"During the course of school session, teachers get reshuffled and some
teachers start teaching higher grades and other the lower grades. Many of
my friends think that teachers are downgraded because of their bad
performance. I have always been confused on this subject. There are no
teachers in my family. So, can any educator or person from school system
help me understand this reshuffle? thanks "
"If the school districts did not participate in the "dance of the lemons"
and actually did what was best for the students and replaced the bad
teachers, Parents would not have to worry and about requesting the quality
teachers. Students FIRST!!
"As an educator, picking your child's teacher is a, for lack of a better
word, "crao shoot". Parents tend to buy into the gossip about who is good
and who is not, generally based on personal feelings, not whether the
teacher can teach or not. There will be so many people in the world that
your child will have to deal with, why give them the illusion that they
will always get to pick the people they will be involved with? I
certainly don't. If you raise your child to be respectful and flexible,
your child will learn in any situation. We teach for your child's FUTURE,
not your PAST.
"There are reason's some parents choose their child;s teacher. I have a
child with ASD and a few other letters but she has no Learning
Disabilities. In fact this year there is a teacher that is not allowed to
even speak to her after she tried to assert the power of adult/teacher on
her. This is all with the backing of her therapist and Dr. I should add
that other than a unstructured teacher (who is a good teacher but not for
her) and this teacher we haven't been overly concerned with her placement.
"It's well known that teachers with kids hand-pick the teachers for their
own children. Teachers and administrators know better than anyone which
teachers are good, which are okay and which are dead weight. The question
is: Why is it okay for the bad teachers to keep working and harming
children? Some are not fit to work with kids, some may have been good
once but are burnt out and delaying retirement, and some just aren't
effective. In most other fields, there are methods to weed these workers
out, but the teachers unions protect the bad with the good.
"I will not ask for a certain teacher but there are teachers I will refuse!
"This "research" shouldn't surprise anyone. It's just common sense.
You have to do what's best for your child. Never mind what other parents
are doing. Never mind what the administration or anyone else thinks. You
are the only advocate your child has and you need to step up to the plate.
You can interview teachers or speak to others to find out who the best
teachers are. Everyone knows who the poor ones are, don't kid yourself.
Your child deserves the best and you have to provide that for her. She
will thank you in the end. I know; I've been there.
"As an educator, I want to emphasize that not all the reasons parents
choose certain educators are legitimate and may sometimes be harmful to
their children. I've seen popular educators chosen over really good
teachers, just because they tended not to be "warm and fuzzy" to the
parents. Sometimes those that appear to be "nice" are the people who
don't necessarily want to have the difficult conversations. I think there
are legitimate reasons for not putting some kids in some classrooms. Make
sure it's because it's not the optimal learning environment instead of the
place where your child will get priority over others. Life just doesn't
work that way and school is the best place to learn that
"Absolutely I am involved with next years teacher placement - I have to be
- this past year was downright difficult - and I am sure the
administrators feel the same way about me.
The teacher my son had was not a "good fit" - so much so that earlier this
year he did not want to go to school, period. Apparently the teacher he
had loves bullies.
After a heated conversation with the principal the bullying was mediated,
but this didn't mean that the teacher was motivated to teach ...
My child tested in the top 3% nationally for math aptitude - so he was
allowed to "test up" a grade for math - but he failed the exam because he
wasn't prepared to take the test - his teacher never gave him any
additional work and, I, the parent, did not know what he was expected to
We chose this school district because of their accelerated math program,
and for their proposed ability to adjust the curriculum to the child's
needs and abilities.
So, yes, I am more involved because I have to be. I've watched doors close
(temporarily) because of one poor placement choice, and my child's
education is, ultimately, my responsibility.
Having my child test miss the school district's top tier math program
after having tested into the top 3% in aptitude is nothing short of a
travesty - so, yes, I will make sure that this does not happen again next
"If I had my choice, my son would not have been with the teacher he is with
this year. I had heard the rumors about her...strict, mean, overly
structured, etc. I didn't feel like I could argue for him to be in
another class with nothing but rumors to go on. Here's the irony, though.
