"This is me. I am supposed to be doing my homework now, but reading
articles about how people get to much homework/don't do their homework is
better! The biggest problem for high schoolers: FACEBOOK."
"I am delighted to have found this article. Just today I brought my report
card home with disgusting grades on it. I am very mad with myself for the
amount on disorganized procrastination I have been letting myself get away
with, but my parents gave me a nice big reality slap to bring the water to
my eyes. till the next report card (three months) I am banned from all
artistic and creative activities that are not directly school related. I
am no longer allowed to do anything other than school, girl scouts,
homework, extra curricular work, chores, eat, sleep... The next series
will be something along the lines of living in the basement, no
extracurricular activities, just homework and staring at the wall,
twiddling thumbs... which is just great and definitely enough stick, but
for three months, Crazy! I love school and teachers but ths is a bit much."
"I liked this topic and I can relate. I have a seven year old. He told me
just this evening, 'I'm not going to college.' Wow!! That was my instant
reaction (in my brain).
I simply responded, 'As you get older you will realize the importance of
school. Learning and making friendships are part of life. Be positive.'
I feel guilty when my son struggles with assignments.
I will put into practice what I read in this article.
"My daughter had the same problem. I started taking her to the library to
homework help center. She usually would take 6 hours to complete her
homework. Now, she only takes about 1-2hrs to complete her work with the
help of a tutor in the homework center. The best part of it, it's free!"
"this is a common problem today....the parents now need to know who and
what the obstacles are...the computer, TV, electronic devices...when not
supervised....really distracts the child and it makes the kids very
difficult to concentrate....
I would suggest to the parents to take control over these devices and
stick to the family rules ...and make sure to involve the dads...who has
more authority with the children....
we all need knowledge, wisdom, and the grace to educate our children....
change the environment around the home, like take the computer out of the
children's room, make plans to do something outdoor or sports on the week
ends...together as a family.....
there is no one answer and no one phychiatrist can do magic to your
the parents and loving and caring family has to work together.....
"This article was very helpful! I think my son has this problem, but I am
going to use some of these tips when it comes to homework time.
"I like how you wrote about a person who stuggled. It makes it a lot more
"With my son, his teacher let him bring home his entry task and he does
that in the am before school. We found also that doing homework and
studying in the am
is refreshing, because everyone is refreshed from a good sleep. If he is
tired, hungry, upset about something that happened at school, or has
basketball to go to. It is overwhelming in the evenings sometimes."
"There is no organization in school system. Even teachers do not know what is
to be organized. Kids should have a lot of homework through elementary
school, middle school and high school. They should be busy after school. If
they donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t have something to occupy them they are going to go on wrong
track. If they have enough homework to occupy them after school they will
not have time to think about other bad things to do. In schools there is no
respect between teachers and students. Nobody knows who is teacher and who
is student. Disaster! Kids are not to blame it is adults, teachers mostly. I
went to school in Europe my mother did not know that I went to school. She
helped me sometimes with harder stuff but in general I did everything on my
own and with teachers. If child has difficulty doing some things in school
teachers as fast as they can they label child with disability. System made
so easy for teachers to put blame on children. Children spend 8 hours in
school every day!
with teachers not with parents. So who is to blame for all this
educational mess are TEACHERS!!!!"
"Puh-LEEZ! When are we going to stop making excuses and mollycoddling
America's kids? An 11 year old should have enough discipline to come home
from school and start doing homework if they need to. As a nation, we
continue to wonder why we're behind other countries, and the gap is
growing larger. Perhaps, it's because culturally folks in other countries
teach their kids discipline and responsibility."
"It sounds like she may overwhelmed with so much homework. Try helping
organizing her subjects by color coding them red for science blue for
English and so on. Have her prioritize what she should do first. Try
having her exercise. Exercise calms the body in a positive way. What about
rewards for getting her homework done? Children need motivation and
rewards for their efforts. School should be fun and not a struggle. Find
ways that you can make doing homework fun. Let her do one subject for
fifteen minutes and then try again. You may try having a tutor or
homework helper assist her until she feel confident in doing her homework
"My daughter (4th grader) attends a school that has no Ã¢â‚¬Å“Homework policyÃ¢â‚¬Â�.
The school started this policy after parents complaining about their kids
spending too much time doing homework! ItÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s true the kids are more
relaxed, too much to my opinion! I still make my kids do homework: I ask the
teacher to give me special package or browse the net and print some! This
does not mean that my daughter is not distracted or disorganized! All the
opposite and it is worst with assignments and projects! But someone has to
teach her how to manage her time, and that someone is me, because I can not
count all the time on the school. IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m a full time working mom, and donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t
make home till six but my kids know what IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m expecting them to do while at
the after school program: have their reading completed, and a specified
portion of their homework done, we have an agreement to leave out all the
difficult part till we get home so my husband or I can help!
Parents complain a lot! No wonder education here is at the bottom!
I come from a third word country where children attend school from 8:00 to
17:00, 5 Ã‚Â½ days a week and we always come home with ton of homework, we had
homework even for the weekend and the holiday!
