"Being Bullied in no JOKE!! We hear all the time about kids being bullied
at school. But how about our kids that are being bullied by teachers.
YES!! That`s right TEACHERS!! The Webster schools has the worste
teachers.If your child gets a teacher, and that teacher doesnt care for
the student. They can make your childs year a miserable place to be. My
daughter who is in the Webster Middle School hates going to school each
day. She cryes every day. She does not want to go to school. Because a
couple of her teachers are horrible to her. They put her in a star program
because they dont want to take the time to help her with her difficulties.
Our kids have a lot to deal with at school, especially peer preasure, Now
they have to be bullied by teachers as well. We must help our children. By
coeming together to fix this problem. BEING BULLIED BY TEACHERS!!!!!!!!!!!
"very good! my grandson continues to be bullied, he just started junior
high, it is affecting him in grades, self esteem and he has started
hurting himself, and doesn't want to go to school. I am so mad! it makes
me want to pray down vengeance upon that child, he is messing with my
grandchild's very soul!
""13. If your child is bullied with any regularity, the bullyÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s parents
must be told. Let the school handle it first. If they do not call the
parents, or if the bullying has not stopped, you need to call the parents."
I suggest that many many parents of bullys are also bullys, and direftly
contacting them "out of the blue" can be dangerous. If the school refuses
to contact them, then maybe it's time to contact law enforcement
authorities...it IS criminal behavior in most cases!
"These women are not idiots when they say that you should shut down your
account. They are only trying to help!!!
"We were told by the school counselor that the only way to protect our
child was to take him out of the school. They said they could not protect
him. They could not be with him every moment of every day. Much of the
bullying occurs in the classrooms and the lunchroom. The teachers see
nothing and the lunchroom monitor blames my child for everything that
happens to him. "What did you do to them to make them do that to you?",
she asked him one day. The principle, of course, said she must be
misunderstanding what's going on. It is rarely just one bully, so even if
you get rid of one, the rest come back with a vengence. As one bully told
a girl recently, "You may have gotten rid of one of us, but you can't get
rid of us all." 4 children (in the area, not the same school) have ended
their lives in the past 11 months due to bullying. 1 was a relative so
don't tell me it can get better. We will never recover from this.
"My son was bullied at River Oaks Middle School in District 2, in South
Carolina. The kid had his sister video tape him beating up my son, then he
posted it on you-tube. He took his phone to school the next day and showed
it to all of his friends. My son was tormented the entire day about it.
The kid got on my son's bus after school with a friend of his with the
intention of beating my son up again when they got off. He had a BB-gun
in his back-pack and was arrested by the SRO before the bus left the
school because he had bragged to the wrong kid during the day and the
annonymous kid told on him. I withdrew my son so he would not have to
deal with the taunting anymore, but the kid with the You-Tube video and
the BB-gun is now back at the same school only 2 weeks later with no
consequences. Wow, was I shocked. That kid rode his bike all the way
over to my house to let my son know that he did not get into any trouble
for any of it. I contacted the district office, but ne!
ver received any responce. I worked at a middle school in Kansas and
those kids would not be in another school for at least 6 months, if at
all. They would have been expelled.
"What about coaches who bully? We have experienced numerous occasions
where the behavior exhibited by coaches toward students/children and young
adults would never be tolerated in a classromm setting. What are parents
doing about this?
"My son was bullied for two years from middle school through high school.
One day, 11 boys decided to drive down our block searching for our house
to beat him up. Thank goodness I was home. I called the police and they
didn't show up and we stayed on the line with them. After 1/2 hour of them
calling my son on the cell phone taunting him to come out of the house, my
son told them the police were on there way. Well, the police didn't show
up till they left our block. It was pretty obvious that the police were
helping them then us. I called to press charges and the police didn't want
to file a report till I threaten him that if they won't doing somehing
about this I will have to protect my family myself whatever it takes.
After that he filed the charges. Good thing I did. The kids have
immediately stopped after I filed the complaint. Without puting something
in record, those boys would've continued. We also contacted the school
which was more helpful then the police. Good luck.
"What does the fact that the bully was small have to do with it? Bullies
come in all shapes and sizes, and all socioeconomic backgrounds. I was a
small kid who was bullied - physically and verbally - by bigger kids. My
experience is that it's usually the bigger kids who bully the smaller ones
and that the majority of teachers favor the bigger kids. There was a
small kid last year who was bullied, and the "big" principal did nothing
about it. There's this misconception that "bigger is better". Ever hear
the expression that parents tell their small girls: "Be thankful you're
not a boy!" Well, I hated hearing that when I was a kid but sadly, it's
so so true. As bad as it is being a small girl, it's worse for a boy.
Those poor boys, my heart goes out to them. No matter how hard they work,
no matter how successful they become, they'll always be the butt of jokes.