My son has had a wonderful year, and his teacher has been open and helpful
all along the way. When parents are considering fighting to have their
kid with a certain teacher they need to make sure they really know the
quality of the teacher. So much of it is a popularity contest rather than
actually knowing which teacher is the most highly effective teacher. I
teach in a district different than my own kids. Since I know the
teachers, you can be sure that if my kids went to my school district, I
would take part in assuring that a few of the teachers would not teach my
child. I don't think we have any horrible teachers per se, but there are
some teachers that I feel do not genuinely like kid!
s or are not fit for the subject they are teaching. I am not willing to
give up a year of my child's education just to avoid confrontation. So
far, at my son's school, we have had an awesome experience all around. If
he ever truly gets a horrible teacher, I'll make sure that my younger
children never get him/her. In that manner, I would have solid evidence
of why that teacher is not good for my children.
"Can the teacher pick the students they want to teach?
"If we get rid of tenure and fire poor teachers and hire enthusiastic new
teachers this problem would disappear "
"I not only do not think this is appropriate but it is, in fact, unfair to
the other children at the school particularly in a public school. This
practice breeds inequality, disparity and social entitlement to the
"chosen" children. How can any parent think their child is entitled to
special treatment over others? If there's a bad teacher...complain to the
principal, talk to parents, volunteer more at school when you can. I
think there is a legal standard that is being pushed to the limit with
continued practice of this. Not to mention...letting all the other
teachers know that they are inferior to one teacher...when this is not
always the case...and more importantly, letting children know they are not
as important...Bad messages to spread to our growing children.
"In a perfect world this would be wonderful but every time I have requested
a teacher or requested my kids be moved to a different teacher's
classroom,the principal denies my request. My poor kids have ended up with
teachers that are not good for them at all."
"As a parent and a teacher, I do not believe in jockeying for a specific
teacher. It sends a bad message to the child and the teacher who is
requested. It sends the message to the child that it is ok to go around
the rules that everyone else has to follow. If you have your child in a
school, trust that the principal and teachers are putting your child in a
classroom that is best for them. Then if things are not working out, you
should absolutely say something. As a teacher, I feel that some parents,
too often, are set on making the teacher bend to their will and their
wishes. Parents should be teaching their child to work with different
personalities. Also, when parents request a specific teacher, it puts
pressure on the teacher. The parents may be putting too many expectations
on the teacher to do what the previous teacher obviously wasn't able to
do. It also may make the child seem like they're getting preferential
"If your student gets a teacher that does not meet your childs needs then
you should ask for a change at the quarter. My son has been diagnosed as a
savant. He is highlt gifted in some areas and others he struggles.Because
he dous well on testhe is usually put in all gifted classes and we have
had to change a couple times ,so he was able to keep up in the main class
he has always struggled with.
"quess i fall into the pain in ass group, there are teachers at our school
who i do not want my child to have. after a really bad year , i learned
you want the best say so, the teacher makes the difference. some truly
should not be in the classroom or maybe a different grade, i say to
parents get into the school see for yourself. if you hear a teacher
yelling as you walk down a hall or after 6 or7 visits the teacher is
always just sitting a desk you'll get the idea, you'll look in rooms see
happy kids glad to learn that's the teacher you want for your child."
"I'm a mother of a 10 yrs old, i just need some suggestions. my daughters
current school don't have a good state grade (really low). all the time
shes been lucky in getting one of the several good teachers in school but
last year she was not so lucky it was a really bad teacher not dedicated,
but i left her in that school because her next teacher for 4th grade it
reccomended by several parents and they were wright, her grades started in
below basic and now thanks to this teacher my daughter is back in track
shes in profitient, but now im changing her to a different school with a
good state grade shes not that happy she thas not want to leave the school
thats shes been for all these years she wants to graduate in her school
with all her friends but i dont want to take any chances, theres no good
5th grade teacher and she was finally accepted in this great school, do
you think im doing a good decision or not?"
"I chose my son's teachers every year, except for Pre-K! It's crucial to be
involved enough to know which teachers are the best fit for your child. My
son's school accomodates us, as all schools should."
"This is not, necessarily, a new issue. My oldest child was assigned a
very strict first grade teacher. The stress of being in her class was
overwhelming for my child and she ended up therapy for the remainder of
first grade. With respect to my kids in elementary school, I always write
a letter describing the type of teacher my child needs. In my opinion, by
the time kids are in middle school they need to be exposed to different
types of teachers and start learning how to work with, and learn from,
different types of people."
"This really concerns me. I worry everyday about whether or not my 9 and 7
year old kids in Public school in Florida and my 17 year old daughter in
high school is getting the education they deserve. Why not just get
EXCELLENT teachers for every child. Why some schools get the best of
everything and some schools get the left overs. My 17 year old is failing
in Geometry always Ds and Fs on test she does extra credit (write a
therory 100 times) gets an A and her final grade makes her look like she
knows math. We need better teachers for all our kids."
