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Should I just stick to regular high school or take online high school classes for free?


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kid123 June 26, 2010


First of all I do not fit in with anyone at school I have no friends and I try to make friends but nobody likes me. Second thing my teachers are very bad I almost failed all of my classes because of their stupidity. I asked for help and they refuse to help me but they help other people. Plus at my school it's boring because they have a very boring class list so I get bored with my classes and they have nothing interesting probably drama is the only interesting class for me there. And for the first two weeks of summer I started to take free online classes and I learned a lot more than I did in regular high school with the same stuff that they were supposed to teach me there. Everyone there is addicted to caffine which bothers me a lot I want to go to school to learn and not to see a teacher drink caffine all day long and the classroom stinking because of that. I just think that online school is better for me. Plus I looked at schools and they have very exciting classes that I actually want to take. Sorry this is long but can you please help me? My parents want me to go to regular school anyways no matter what. Oh yeah they made me pay for a book that we were supposed to keep in the classroom but someone stole the book out of the classroom even though they weren't allowed to leave.

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chrisjoshandy June 27, 2010


I think that if you were to have a "real" talk with your parents and explain to them how you really feel, then maybe you can make them see why you feel that taking online classes is the best for your education. I believe that while online classes do help you to feel more comfortable at home, I don't think they offer a "certified" High School Diploma, maybe you should check that first (just in case). And just a little bit of advice, before anyone else like you, you need and must love and like yourself first. Be patient because sometimes is better to be alone than with someone who doesn't apreciate you for who you are. Maybe you are not popular now, but maybe that is because a real friend is coming to you soon :) Best luck!

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tjlove June 28, 2010


Hi kid123,

Your post brought back some painful memories of being in school and not fitting in. I know how tough it can be and how it can feel like nobody understands you-- especially your parents. I think it's really important to not give up. Being in school and around people you don't necessarily relate to prepares you for the bigger world. There will always be situations in life where you feel you don't fit in. This is where self confidence comes in. If you know you are being the best person you can be every single day then it won't matter what other people think. From your post it sounds like you are not all that tolerant of the people around you, teachers included. I wonder if perhaps your classmates think you don't like them?

Online schools are becoming more and more popular. GreatSchools recently did an article on the subject. You can read it here: http://www.greatschools.org/students/media-kids/slideshows/why-online-education-is-taking-off.gs?content=2080

If you really truly believe online ed. is the best fit for you and you are considering it for the right reasons, have a serious conversation with you parents about it. Bring them a pros and cons list to show them you have spent some time thinking about it. I wish the best for you and hope you have an easier time next year!

TJ

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BlueprintEd July 1, 2010


Be sure to do your research before you make such a big decision. Online learning is definitely not for everyone! You will need to take a close look at your time management skills, as well as your own motivation and self discipline.

You will also want to be sure to look very closely at the school you are considering. You will want to make sure that the school is accredited and offers an accredited high school diploma through one of the main accreditation agencies. This will assure that your diploma will be recognized by colleges and universities. You will also want to check out the student satisfaction of the school, as well as whether or not the school has been operation for awhile.

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mercurtio July 7, 2010


My daughter made that choice. She later told me to tell all my students (yes, I'm a teacher) that it was no fun. She didn't have the self discipline to schedule her time, she didn't get the help she needed at all, as she is a visual learner. She learns by seeing it done. She also lost contact with the friends she had (she had more than she realized) because she didn't have anything in common with them anymore. Her advice, stay in school, do what you have to to survive, realize it will be over and you will have your degree, ask for help in a different way. As a teacher I recommend to ask your parents to advocate for you. If you truly need help and don't feel you are getting it, start by asking the teacher in private to help you when you give a prearranged signal (scratching your nose for example)and then try to do the task by yourself first. Then ask for help with the signal. If that doesn't work, ask your parent to go with you, meet with counselors, etc. Do you have learning differences? I have known high school students who had unidentified learning differences that benefited from special ed services. Your parent will have to ask for that screening. And I need to tell you that teachers are human too and if you go into their classroom treating them like you don't like them, they will have a harder time hearing you. My students ask for mints or offer me one, I try not to drink coffee because I KNOW how bad that breath is! Good luck, and keep trying.

