Richard Weissbourd: When your child asks, “Who do you love the most?”

Harvard University family psychologist Richard Weissbourd says before answering, ask this question to get to the heart of the matter.
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Here’s how 4 other parenting experts say to respond…


Jane Nelsen
Jane Nelsen, among the foremost leaders of the positive discipline movement, says you can answer by showing your child — with this demonstration — that there’s plenty of love to go around. Format: Article

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Christine Carter
It’s a loaded question that can leave a parent gobsmacked. Expert Christine Carter explains how she responds when her own kids demand an answer. Format: Video (1:29)

Adele Faber
When your child asks this question, says parenting guru Adele Faber, they don’t need to hear that they’re the favorite. Instead, reassure them this way. Format: Article

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