"I rather have a teacher that understands my daughter and teaches her how
to be caring than anything else,our Kindergarten experience with her
teacher was awful,she kept on saying that she had ADHD issues and when the
pediatrician evaluated her ,said that she is a very smart child who learns
in a different way,that what she needs is a patient teacher that is
willing to work with her learning style instead to drug her up,her
learning is not impaired so the doctor wouldn't do that; so yes in our
case I would say I have the right to ask for the kind of teacher she
needs,it does show at the end of the year how much they have improved
"Parents need to be vigilent of who is teaching & how. This all the more
relevant nowadays due to pressures from other classes, which may lead to
your kid's class getting not-so-good teacher. And, this can trigger a
downtrend in his/her grades or progress.
Not every parent request can be honoured but basics have to be accepted by
schools in order to keep up the standards.
"We as taxpayers are paying reguardless! If I were mediocre at my job I
would be let go so why are mediocre teachers not held accountable? I
request a teacher each and every year, I want the best education and fit
for my child. I am paying through my tax dollars as well as all the extras
that my husband & I donate and all the personal time we volunteer above
working our full time jobs."
"I feel we as tax payers we should have a right to choose a teacher of our
"Of course parents should be able to 'request' a teacher. This should not
however mean that the request will be honored. The educators have to group
kids according to balancing out the classes with boys/girls/ -- high,
middle and low performers -- and special education needs -- then teachers
make changes based upon children who do not work well together who need to
be seperated -- then, last but not least, parent request. The educational
needs of children should come before a parent's request to have their
child in the same class with their child's best friends, the MOST common
request we hear.
I, being a teacher requested for my son a certain teacher because the
teacher was male. It turned out to be the worst year of his education. The
teacher did n't like my son and complained all year about his behavior,
threw up red flag after red flag about his reading skills, yet had NO
SOLUTIONS for his learning 'problems'. I suggested testing, tutoring, 5th
grade reading buddies, and the teacher said no to it all. I should have
yanked him out of the class, but being a teacher I gave the benefit of the
doubt to the teacher. At the spring conference, he had the counselor at
the conference with him. I saw the handwriting on the wall. I had been
working with my son on his reading, and had a 1st grade teacher at my
school read with him periodically. She reassured me his reading was
alright and coming along. She did not understand the concern. Of course,
they wanted to test him, in March!! after a whole year went by. I signed
the paper and told the guy how much I knew he had just NOT TAUGHT my son
to read and did not like him and had humiliated him frequently for one
thing and another. It was not a pleasant conference. I also told him that
I new he would NOT qualify as learning disabled. Well, I was correct. He
was not performing up to his ability level. DUH!!! I wrote a retort to
the testing and pinned the problem back on the teacher.
So, requesting teachers is not always the way to go, folks, take it from
me. I'm a teacher myself.
"Amen! We have to be our children's advocates or, face it, they won't have
"From my experience, demanding parents get the best teachers. The first two
years of school I was very specific about the teachers I wanted for my
children and they were placed with the best teachers at the school. The
third year, I started to feel like maybe it wasn't fair to try to demand
the best teachers. Well, my children's teachers were not effective and I
ended up transferring them to a private school. My son's teacher was very
good at teaching reading, but didn't even bother with science - my son's
It was completely the case that the most involved parents or those who
might create trouble at the county level got the best teachers for their
children. And, if you can work the system in that way, it is like getting
a private school education. I have twins, so trying to get the 2 best
teachers every year was impossible. In my experience, there is a huge
difference in teacher quality and if you can't demand the best either by
working the system or going to a quality private school your child will
not get the best quality education. Some children will rise to the top
regardless of teacher quality - others will be ignored and not develop
their full potential. I didn't want to gamble that both my children would
be able to achieve without the benefit of high quality, dedicated
"My daughter's third grade teacher was one of the most amazing teachers I
ever know. My son's fifth grade teacher was not just a bad teacher but a
horrible person, she was a real bully, she made my son and our lives
miserable, my son got psychological and physically sick. He lost his
selfsteem and he is not the happy kid he used to be. I hope those kind of
teachers go straight to hell."
"I think this was a good article, but not timely. In our school a letter
may be written, but it has to be in by early May."