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MartinMom July 7, 2010


I have signed my son up for online school this upcoming year. He had some similar experiences. I feel like some kids just get lost in big high schools. It sounds like you actually enjoy drama, though, and you might regret giving that aspect of regular high school up. Then again, you might enjoy a year of online school too. The deal my son and I have is that he will do online school for a year, we will see how he does and how he tests at the end of the year, then we will re-evaluate if he will return to regular high school or continue with online education. It sounds like your parents are pretty against the online school thing - maybe you can compromise and try a charter school for a year (they are state funded, so it's like private school for free, not online, but maybe better than where you are now.) If you do end up staying in public school, try joining the drama club and get VERY involved with it. It might help make the rest of school bearable, plus, you will get to know your drama teacher better and he/she might be able to help you out when things happen that are out of your control (like the book disapprearing). Also, I suggest showing your parents this post and the replys, it might help open a dialogue about options for you for next year.

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onegoodtopcat July 7, 2010


kid123
If you are seriously considering an online school, you will need to do your research and talk in detail with your parents. Some are free and some charge tuition. Prices can vary. There are pros and cons. You will need to learn how to navigate through the school's courses. Your time management and motivation will be key. Don't assume it will be a breeze. There can be a lot of written assignments, journals and open book exams are not always easy. Programs can vary from school to school. Most have some type of course demonstration on line so your can see what they are like. It is important to maintain activities to work on interaction with peers and social skills.
My son is a highschool junior and is enrolled in an online school, Keystone Highschool. > www.keystonehighschool.com< It is fully accredited by one of the main accrediting agencies and offers an independant highschool program online and a correspondence program. Students are nationwide and from other countries. You can earn an accredited highschool diploma. Counselors assist with any transfer credits you may have and determine which credits are needed for graduation. There are clubs, discussion boards and activities you can join. They also offer courses for elementary school students. The tuition is affordable with payment options. Some schools cost more, some less. Your time is flexible, but you must commit. This is NOT an ad for Keystone. We did a lot of research before selecting this school. You and your parents need to know that there are other options. Sometimes we have to think outside the box and go with what works!...Good Luck.

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knitpunk July 7, 2010


Kid123--
I feel your pain: high school can be rough. But, it's also a great place to develop important social skills like cooperation, teamwork, and coping--even with people you may not like. If you're having trouble in class and you need extra help, maybe your school offers some extra help beyond what teachers can provide in a classroom. Or maybe your parents would be agreeable to finding you some tutors--local colleges are good sources for that. I also think it's important for you to realize that you often are required (in school, and later, at work) to do things you're not so interested in. When you're working, you rarely get the chance to *choose* what you feel like doing. And perhaps more importantly, when you're in high school, your perspective can be limited--it's hard to know now what you'll be interested in tomorrow or next month, much less next year or in 10 years. This is not the time to deprive yourself of the opportunity to stretch your mind by learning about things you didn't think you were interested in knowing. You have your entire adulthood to have a closed mind (if you're that kind of person)! Lastly, while I understand your frustration, I urge you to re-read your post objectively if you can: you seem to spend a lot of time blaming others for your situation and disliking the people and things around you. Maybe you could re-frame your thinking a little so you have a more positive attitude--people respond to negativity with their own negativity.
-kp
PS - if someone had told me when I was in high school that I'd have a great career that involves science AND math, I'd have laughed at them. 20 years later, it turns out that they were a good foundation, I am actually grateful for those classes I *had* to take in high school and college. You just never know where life will take you. Good luck.

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Cottagekitty July 7, 2010


Kid123,
High school is more than just learning stuff from books. It's also social skills. We ALL need to learn how to put up with others that we don't like to get by. When you get a job it's the same thing. High school is your job right now. Just find something - ANYTHING that you enjoy and do that for now. Learning how to deal with other people can be just as important as books. A cousin of mine had a 4.0 (+ honors) in high school and was NEVER social. Now he STILL lives with Mommy and Daddy and he's 35 years old. He never developed socially, never went on dates, gained a TON of weight because of it, but on the bright side he can beat anyone in the world at WOW. Pretty sad if you ask me.

My 15 year old son is going through the same thing as you are. I tell him the same thing, but I also gave him a calendar to count the days until graduation. That way you can actually see it's not forever, it just feels like it. Also, join a club - any club that you might like. Try out a few. If nothing works out - YOU MAKE ONE that you like. Social outcast? Make them go to you. You are the kewl one, they just don't know it. Drama, art, and music are GREAT for that. Be the funky/creative outsider in school and soon others will follow.