If a kid is able to sit on a computer game for hours without complaining or
loosing concentration, sure he can sit for an hour or so to do his homework!
The kid behaves that way because of the parentÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s attitude, not because he
is not able to!
"I don't see a real solution here. If the parents don't help, who will? I
don't work at home and try to help my son, but it's like he's never
learned it before! I feel that the teacher is going to fast for him and
several others in his class. She admits going fast to try and get through
a couple of months early in order to teach the test. I've talked to the
principal and she's more interested in this teachers high test scores from
last year. It's too fast for my son and he's really not learning anything
and is getting F's for the first in his school years. He's in the 5th
grade. I've thought of Homeschooling him but I don't feel like I'm up to
it. What can I do? What are my rights here? Aren't they obligated to
actually TEACH my son? I don't think Failing him is the answer, he's a
smart guy but immature. He likes school and can't explain what's going on
"This is all good advice but it touched only briefly on a real issue:
mother-daughter power struggles. I have two great girls but I found that I
simply could not work with them, particularly my tween daughter, on
homework without getting into arguments. Another person, either a tutor or
another relative, might be able to help in this situation."
"I read this article and was surprised that nowhere did I see anything
about what this child experiences in her classroom every day. Has she ever
been taught how to study? Is her classroom filled with distractions that
make it difficult for her to concentrate on her work? Instead of always
looking for a learning disability or looking at her home environment,
let's look at what kind of training she has received. Today's classrooms
are filled with distractions. To her parents, I would say go and spend
some time sitting in her classroom. I met a mother who did just that.
She spent two months sitting in her child's classroom and discovered that
her child didn't have a learning disability at all. The so called
'professionals' never look inwardly at themselves or their teaching
methods. It is much easier and convenient to blame the child or her
"It does seem as if this is somewhat more than ordinary homework pain but
this 'scattershot syndrome' is increasingly common. Every source points
out the same reality - homework has been on the rise. At what point is
more homework being assigned than some children can get done?
If a doctor gives out the same pill in the same dose to 25 different
children - even for the same illness - it's the wrong thing to do. Some
children might be allergic to that medication. Other children will have a
history that demonstrates they don't respond to the medication. The same
dose to many different children ignores their differing body weights. In
short, doctors don't work that way.
But teachers do. They give out the same assignment to an entire class but
that single assignment won't be the right one for every student in their
room. For some, it will be too much. And for others, they might have
forgotten the assignment by the time they reach home.
Just as every child has their own medical profile and their own medical
needs, children have their own learning profile but too often we ignore
the very real learning needs their learning profile would suggest to us.
The child in this article now has several subjects. To be successful in
modern middle school requires significant organization. Not every middle
schooler is developmentally ready to juggle folders, binders and textbooks
for many different subjects and to sit down every evening - and sometimes
for hours - to patiently wend their way through homework.
Indeed, rarely do teachers coordinate with each other on their daily
assignments. Students can have several projects going on at once on top of
nightly homework and upcoming tests. Some parents who try to help find
themselves overwhelmed with the homework and wonder how any child or
teenager can do it.
The article suggests it's a bit of a mystery as to why this child
struggles with homework. Being home alone doesn't help though it can't
always be avoided. Children at home alone may not have the self-discipline
to engage the lonely and frustrating task of homework.
In the better world, this parent should be able to share with her child's
team of teachers that indeed her daughter is home alone and is struggling
with homework. In the better school, the team of teachers would respond
with an individualized plan for Abriana that takes into account that she
is not well-organized or supervised when she does her homework. Indeed, a
'homework free' school track is worthy of thought for those children who
can do school but who can't do homework."
"This is another example of psychiatry simply trying to make a 'syndrome'
out of everything and take responsibility away from the person. ('It's not
their fault' mentality.) How about removing the stimulants in the
environment that create this short attention span mentality. Try turning
off the T.V. entirely. How about eliminating the electronic games that
create short attention span. Try eliminating the excessive amounts of
sugar that the bulk of children receive. Try some parenting principles and
enforcement of disciplinary procedures. "
"I have the same struggle,but it also happens at school.she does not
complete the classwork.
While we do get the homework done, there is no time to study for Science."
"All of that talk and it comes down to the last paragraph. Kids and parents
shouldn't do homework together. some of my biggest Fights when i was
growing up was over homework. Homework in my opinion is pretty much a
nuisance. A person goes to school all day and then has to take work back
home with them. this causes burnout. If your job was a stock clerk in a
dept. store when you get off in the evening you don't go home and start
stocking shelves. You rest. "
"I understand what the parent and child are going through, my son, now 15
has the same problem. He is ESE, did not do well in 6th grade and half of
7th grade, I decided to homeschool him, he is doing way better, taking
classes online with FLVS, but still sometimes, it is still difficult to
work with him. He plans on going to high School, I just hope it works for
him, if not back to homeschooling, for I want the best for my child, and I
know high school is not easy, a lot of distractions."