the same page in order to be
effective in your child's academic progress.
I understand that parents need to work (sometimes multiple jobs), the kids
are in daycare from age 2 or younger; by the time they enter pre-K or
Kindergarten, parents are placing their child's entire academic success
solely in the teachers' hands. It is a PARTNERSHIP...your job is not done
when your child starts school!
Talk WITH your child daily...find out what they love about school...what
they don't like and ask why. Ask your child's teachers for ideas &
suggestions for home; activities that can support & extend what is going on
in the classroom.
This might sound corny, but here's something to do with the kids that won't
cost anything...check out your local library!
Shut off the TV, computers and cellphones for a specific time each day and
read - even if it's the newspaper! Understand what was read; research what
you don't understand & discuss it later.
Sadly, we have forgotten how to communicate with each other. Is it any
wonder? OMG...LOL...where R U? BRB...
With texting and spell-check relied upon so heavily in today's world,
conventional spelling and grammar is tragically becoming a thing of the
past.
JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE CALLED SMARTPHONES DOESN'T MEAN THEY MAKE YOU SMARTER!
Enjoy your Summer! See you in September!
"
06/13/2011:
"For those people commenting on doing other things to push your child to
the next grade, I did that. I had my child pulled out of class for a
Language Arts Assitance Program and he attended a special tutoring session
twice a week after school for 45 minutes. Nothing helped! The school
wanted to promote him to 2nd grade. We spent hours after school trying to
do the homeowrk...this only led to tears and frustration. You have to look
at the whole child, not just the grade on paper. If you would have looked
at my son on paper...he looked fine. If you took an hour to sit with him
you would see. The kid was so frustrated and down on himself. He was
pulled out of class with the kids who could not speak English and was
ridiculed and bullied because of it. One year after being held back and
moved to a private school with small class sizes he is a totally different
kid. I feel sad after reading these comments who are attacking teachers
once again. My son's teachers were amazing. They were right by our side
helping us do everything we could. They could not have done anything
different. Sometimes a child needs a little extra time. There is nothing
wrong with that and news flash people...it's no ones fault!"
06/6/2011:
"I believe it is up to the individual child and parent. If a parent
believes his/her child is ready and prepared to be in a class with older
kids, then do so. My daughter is entering third grade in August and will
be turning 8 in a couple of weeks. She is the youngest in her class yet
one of the smartest. She reads well above her older peers and does
extremely well in Math and other subjects. She was able to compete with 4
through 8 graders in Track & Field and even won against 6th and 7th
graders. My son who is 13 is at age with his classmates. They have a 14
year old classmate. There's no problem with this and no one teases her.
Again, my son is more mature than some of his peers (same age). He also
does well in school and excels in sports.
On the other hand, my nephew is one of the youngest, if not the youngest.
He will be in 6th grade this coming August and will just be turning 11 in
August. Since the beginning, he has been immature for his age. He does
average in school and does his best in sports. However, compared to his
other classmates, he is at or below average maturity wise. This may not be
his fault. This is perhaps his mom's (my older sister) fault. She has
babied him and continues to do so. His maturity level is definitely not up
to par, but who am I to judge.
Like I said, everyone is different. If a parent believes that his/her
child is not old enough to start kindergarten, so be it."
06/6/2011:
"We retained our daughter in 3rd Grade because when we moved out of state
she was very behind. The School back home where she attended Socially
Promoted her in the the 1st grade then the 2nd so by the time we moved,
she was already over 18 months behind going into 3rd grade and by this
point she could not grasp the material and was having some learning
issues. Retaining her was the Best thing we could have done for her both
Socially and especially Academically. She is now entering Middle School
(6th) Grade and is thriving. she is a little behind in Math but is now
above Grade level in every other subject. the school here in Florida she
now attends was a godsend for us, without them she would still be behind."
06/6/2011:
"As a mother of two (7 and 11) and former first grade bilingual teacher, I
can only say that as usual --- and as almost everything in life--- it all
depends on the individual situation.
If the child is mature and ready
for first grade, go for it. No purpose in holding back.
My especial concern is for some boys, and for children born late in the
year (August thru December)."
06/6/2011:
"I made that decision many years ago for my now 17 yr old.. he was a late
summer birthday July 31, I could have put him straight into kinder or
pre-K.. having had many friends that are Teachers, the decision was EASY..
let him EXCELL and be the oldest in the class, rather than put him in the
bottom always struggling to keep uop with the older kids.. it is ALWAYS a
better decision to have them be at the top! He is now going to be going
into his Senior year, he has won scholar awards every single year, he
excells as an athelete and is looking at dual scholarships already being
scouted by colleges! So dont doubt for a second that holding your kid
back for ANY reason is a bad thing.. it will be the best for the kid to
let him shine!!! I promise!"
05/31/2011:
"Excellent article. I too struggled with a slow learner although sometimes
her stubborn attitude was the basis for the problem which was solved
somewhat by a well written IEP and a after school tutorial program. She
didn't want to ask for help so pretended to know the work. Some teachers
soon recognize this pattern but some others don't either notice or don't
bother to pay attention until the child is faced with problems they can't
solve. It is not alway easy to raise your hand and ask for help. Soe
dedicated teachers who really want children to succeed with go the
distance and encourage additional study periods (lunchtime coachesºto
help bridge the gap."
