Bruce Feiler on how not to nag

"How many times do I have to tell you to do that?" We all find ourselves nagging, but there's a way to stop, says happy family expert Bruce Feiler.
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The author of The Secrets of Happy Families admits that he and his wife have struggled with nagging his children over the years. But his research led him to a surprising, even counterintuitive, technique that helps motivate his daughters — without the prodding, hovering, and chidding (that rarely works anyway).

See Bruce Feiler’s advice on how parents and kids can get a little more r-e-s-p-e-c-t from each other.

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