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Management strategies for parents: AD/HD

Learn to help your child with AD/HD by using practical and meaningful strategies geared to his level of development and his symptoms.

By Brian Inglesby, M.A., L.E.P.

Supporting your child with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (AD/HD) at home can be very tiring. But to help your child succeed, you'll need to coach him daily. You'll find it's easier if you have a practical and meaningful plan geared to his level of development and his particular AD/HD symptoms.

General parenting tips

  • When developing a plan to help your child, you'll need to adjust the rules and consequences to your child's level of development. Many kids who have AD/HD behave as if they're much younger than their true age.
  • Explain to your child that you care about him and you'll do your best to understand what he's going through.
  • Show him how proud you are of his accomplishments with praise and affection. Catch him being good.
  • Set up a few clear rules and be consistent. Don't argue over small things. Say no less often, but mean it when you say it.
  • When giving your child directions or instructions, check for his understanding. Keep directions short.
  • Some kids with AD/HD have a hard time putting their thoughts in order. Ask "Who? What? Where? When? Why?" to help him think about and explain what's important.
  • Establish open lines of communication from a young age. Don't be afraid to talk to him about his strengths and needs and how AD/HD affects him. He should be brought into the loop so he can understand what AD/HD is and is not. Often kids misunderstand what's wrong with them when adults don't give them the facts.

Academic support at home

  • Set up a regular routine for homework. Try to schedule homework for the same time and place each day. If you involve your child in setting the schedule, he may be more cooperative in completing homework.
  • When he's working on homework, schedule regular breaks for activity every 10 or 15 minutes. Let him walk around, get a drink of water, or have a snack. Use a timer to monitor breaks and time spent working on homework. Often kids with AD/HD have difficulty managing time. They need to learn how to plan ahead and pace themselves.
  • Offer rewards for doing homework. Coordinate the program with his teacher. The goal is to lessen your direct supervision and gradually have him take responsibility for completing his work. His chances of success may be better if you propose a reward or consequence and follow through on it.
  • Give non-judgmental, constructive feedback. You might say, "I'm glad you started working on that paper. I'm looking forward to reviewing the first few paragraphs tomorrow," rather than "You haven't done a thing all week."
  • Organizing your child's homework might be the most difficult task to deal with. An assignment book or sheet that the teacher can sign may prevent confusion about assignments. If he forgets his materials or the assignment book at school or home, then consequences should be logical. For instance, have him return to school to get what he needs.

Behavioral support at home

  • Tell your child what you want him to do rather than what you don't want. For instance, say, "Please finish your math homework" rather than " Stop bothering your sister."
  • Prepare your child for any change in routine. Many kids with AD/HD don't take surprises or change very well. If you expect a change, review the rules, agree on a possible incentive or reward for good behavior, and clearly state the consequences for misbehaving.
  • Reinforce even small, positive changes in your child's behavior. As you help him realize the progress he is making, his motivation and self-confidence will increase.
  • If you need to cool off from a difficult moment with your child, find a friend or neighbor to watch him, even for 15 minutes. To take care of your child, you have to take care of yourself too.

Brian Inglesby, M.A., is a licensed educational psychologist who enjoys the challenges of working with students with a broad spectrum of learning issues. Of special interest to him is the opportunity to provide teachers, parents, and students with the ability to better understand and manage a student's unique learning profile.


Comments from GreatSchools.org readers

08/9/2010:
"Thanks for sharing your brilliant experience.The tips you have given is medically proved.These are followed by many parents for the betterment of their children.One thing is best that the parenting at home.It is not well to be rude on the children of add affected.This will make them more affected. Thanks. attention deficit disorder"
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