It's time for the teachers and administrators to get busy and stop
bullying. I'm so sick of hearing "well, !
you know, Johnny comes from a broken home" or whatever. No excuses for
bullying! Unfortunately the public schools are "legally obligated" to
educate these bullies. They can't kick 'em out. The teacher calls the
parents and the parents say "Not my little darling! Johnny is a nice boy,
he'd never do that." so the bullying continues. Meanwhile, these poor
kids who are the victims go through a living hell every day. No child or
adolescent should go through that. It goes on in the private schools too.
"I just dealt with this situation on behalf of my 15 year old. Two,
formerly, dear friends of hers decided to target her - through facebook,
email, texts, and classroom chatter, they used vulgarity and demaning
comments to try and destroy her self-esteem and friendships. The caused a
lot of hurt, distrust, and fear...What happened next? A very angry mom
emerged. I am not afraid to stand my ground and fight for what is right.
My daughter and I read up on our state's and local school districts "bully
& harassment policies" - we followed the steps - we have a wonderful high
school staff and faculty that took our concerns seriously and immediately
began working on the issue. Before they had a chance to do much, word got
around that my daughter had filed a formal "harassment" complaint. The
next day, "the instigator" announced she was transferring schools as a
result of the "drama". The other girl, "the supporter" is still there, but
I have a feeling she won't be much of a prob!
lem now...she really doesn't have the personal cleverness or the
intimidation to pull it off. She's a follower...a bully's cheerleader. I
am confident that this will begin to disipate, however, if it doesn't...we
know what steps to take next. HINT: if texting is the tool for verbal
harassment...remember, most phone companies allow you to forward your
texts to a personal email address - this allows you to print out every
destructive word that your child's tormentor uses - and gives you all the
proof you need to take action.
"When my son was in 5th grade another child tried to choke him. He came
home with 5 finger sized bruises on his neck. I called and complained. The
bully's mom worked in the office so they did not do anything. The next day
he was shoved down and bloodies his knee by the same child. I also found
out that this boy had choked another child. The next day i went into the
school and told his teacher that the next time that child started
something that my son was going to finish it. My son was a temperary black
belt. He was told to never use his karate at school by the instructer and
us, but i was not going to wait for something else to happen. Well, the
bully tried again. Imagine his suprise when he was laid out on the
playground a few times. The bullying stopped. Unforturetly not every child
is able to defend themselves. At his new school when he was in 9th grade
and a senior threatened to beat him up the senior was suspended for 3
months. Some schools are good at stopping bullying!
and others need to learn.
"Every time I go to an open house at school, I am reminded of parents who
are incredibly overprotective and obsessive about teachers giving their
children more attention than anyone else in the class. Have you every
stood there for five minutes at an open house while someone stands there
for impromptu parent-teacher meeting? I am afraid these parents who are
constantly directing teachers on how their children need to be managed and
taught in the classroom will be using the bully victim syndrome to call
more attention to their special offspring. Common sense needs to prevail
somewhere in the equation. Some of the notes mentioned in this book story
sound like a recipe to escalate problems rather than solving them.
"Tolerance, indeed tacit approval for bullying starts at the top. Our
schools are nothing more than microcosoms of the communities that they
serve and whole communities can be bullying communities, as we disovered.
Children learn what they live. Every Day. When adults finally model
strong, reasonable, grown-up behavior, maybe then our society can move on.
For the person who called these women "idiots," please, try to get a
number at the head of the line. Grow up. The world in NOT like when me and
my husband were kids (baby-boomers brought up by the 'great generation'
where aches & pains were rarely heeded and kids were directed to "fight
your own battles"). Whining is one thing. Living in fear and not being
able to focus on school work/issues is quite another. What we are
addresing is much more than fretting. There are many, many angry and hurt
people walking around looking to take their angst out on someone or
something. And like the lady said about not giving birth to her c!
hildren for someone to hurt them; likewise--we took two beautiful kids
out of the "state" system intending to love and nurture them, to help and
watch them grow--they both ended up as "special needs" with chronic, long
term, at times life- threatening illnesses. We didn't adopt these kids for
them to become dysfunctional kids' verbal or phsycial punching bags. The
bullies? Circled in droves. The teachers? Turned their heads. The school
administrators? Blamed the victims. The school psychogists? Got paid lots
of $$ to tell my kids to ignore the bullies because "Tomorrow's another
day." Too often, the vulnerability of kind, sweet, good kids become prey.
The authors are right. Parents--confront the bullies head on. Involve
schools, demand that the bully's parents be addressed. If YOU have to be
inconvenienced, then the BULLY'S parents should be likewise inconvenienced
and they can be expected to take time from work or home activities to
attend a sit-down session about little J!
anie or Johnnie's latest conquest. Involve the police if the s!
chool does not or will not support your child. We actually ended up in
juvenile court after the second girl bully assaulted my daughter (with a
port in her chest, no less) and my daughter retaliated. Print out all
online threats, harrassments, etc. and bring them to the police. In fact
document EVERYTHING. It doesn't matter that it's only your or your child's
point of view. It's highly unlikely that the bully will have documentation
to refute it. Only when the police and juvenile courts get tired of doing
the parents' and the school administrator's jobs and make noise about it
will bullying be really, finally dealt with.
