My Kindergartner Doesn't Apply Himself
By Dr. Stacie Bunning, clinical psychologist
My kindergartner is very bright. His teacher thinks he should be tested for gifted status. The problem is he hates to work and does not apply himself. He is reading well beyond kindergarten level and loves to read multiple books with me in the evening. Yet in the classroom, he won't go to the reading corner and read a book by himself. He makes excuses and finds other things to do when it comes time to do the little amount of homework he has. His teacher says he doesn't go out of his way to learn new things, but he grasps new subjects instantly when taught, and he's aced all the tests and analyses they've administered. He's been asked to help the other kids who haven't quite grasped the alphabet or beginning reading skills, but he won't make the effort to do that either. How can I motivate him?
Schools usually have specific goals for each grade, many of which involve core academics (reading, writing, mathematics, science, social studies, etc.). Of course, kindergarten is no exception. With regard to academics, it sounds like your son is doing very well indeed! Since his teacher recommended that he be tested for gifted programming, talk with her about how to have him evaluated. Then school personnel can provide guidance regarding the most appropriate programming for your son in the coming years.
Keep in mind that, aside from academics, there are many other important goals for the kindergarten year. These goals involve nonacademic areas such as listening, paying attention, following directions, socializing and cooperating. It's not unusual for a kindergartner, who is still adjusting to being in school, to have difficulties in some or all of these areas, and such may be the case for your son. Since he is bright, he might be completing his work more quickly than other students, and he might be unclear about what to do when he's finished. Although having him help other students learn was a nice idea, it clearly doesn't interest him and neither does reading quietly in the classroom. Work with his teacher to find other ways to motivate him during downtime.
Finally, the problems you described with homework time are also not unusual in a child this age. After all, he's never had to do homework before. He may be very bright, but he's still young and will need your help with organization for several more years. A few simple rules and some structure can put an end to homework difficulties. Be positive, set a specific time, make sure he has a quiet, well-lit place and ensure that he has the materials he needs. Be available and offer limited guidance when he asks for help, but try not to stay engaged for long. Making excuses and finding other things to do at homework time should not be tolerated. If you impose a consequence when he makes excuses, his behavior will change after a time or two. After he's done with his homework, reinforce his positive behavior by reading books together, which you know he enjoys.
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