Trust me, all this is better than sitting around the house all day doing nothing but starring at a computer screen and books. Also, now is the time to go talk to the teachers. They don't go to you anymore. You have to go to them. This time is what you make of it, so if you need help go talk to them. They will know what to do.

Anyway, good luck and best wishes.

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arlenec July 7, 2010


You are in a lot of pain. No doubt about that. You have come up with a solution which, to you, seems viable. There have been some good suggestions by others; some have agreed that you should try on-line classes, others encourage you to stick with school. What to do?

You are not alone although you believe you are. It is part of the teenage condition. While it may appear to you that everyone else is happy, everyone else gets the help they need, everyone else is okay, I have learned from my classmates, many years later, that most of us were hurting. We just didn't want anyone else to know so we hid it from one another. Yes, some kids are prettier, or more handsome, some are athletically or musically talented. Some are gifted students. Some make friends easily. But, then, there's the rest of us. Hurting.

Dropping out of school and going the on-line route is a huge step. Doing so will not help you learn how to make friends, ask for help, or learn how to get along with others. These are skills that you will need in just about any job you can imagine. If you can't do it now, you won't be able to do it in a job. It isn't magical or something that comes to you with maturity. Those are practiced skills. They can be learned, but not in a vacuum. You have to be among others to learn the skills. Studies have shown that people don't lose jobs because they are not good at the job; they lose their jobs because they can't get along, they aren't team players, they don't cooperate. Again, one doesn't learn these skills on-line.

Before you take this huge step, you should ask yourself some questions:
1. Are you a self-disciplined person? The question is not, do you want to be a self-disciplined person? Have you already proven a high level of organization, drive, and patience? If you have, you might be successful with on-line courses. If you are not, chances are pretty good that you won't be successful. Do you take on projects and complete them in a reasonable length of time? Or, are you a procrastinator?
2. What kind of learner are you? Do you enjoy reading and learning by reading? For some courses, "hands on" is critical, like science courses. Reading about dissecting a frog, even seeing a picture, does not give you the same learning opportunity as actually dissecting it yourself. Hearing others points of view and perspectives is essential to developing a critical mind.
3. It sounds like you are creative as evidenced by the one course you enjoy at school-drama. On-line courses do not offer opportunities for creativity. How will you express yourself creativity? How will you learn about creativity?
4. Do you have other social outlets, such as church or clubs? One of the missions of an education is to develop good citizens. Citizens work together to solve problems.

You make broad statements-no friends, all teachers are bad, they all drink coffee, no one will help you. This is probably the most disturbing of your statements. It is also the most revealing. You need help. Today, all schools are focused on the success of their students. If you are not successful, they are not successful. Most people who become teachers score very high on the "helping" scale. They want to help. Yes, some are jerks, just like there are some doctor, lawyer, and Indian chief jerks. But, if you make the effort and reveal yourself to them, you will find those who enjoy kids and enjoy seeing them successful. Tolerating the other ones is just a bitter pill to swallow.

You must sit down with your parents and let them know about your problems. Don't go into it with demands, such as demanding that you be able to do on-line classes. Seek help from the people who love you the most and want you to be successful and happy. Your parents. If not your parents, find someone else. They are there. People from the most miserable, horrible situations have turned their lives around because of the help of one person. Look for that person. Maybe it is the drama teacher who can help you, lead you to other helpful people in the school.

Teachers and counselors do help students. If they are not helping you, your parents can be your advocates for making it happen. Ask them to go with you to talk to your counselor. Ask them to follow up when suggestions are made and a plan is established. Perhaps you could take one on-line course a semester and finish school a year in advance. Be ready to compromise.

If you need help getting started--and, I suggest you start with being honest with your parents--copy your post and the replies. Ask them to read this and, then, ask them to sit down and talk with you after they have had a chance to process it. Listen to them. Take a deep breath. Most parents want their kids happiness and success.

I wish you well.


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betmoo7 July 7, 2010


To bad we cannot click our fingers, and you're there in the utopia that you might wish for. Try to find that one special thing that you like about your school building, a teacher, a peer. Every day, try to find something positive about your school. You might begin by sitting down with your parents and discussing the positives as well as the negatives, together make a list of both positives and negatives. Being alone is being alone. School should be fun, if not all of it. Try to make friends with just one person at a time. I am not sure if you could go to school part time and study some classes via computer. Might be an idea. Snap out of being alone. Humans need to socialize.

Good Luck.

look on the bright side.

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