My kids? One graduated from the "hell hole" and now attends community
college. The other has a rare liver disease and can no longer attend local
schools due to the toxic environment (chemical cleaners AND noxious peers,
administration). The attorney that we hired helped her achieve placement
in a safe school. The bullying has NEVER been fully addressed in either of
our kids' cases. The taste left by the school system and the community at
large is not a good one.
"You know what makes me sad about this article? It just perpetuates the
idea that if you're not a bully, you're a "victim." There is already such
a victim mentality in this country. I didn't count how many times I saw
the word, but it's a lot. And nowhere does it talk about a kid standing
up for himself or herself. Not all the information here is bad, but it's
a tough world out there and to some degree, our kids need to toughen up
just a bit. Not every stupid cruel thing a kid says is bullying, and
there's always going to be ugly people in the world. When you're in fear
for your physical safety or it follows you home, then yeah, parents and
adults have to step in. But I wouldn't expect the school, a politically
correct government agency, to give one whit about my kid. I know there
are real cases of bullying out there, but we're all just so quick to be
"This is a very good article. Now if school administrators would just
read. We finally left our school after our daughter was tortured for 2
years by one of the smallest little girls in class. The conflict
resolution is a TOTAL waste of time and thank you for pointing that out as
this is most school's first line of defense (and second and third). Not
even sure the community "anti bullying" campaigns are effective on self
focused self centered kids who are socio-pathic in nature...they do not
have the same sentiments as others. I will try to find your book. Am
bound to never let this happen again.
"We are all grownups teaching about how to behave to one another and in the
class room the real bullie are the Teachers... When is that going to
"Let me add that kids need to demand that their teachers be responsible for
repressing obvious disrespect from classmates.
Teachers must often bring uncooperative or "not on task" behavior to
students attention, but are then sometimes distracted by others who find
it necessary to comment or laugh at the student's reprimand by that
teacher. I then find it necessary to demand that the others mind their own
business, and keep their comments to themselves. Teachers need to be
aware of this and repress those who must "jump in" on a teachers' comments
to students not on task.
"This advice is nonsense. Sit back and record the incidences of bullying?!
Shut down YOUR account?! Terrible advice! No! You contact Facebook-- get
the bully's account shut down! Immediately inform the school! These women
"We had an instance last May where my petite 1st grader came home to tell
me that two girls, also in her grade (one that has at least 50 lbs on her
over my child) trapped my daughter between two tree's, forced her to "show
her privates" and then proceeded to force her to "kiss another girl". I
was at first in the mentality that kids will be kids, and then within'
hours my thoughts turned to "this is not acceptable behavior, I have to
act". I immediately wrote an email to the school principal and her
teacher. I also volunteered at the school 2+ days a week and was very
familiar with these girls that did the bullying. On a Sunday a day after
my email, I received a message from the principal, basically saying this
would be dealt with.
My daughter (6) then was scared to go to school, Said the bullies made her
"feel gross" I literally had to go with her each and every day to get her
to finish first grade. The school counselor got involved, the police got
involved, the juvenile district attorney got involved, the school district
psychologist was involve. I had teachers come to me and tell me how well I
was handling the situation and how "pissed" they would be if it were there
child. I replied with "I am pissed, but being pissed and angry won't help
my child, I have to stay grounded and strong for her". We worked very
hard all summer and after school started to get my daughter to learn to
stand up for herself, to advocate for herself. We have a very open
communication home, we talk through everything as a family. She still
attends the same school, but the principal has introduced my daughter to
many "safe" adults, given her permission to come to her or any other safe
people at any given time. They have seper!
ated the bullies away from my child, into two differnt class rooms. I
feel like they have worked hard to make a safe, healthy learning
envirnment for my child, but I know that they are short staffed and that
many instances are overlooked. I realize that bullying for older children
can be horrific. I want nothing more than bullying to stop! I wonder how
some parents can be oblivious to it. I monitor my, now 20 year old
daughters facebook to this day, I will not tolerate anyone being hurt,
picked on, bullied, offended. WE have taught our kids to have compassion,
accept differences in others, appreciate others differences, as they are
individuals. Find positives in everyone. I just wish others did the same.
I would homeschool in a heartbeat, or move my children to another school
if the harrassing actions/bullying didn't stop. I did not give birth to my
kids to see them hurt by anyone! My job as a parent is to guide them, help
them to be Happy, Healthy, Brilliant, Sucessful people, and will do
everything in my power to help them achieve that.
I also believe that keeping them involved in healthy activies, my girls
take dance classes, craft, take school very seriously, helps to provide
balance, keeps them around healthier, goal setting positive individuals.
At least I hope and pray that is the case :) I blame the homes that these
bullies in our case, come from. I think at six and seven years old that
this is learned behavior and it's sad. I hope for them that they get the
care they need in the process as well, maybe it will shed light on their
home lives. I pray that this doesn't happen to any other children. Ever!