Why Can't My Child Do Her Homework on Her Own?

Answer:

By second grade, children are in their third year of school and probably their third year of having some sort of homework to do at night. Thus, it's understandable that you would hope for your daughter to initiate and complete her assignments without prompting from you.

Unfortunately, although it's understandable, it's probably not realistic. Even though she's bright and capable, she's still pretty young and will need you to help her get organized for several more years. She certainly seems to be telling you that with her behavior! Here are some tips for making the homework process less stressful for you both:

• Be positive. If homework has become a battleground, change the dynamic. The attitude you demonstrate about homework will be the attitude your child acquires.
• Choose a set time. Children thrive on routine, so homework should be done at the same time every day. If possible, allow her a little "down time" after school to play or have a snack before getting started, but then get things rolling.
• Make sure she has a quiet, well-lit place to work. Whether it's in her room, or at the kitchen table, be sure to turn off music or the TV and minimize other distractions as much as possible.
• Ensure that she has the materials she needs. Having paper, pencils, crayons, etc. on hand will ensure that work gets done and she doesn't have the opportunity to stall by scrambling for supplies.
• When she asks for help, provide limited guidance, but not answers. Too much help teaches your child that when the going gets rough, someone will do the work for her. Be mindful of unnecessary requests that keep you involved too often or too long.
• Watch for signs of frustration. Let your child take a short break if she is having trouble.
• Reward progress. If your child has been successful in homework completion, celebrate her success (e.g., praise, stickers, taking a walk or playing a game together) to reinforce the positive effort.