"The kids with the most involved parents from our school are not the
brightest students. It seems that these parents are hoping for
preferential treatment because their kids cannot handle the academic load.
"Good read on parental involvement & influence of teacher assignment."
"Oh Yes, especially in K-5th grade, the younger the child, the more
important a good teacher is, my daughter almost had her entire spirit
crushed by a harsh, child hating teacher, and it took much fighting as a
parent to get her into a different class, a teacher should love children
and love her job in younger grades, or she can scar a childs developing
personality, confidence, and affect his or her future . I wish parents
had more input, public schools are not inclusive enough in what is best
for children. How a teacher interacts with students is perceived by them
and internalized, and yes, they do need to learn to adapt, but a poor
teacher can cause a child to fail for a lifetime, a good one, cements
their love of learning. We need more power to help choose appropriate
teachers. FAIR , Professional, teachers who enjoy their job, and do not
teach for the 'power' it gives them over little children's developing
psyches. Yes, this is important. Wish there were more input, reviews
from parents and students about how they teach. Administration should not
just take the teacher's word for things, they should let there be
anonymous ratings done each year on each teacher, by parents."
"Of course if you have a preference you should make it known. Your child
only has one shot at any given grade, and it should be the best one they
can have. Most schools discourage requests, ask for a list of your
child's strengths etc. Find out about the teachers and get to know their
style by volunteering and talking to other parents. Then request the one
you consider the best for your child."
"Having had a new 6th grade teacher that only lasted half of the year and a
worse new teacher come in, lobbying is what a parent must do. I consider
it a lost year. Schools are trying to put smart kids in with the lower
achievers in the hope that it will improve the lower achievers. All
schools are doing is dumbing down and discouraging smart kids. Smart kids
have to listen to lessons being repeated for the umpteenth time, listen to
scolding by teacher who cannot control the lower achievers and share in
the punishment. This is no way to treat smart kids. No child should be
left behind, but not at the expense of the kids with the greatest
potential. Lobby away parents. You are fighting for the sanity and the
education of your child."
"At my children's school it was possible to make teacher requests, and I
did so based on the teacher's personality. Some teachers were rather
stern, aggressive, outspoken individuals who would turn off a shy,
sensitive child. On the other hand, teachers with a more nuturing
personality had a better rapport with my children who were sensitive.
Children have only one year to be a certain age or in a certain grade, and
I believe getting the right teacher is and was of primary importance. One
year with the wrong teacher can cause endless problems for a child."
"It is an abomination that the business of education is more concerned with
the dollars it earns at postgraduate work than k-12 students being
constantly exposed to inferior, unprofessional, ill suited teachers. The sad
conclusion I have arrived at is there are three great teachers at any given
school, 10 mediocre and the rest are just plain bad. My experiences with my
child, led me to opt for the home schooling. Middle school I handled, high
school here in Florida we are fortunate to have FLVS. They have all high
performing teachers and I havenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t met a dud yet. I continued as a School
Advisory Council member (district school) and when the kids stated in the
survey of school safety, that they did not believe the teacherÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s had their
safety as a high priority, the wonderful adults on the committee stabbed
their own kids in the back and apologized to the teachers and administration
that the kids were just being mean. Kids are just that, kids are immature
people, without a br!
eadth of life experiences. Yet our schools are crushers that expect
students to be adults. If you are not one, all you can do is ACT LIKE ONE,
but when it comes to situations they will still perform like the children
that they are. If you canÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t home school, pay for private then you should
find out who those three great teachers are and do what ever it takes to
have your kid sitting in front of one of them."
"Always - and especially if your children attend a low performing district.
Be prepared to pull your kids if you don't get what you want, after all
they have a right to refuse you. Going to the board of ed is weak as well,
be prepared to take no as an answer. The schools have to realize that
every teacher should be performing at the highest level,"
"As a teacher, I know that I get who I get for students. I take each child
where they are at when they first come to me and move them along as far as
I can. It doesn't matter the subject, or the skills needed to be learned,
or the personality of the child, or anything else. I love my students and
strive to make each and every day an enjoyable and thought provoking
experience for my students. One of the biggest hurdles my students face
is not having materials to work with as well as many who have parents that
really don't think education is much more than a necessary evil. Selecting
teachers or students is so very tricky for all involved. There are pros
and cons in each situation. Still, I believe that no matter who the
teacher or child is with, they must work together to develop the child's
mind, heart, body, and soul."
