"Is it okay to Facebook with your child's teachers?
"To all parents who have isssues with the staff from schools which your
Alot of parents think that they can't do anything and are afraid to speak
up. Don't let the Principal, Secretary, Teachers, or even school aides
fool you! You as a parent have the power! School officials have no right
to tell you, you can't do this, you can't do that especially knowing that
they let other parents do it. Maybe because they speak up and they voice
out their opinion in what they believe is right and wrong.
Parents have RIGHTS!!! If you don't have a school "Parent Handbook"
request for one. Parents that have trouble with the school principal,
bring it up to the higher ups! They do have people that are higher than
them you know. File a complaint through the Board of Education, I would.
Do not be afraid of anyone in your child's school, when you show them that
your afraid, they will step all over you. Don't wait till something bad
happens because you might just end up somewhere you wouldn't want to be.
When my daughter was first grade, I wanted to meet with all her teachers.
Her language arts teacher, math teacher, and reading teacher. The first
and second teacher didn't have a problem with me staying in the room to
observe how they teach and observe how other students act in their class.
The last one though was a different story, her reading teacher. I walked
my daughter in class then I found an empty chair in the back of the room.
As I sat down, the first thing her reading teacher told me was "oh! Mommy,
you can wait outside for your child". She wanted me to wait till the
class was over! I responded with a "No, it's okay, I'll wait right here".
She was in shock. I guess because I'm the first parent that actually
disagreed with her wanting. She mention to me that she doesn't want her
students to be distracted. I told her, don't worry I'll help you out by
telling them to turn around.
Of course word got around and things go around among the school staff to
watch out for me. I was told by one of the school staff that I was
different from the rest of the parents. Now my daughter is 2nd grade, the
school that she attends knows me very well. When I do get down to walk
her to class, I get this "Good Morning, Mrs. I! Is everything okay?" or
"Is there a problem?" or even a "Haven't seen you in awhile!" Why? Because
any little thing I'm right on it. And you should be too.
My point is this: Take action now or forever complain to yourself or
other people. Put your complain on black and white and send it off to
Board of Education. SPEAK UP! BE HEARD! No one else is going to talk for
you. I'm not trying to be mean but you'll never learn if you keep it to
"Excellent advice and information."
"New York City Schools have Parent Coordinators.
Their job is to assist parents, encourage parent involvment and to support
student achievement. They help parents navigate the school system. They
are the best to contact first when you have a question or concern. "
"I wanted to take some goodie to my childs classroom for a holloween party
and the office staff mem. did not allow me to take the goodies myself.I
asked for a campus pass to take the party favors and was refussed to have
a pass.Another time my child had for got thier lunch box,so I took my
childs lunch box to the office and ask if I could have a pass to go on
campus and give the lunch to my childs teacher,and again was refussed a
campus pass.After the staff mem. had said no to me to have a pass,a parent
came in and asked for a pass to give thier childs homework to that
students teacher,which that parent was NOT refussed a pass.Then my child
started to be bullied on the playground durning resses.I desided to talk
to the principal about the problem,or if it would be a problem if I could
watch my child on the playground from the otherside of the fence to see
what was really happening to my child at resses,sence I had been refussed
a pass every time.He said it would be o.k. to do!
so,and when I did I got a phone call from the principal threating me
that if I talk to his student from the otherside of of the fence he was
going to call the cops.HOW SHOULD I HANDLE THIS PROBLEM W/OUT LOSSING MY
COOL???These are just a few things that have happened,these problems been
going on sence my child has been attending this school."
"I was living with my family for years and my child was attending the same public school for years. She is now in 11th grade. My family moved. I am told I can't continue to send my child to the same school since I don't live in the same public school district. If I continue to send her then I will have to pay over $10,000. To take her out of that school when she is so active would be to traumatic. What or who can help."
"i would like info as to if this school is connected with edline to review my child progerss online and to have connections to her teachers."
