Dweck explains why parents’ typical response to good grades, soccer goals, and other accomplishments doesn’t work — and what you should say instead.
Video transcript: "If a child comes home with a trophy or an A, we’ve almost been brainwashed to say, ‘You’re so smart, you’re so talented.’ It feels like it’s the highest accolade and will give the child pride and confidence; and years of our research shows: don’t do it! It makes them worried about not living up to it, it makes them stop growing. And instead, we need to say, ‘Wow, you put X, Y, and Z — hard work, persistence — into working on this subject or practicing that skill. And this is the reward you get for how good you became at it.’"