"I don't think the question should be whether or not a parent can request a
child, but why not create more consistency within grade levels. If my
child can learn more than a year's worth in one classroom, and less than
an year's worth in another, where else would I want them but in the
former? I didn't guide my first child's teacher selections until 2nd
grade and it had detrimental effects which two above board teachers were
able to correct. I've guided my second and she's a confident,
self-reliant learner who wants more than the curriculum offers because the
chosen teachers have given it to her. Who would want that child sitting
getting extra reading (which is her strength, she doesn't need more) time
when a teacher who is in tune with her strengths and weaknesses can use
that time wisely to increase skills in her less proficient areas?
If the same teacher is being requested by the majority of parents, I think
the administration needs to look into why that is."
"Perhaps parents would make better use of their time and effort to work to
assure that all teachers are great teachers. Those who don't make the
grade should be removed."
"My daughter will be going into 1st Grade. I asked her teacher for her
opinion as to who would be the best fit for my daughter. Her teacher
recommended a teacher and says that this teacher will challenge her a bit.
Still don't know if that's who we will get. The best teacher for my
daughter may not be the best teacher for someone else. I am involved with
my children and will continue to be."
"My child has a teacher this year for the 4th grade that is strict. Most of
her class doesn't like her. I have spoke with her on how she has treated
my son, but to no avail. Then I went to the principal and the principal
did not resolve the issue, and she has yet to respond to any of our needs."
"Yes, I think parents should have a say in selecting the right teacher for
their child, whether for high performance or the 'right fit' motivationall
for their child to excell."
"I always have my daughterÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s best interest at heart and in doing so I
believe it is my responsibility to not only over see her present
interactions but also prepare her for future interactions. I disagree with
parents being able to pick their childÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s teacher. The meaning of
advocating is supporting not controlling. When my daughter had an
ineffective teacher I discussed my issues with the teacher and when that did
not work I addressed my concerns with the principal, other parents did the
same and the teacher was asked to resign. My daughter was able to observe me
handling conflict in a positive and mature manner. Giving children tools for
handling difficult situations is essential for raising well adjusted adults.
If someone does not like a co-worker, supervisor or college instructor they
donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t get to have their parent come and switch that person out for them or
pick a new one on their own. Effectively confronting and addressing conflict
is a skill possessed by far too!
few adults; these skills need to be taught at a young age from effective
caregiver models. Not only would I not teach my daughter that running from a
problem is a better solution than standing up for what is right but I would
not model that type of behavior either."
"Parent should absolutely be able to contribute their thoughts on what
teacher will best suit their child's personality & learning style. I have
requested teachers for my children for the past 6 years and have been very
fortunate to always get my choice. I have requested different teachers
for each of my children for the same grade. My children have very
different learning styles and personalities and I always make sure that my
kids have 'the best teacher for them' not the 'most popular' teacher."
" As a parent,yes,I should have a say.....as long as I have done my
homework! Get to know the teachers and talk to other well informed
parents. It is not rocket science to figure out a right fit for your
child.....It is worth it in the end."
"I think if a parent request their child be put in a different room, you
should consider it. I am 64 and I still remember my first grade teacher.
It was like a nightmare to me!"
"Of course most schools discourage parents from doing more than fundraising
and they certainly don't want interference about choosing teachers. Use
your common sense. You know your child better than anyone. Do your
homework as to teaching styles, curriculum, etc. Step up and choose which
teacher would be best for your child and don't be satisfied with less. Too
many poor teachers are in the system and children suffer the consequences.
Your tax dollars pay for the schools and you deserve the right to choose."
"As a mother and an educator for more than a decade, I agree that the
teacher makes an enormous impact on student learning. Instead of rating
instructors based on test scores and threatening to punish those whose
students don't produce the test results that the administration wants to
see, why not allow more time during faculty meetings for teachers to
collaborate and share ideas. Some schools allow an hour or so of
collaboration per week via special hourly schedules on, say, a Tuesday or
Wednesday, but I have not found these times to be sufficient. Faculty
meetings often take an hour or more at least once a month. Additionally
Department meetings take an hour or so once a week. Typically these
meetings are filled with top-down information that could appear in an
email. Administrators and department leaders could send a questionaire
with the email to see that people have read and understood the information
presented. Then, we would have more time to meet in interdiscipl!
inary groups as well as department groups to share best practices and
learn from each other. If we hope to remain professionally and
educationally competitive with other countries in the 21st Century we must
alter the way we handle teacher education and faculty-administration
relationship. Thanks for listening! Abi G."