"I have a 10th grader whose has failed every subject the first two quarters. No one from the school has contacted me. What should I do or who should I call? "
"Not all teachers are great and not all teachers are bad teachers. The same goes for schools. Most teachers are glad for parental input when it comes to your child, however there are some who don't. It's hard to work with those who have a mindset in their manner of teaching a group of students as opposed to meeting the needs of your child. A certified letter to the school system will definitely get someone's attention. You are your child's advocate. It helps to go into a mtg. with your child's teachers with a good attitude. But nevertheless, know and have documented information about your child and know your rights as a parent and know the school's responsibilities for your child."
"A great teacher is one who will not tolerate bad behavior in class and actually calls the parent to explain the problem and also lets that parent come to that class with the child one day. This really works! Also she pays attention to those children who fall behind and she gets an older student to work with that child. "
"The article is good, as far as it goes. However, especially when dealing with some stronger issues, IE special education, bullying, harrassment, abuse, etc., complaints should ALWAYS be put into writing and sent via certified mail with a return postcard via the postal system. This provides documentation should a parent need to go beyond the school district's jurisdiction."
I strongly agree with your views regarding parental involvement in educating our own children. It is, through a conscientious awareness of their educational needs (both academic and social), that we must 'fill in the blanks' and bridge the gaps that span across the obvious, sometimes difficult gorges of life's questions and protocols. For those who rely solely upon the automatic, standard schedule of education, generally wind up with children with 'assembly line' qualities who often times fall short of yielding their full potential to society as well as their own personal success that eventually resurfaces down the road in their own sons and daughters. It takes little effort to utilize the 'Wash and Fold' offerings of our tax dollars these days. So if your feeling less than exhausted in tending to you child's educational needs, chances are your not doing enough.
Jeff Murphy, Gilbert Arizona
"Communication is not 'getting the anwer you want.' It is a discussion where the best interst of the child is what both parties are negotiating for. Simply complaining does not solve a problem.
"This article sounds like a bunch of grown-ups whining! The only problem I see with our schools today, is lack of parent support. I do not send my children to a classroom of 25+ students with one teacher in the room, expecting that teacher to educate my child alone. It is MY responsibility to be aware of my childrens strengths and weaknesses as their teachers and I both educate them together...we are a team! If I do not understand an assignment, I write a note to the teacher saying so, and ask him/her to explain it again to my child. Education is a joint effort, the failing students are the ones without parental help.
"Lafayette Parish High School: How can a parent
communicate with teachers and administration when phone calls are never
returned; or if you go to the school that person is not available at that
time and still you are not contacted. What of phone calls daily with
messages I'm still waiting on return phone calls and my oldest is 25 years
old and my youngest is now 18. How long must I wait.
"Here in Ascension Parish,Louisiana we have some of the greatest
schools and with those schools we have great teachers that are there for the
children.We thank them all.
They are willing to talk to children and the parents at any time before
school, during or after. We are growing all the time and are adding new
schools so our teachers don't have to worry about the overload of children
to each class and they can be more one on one if they need be.
"My child went berserk on medication in grade one. I have had
alot of experience working with teachers! My advice is to love them and
treat them as you would like to be treated. If you do this at all times
your course will be easier. Sometimes it is they that make mistakes and
need to be forgiven. Other times it is you. Value your partnership. Speak
gently. Take the time to listen. Consider the school as your 'broader
culture'. It most certainly does take a village to raise our children.
"keeping in contact with my child's teachers is someting that
will alays be first priority.children may not give all available information
about what's going on in school,particularly if there is a problem with
another student or if they need help with something they don't
understand.keping communication lines open between parents and
teachers,positive or negative,is essential to our children's success.i have
always felt more than comfortable talking to the teachers(and staff)at stony
brook school in rockaway.the principal and 5 or 6 other teachers stand out
front and greet the students when they get off the bus.they all know
everyone's name!it's truly amazing at the amount of dedication and support
from this school.i only wish that all schools could be like this one.
"I Chose to send my son to a private Middle School after he
completed a public Elementary
School. His public Elementary School had great ratings from their MSSAP
scores while his
next (not in my lifetime) public Middle School had terrible ratings. So off
he went to private
school. I would really like to find a way for our community to turn this
public school around
and to begin a strict educational w/disipline program. I'm afraid noone
will listen to me since
I gave in to the system and left without trying. Any suggestions?
