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Ten School Success Tips for Divorced Parents

These ten tips for school success for children of divorced parents come from GreatSchools readers and staff.

By GreatSchools Staff

1. Fill out all school forms with the contact information for both parents.

2. For parents of younger students, let the school know about your custody arrangements. Teachers in the early grades need to know where the child will be going for after-school care and where she will be doing her homework.

3. Request that the teacher be sensitive to the child and how they might feel different from the other children.

4. Request that the school send home two copies of all important announcements, classroom rosters/directories, etc, to ensure that both parents receive a copy.

5. Both parents should make every effort to attend school events and parent-teacher conferences.

6. Communicate with the other parent to ensure you both have the same information about upcoming projects, field trips, areas the child is feeling challenged, areas that need to be focused on, etc.

7. Communicate regularly with your child's teacher.

8. Keep supplies for homework at both houses.

9. Let your child know that school and homework is important to you.

10. Have your child email drafts of reports and projects to both parents' email addresses or to the child's email address if they have one.

Comments from readers

"we are going through a nasty divorce and i am of course the bad guy but really i was sami only person she could count on to get involed in school activesty. her dad will not let her do anything that has to do with marching band or anything else sami really needs her mother but her dad has her mind set as i am a very bad mother i love her with all my heart and miss her so much.i have not seen her in six months and i really need some help with this i have a phone for now but it will be shut off soon 881-6509 any thing you could do to help us through this rough time iwould really love it .thank you sandra adams "
"This was great advice, and a helpful topic that many might otherwise overlook. However, It is presented with the 'ideal' situation in mind - assuming that the parents'divorce still leaves room for both parents' involvement. Im wondering if you might take it a step further and discuss recovery from Domestic Violence and its affect on school children when one parent is necessarily removed from the picture altogether. This necessitates not only high stress for the single parent, but a plethora of issues including school security."
"I am a divorced military parent. Their are many of thease I can not do. My son is living with his father. He is in the 2nd grade on his way to the 3rd grade. He is having a lot of problems with school work. I am afrade if I don't do something soon he will end up failing a grade."