05/31/2011:
"I have a little brother who is 5 and going to be 6 in july. He is a year
above academically, but a year behind socially. At this point what do you
do? do you have him repeat the grade because hes behind socially, but what
about his academics? so then do we keep him in the class? or do we promote
him and pray his social skills catch up?"
05/31/2011:
"My second child has a Nov birthday. We had him do 2 years in Kindergarten.
When he got to 2nd grade, there were 6 kids he started school with, some
did 2 years in K and some did 2 years in 1st grade. I tell parents to
remember WHO the parent is. YOU!
He is nothing like this article states. He finished school, DIDN'T get
into drugs, NEVER got arrested, never been on welfare... He is the father
of 3 and the Superintendent of a Landscape company.
You can't just send your kids to school and leave it ALL up to the
teachers! Being an involved parent and knowing your child is what MORE
parents need to do.
"
05/26/2011:
"Continuing to promote a child before a firm foundation is established
creates a shaky learning structure that is bound to topple eventually. By
then, its too late to go back to fix it. These children barely make it
through 5th grade and suffer low self-esteem in Middle School when they
are in a delicate developmental stage that depends on keeping up with the
achievements of their peers. You are not doing any emotional favor for
your child in the long run."
05/24/2011:
"My child was in third grade twice. Once in a Charter School and then again
in a regular public school. We chose to do this because we were moving
states and the cut off date made her younger than everyone else in the
fourth grade she was moving to. (Age appropriate placement) We talked to
her about the decision and she was definitely part of the process and
outcome! We felt it would be good for her to be placed age appropriately
and have the chance to learn how to function in the non-charter classroom.
What we didn't realize was how much the repeated year would help her in
other ways. Our daughter became more socially confident, developed amazing
leadership skills and her learning processes had the chance to solidify.
She is now a Junior in high school with nearly all A's in middle and high
school classes. She is a peer leader and a incredibly active and involved
person, in school and in the community. That extra year of creating
confidence was the greatest thing we could have done for her!"
05/23/2011:
"Nothing in mentioned about holding kids back a grade for athletics. I hear
a lot of parents doing that, so they can do good at sports, such as
baseball."
05/23/2011:
" I comlpetely agree. Instead of bringing that student up to grade level
they perfere to hold students back. I think if a teacher is not qualified
to preform her duties as a teacher, then maybe the fault is ours for
allowing ill trained teachers to teach our children. Is it the students
fault? or ours. The school system in urban communities has been failing
for years. Its about time we all do something about it, becase no one
suffers more than our students' and their future, as well as our own."
05/23/2011:
"We held one of our children back due to being ambidextrious and needing
more time to work on fine motor skills. Other than that, he tests 'high'
for intelligence. According to research from your article, he should be
failing or behind his peers still. He's faired very well! Your article
is slanted very negatively towards holding children back. If you're a
parent of a boy child looking for more research and information, read the
book 'Why Boys Fail'. This gives much more information and helped us make
the right decision for our child. Don't discount your own 'gut' and your
attitude to help your child succeed.
I didn't find this article helpful."
05/23/2011:
"This article never addresses if the school has programs set up or
assistants in the class room to help kids who are struggling. Also, there
are a number of different approaches that can/should be taken to help a
child that is struggling. Why wouldn't these have been offered vs holding
a child back. I think this is an easy way out. It makes it appear as
though the child failed and really the teacher failed as well."
05/23/2011:
"I made the decision to hold my son back this past year. He moved to a new
school, with smaller class sizes, and repeated 1st grade. The school year
is almost over and I am so happy I made the decision. He is not as
stressed, much more confident, and loves school again. I don't agree with
these blanket statements being made about holding a child back. A child is
not failing 1st grade...they are learning and every child learns at a
different pace. To say holding a child back will land him in prison is
ridiculous. My son will be a better learner and a better adult because of
this decision. Each parent should be involved in their child's life in and
out of school. Talk with the teachers, take advantage of the programs
available, and make sure the school your child is at is the right fit for
them. Just because a school looks good on paper it may not be the right
fit for your child."
05/23/2011:
"The question as to why there are so many students in their teens who can
hardly read has to be addressed. When they are not able to read at grade
level in grade one what happens to them when promoted to primary two? How
does one expect them to read at grade 2 level when they do not know their
ABC. There is an interesting article here on this:
http://www.parentingdyslexia.com/2010/03/my-first-student-john.html"
05/23/2011:
"I have been observing the classroom behavior and academics in children who
were retained, these tend to be problematic; instead of retaining them,
they should use various methods for learning styles, then, tutored
according to the learning style to start a success pattern to encourage
more effort in the students."
05/23/2011:
"My son went to a charter school when he was 3 because the public school
system did not accept him at that age for Pre-K since he would not turn 4
by their mandated date. I asked the charter school to put him in pre-k 3,
instead they put him in pre-k 4 and at the end of that year (2009-2010)
there was a promotion to kingergarten. This past school year (2010-2011)
he attended the public school and was placed in pre-k and next year he
will be in kindergarten. He is one year behind the classmates from the
charter school but I believe he is a stronger student for it. He is a much
stronger student this year than last time and I truly believe he is ready
for kindergarten this coming school year. I felt the charter school would
have pushed him along without all of the proper tools he needed to thrive
in Kindergarten. I have to other children older than him so I knew what to
look for in achievments at that level."