"My husband and I were very skeptical about the public school
system, as my husband completed 12 years of schooling, and was unable to
read. Our skepticism disappeared with our first contact with San Andreas
Elementary School. Our daughter,a graduating
3rd grader,has excelled. I have accompanied her, daily, to school, for the
past 4 yrs, and find the teachers truly dedicated to the education of our
children in the community!
They are always available and encourage a true partnership between parents
and teachers. The Principal of the school knows each and every child by
name. How many schools can compare!
"I am very saddened right now about the quality of my daughter's
schools. I became aware in the first grade that the teachers were showing
favortism to a particular group of students. I tried to become involved and
was not accepted in their circle. Every time I went in to the school and
questioned something my daughter was treated worse. One teacher said, 'I'm
tired of you going home and telling your mother everything that goes on in
this school.' She is at the end of the third grade now and guess what? The
chosen children are going to the gifted program. I'm so discouraged, but
not giving up.
"The week before my 2nd grade daughter's holiday break the
children were given no homework and watched 6 videos in four days. One
of the videos they had watched in class was shown at night on a cable
station and my daughter asked if she could watch it, because they had
seen it at school. I was shocked at the inappropriate content and
turned off the TV! I called the principal and asked about the
frequeny/criteria for video watching at school. I asked the team
teacher if this was the best teaching material available to them and why
it was shown. Neither of them had answers, and I have been treated very
cooly since. I work in the classroom every other week and am the
homeroom parent. I do it for my daughter and for the other children in
the class. If you show me parents who are involved, I will show you
children who will succeed. I don't care if the teachers are upset that
I called them on their very poor judgement or not!
"What does a parent do when the same issues have been brought up
again and again, yet no resolution? I have been extremely active in the
school and district and frequently meet parents who feel the same as I.
Unfortunately many of them leave the school/district and what's left are
those students whose parents aren't involved or don't know that there are
problems. I don't want to jeopardize my child's progress by continuing to
press issues with the school.
"From, Califoria 1/24/03:
'I completely agree that althought the emphasis appears to be on feedback
and communication with your teacher and school staff,if the nature of
feedback is not positive, then you may feel the wrath of the community of
the school. Sadly, parents who truly are involved must hold back at times,
picking their complaints carefully, in order to keep their same good
standing and continue a good relationship with your teacher and school. I
have comfronted some teachers regarding relative issues, however, I continue
to show my appreciation and support no matter how the matter was resolved,
because anyone teaching hopefull is there because they love the children and
care about their learning experience. The bottom line is our children and
their education. So parents continue to work towards improvement, even if
there are a few barriers, but also value and be grateful for your teacher,
even if they are still learning.
"I am currently involved in a similar situation in regards
to the 'Make Your Day' program with my children's elementary school. I
appreciate the article you frankly state which I know as I go forward I
will probably not be looked at as favorably by the school administration
and staff. Is there any other parents who feel that the (MYD) program
is not optimal for the student's self esteem?
"I have had the occaisions (plural) to try to deal with
problems regarding my child's education. Each time, the circumstance was
related to the teacher's method of dealing with a problem. On one of
these occaisions, I exercised my right as a parent to involve the
principal. I met with the principal, and the teacher and the issues were
resolved. I later became aware that the same/similar issues were
resolved for other students in the same class. So, I learned that it was
not just my child who was experiencing problems.
At any rate, after that time, I found that I was not received in the
same manner when I visited the school. The office staff were not as
cordial, nor was the teacher, or principal. I felt this all occurred
because I chose to stand ground for my child.
My child has since gone from that school to the middle school. My child
is looked upon well by teachers again, and I am well received by the
staff and principal at this school. Because I have always been an
involved parent, this is important to me. But......even though it is
difficult for staff and faculty/principals to have to look at, and
sometimes change, what they are doing....they should still be willing to
look within. Aren't we, as parents, always trying to teach our children
to do this?
The message I have to share in this is:
Sometimes the schools are avid that they want parent involvement and
feedback....but when that feedback and involvement is not positive in
nature, they don't like it. Yet, in reality, there is always room for