"I completely disagree that parents should request a teacher. My daughter
did not want a particular teacher, because she 'was mean,' etc... I said,
'honey, sometimes in life we have to work with people we don't like.'
Although it was an emotionally miserable year for her, she learned a great
deal of content as well as coping skills. More often than not, parents
don't know enough about a truly good teacher to adequately make the call.
I've seen it be more of a personality contest; likeable teachers don't
always equate to good teachers. Now, if there is a conflict of interest,
whether personal, or from a previous child, then that needs to be
considered. Everyone just needs to stop micro-managing their children. Let
them fall, be accountable, and accept consequences; they need to learn to
get back up and stand on their own two feet."
"I think this is a fantastic way for the parents to express support for the
teachers that go the extra mile with their classes. As a parent of two
gifted children I know the importance of having a teacher that is going to
challenge my child.
Likewise I would hope that principals and grade level chairs would listen
to the parents. The teachers that these parents are trying to avoid should
be assessed. They may just need a boost of further education or classes on
new methods to meet student's needs.
Many parents just seem to react to reputation but other parents that are
involved in the classroom regularly may really have an educated opinion.
I also know that 'getting the right teacher' is also a way for parents to
feel that they are doing all they can to help give their child the best
chance for a great year!
"As a parent, I agree with a previous poster. I am my children's best
advocate. I think it is fine to request a teacher, it's my responsibility
to ensure the best possible environment for my child. If that makes me an
annoying parent by someone else's standards, I think to myself 'well, she
deserves the best education possible, I am looking out for her and she
deserves the chance to be in a safe and healthy environment where the kids
are cared about'.
I have asked if a teacher could be chosen before school starts. Last year
when my 4th grader was transferred to the middle school. (4th thru 6th
were there) we were not granted our request in the end. We started out
with our requested teacher, dropped off our supplies with her on Open
House and then on the 1st day of school (two days later) were moved to
another teachers room after an irate parent demanded the other teacher..
My daughter was devastated and we were upset and embarrased as the first
teacher approached us and asked if she had done something wrong to offend
us. Later, we found out the Principle lied to me saying our gifted teacher
had requested the switch at the last minute and the gifted teacher was
told I had requested the change.. That was the beginning of a horrible
year for our daughter for her 4th grade. The Principle, Counselor and her
teacher were very unapproachable, not at all pleasant to deal with, did
not answer phone calls or emails and did not hon!
or requests just for simple meetings. The teacher was definitely below
par of what I'd expect in a teacher.. She had no control over her class,
had the highest amount of kids in her class who didn't care about school,
had no respect for others personal property, for others or for adults.
When a child caused trouble, she punished the entire class. Too lazy to do
her job and talk to the children. My daughter ran out of work everyday and
was told to read or just sit there. Her gifted teacher she is with only
once a week, kept asking this teacher if our daughter needed extra work or
challenges and she was told 'No, she's ok, I have it covered'. On the one
meeting we had she told me 'Your daughter gets all A's why did we need to
meet, and I am a great teacher'. I tried to tell her that our daughter
making all A's didn't mean we didn't have to meet and we needed to figure
out ways to keep her busy and challenged. Her response was 'well I'll work
on that'. I could not get in touch!
with her again for another meeting. Yet, our daughter was bor!
ed and didn't learn much that year. The teacher even told our daughter
that she wasn't allowed to answer my emails on school property or she
would get in trouble. She said she didn't have a computer at home. Yet,
she was shopping on line at school in class and we found her on face book
at night on week ends. So that was clearly a lie. I would put notes in her
box and ask for a meeting and she denied ever getting any. This went on
and on.. It was a losing battle from day one. The Principle was either in
her office behind a closed door or not there. The Counselor ran the school
like a bull dog and was very nasty to parents, hard to talk to, etc.. Many
of the teachers and this Counselor had an attitude towards the gifted
families and a few teachers said all kids are gifted so why should they be
treated different? Our kids were definitely kids who love school,
everything about it and wanted to learn. We volunteer the most with the
school and donate the most time and supplies to!
the school and are probably the most active in the school.
Well, now I am happy to say our middle school closed and my daughter is
starting out 5th grade back in the Elementary school and it's so much more
of a cleaner, pleasant environment for our girls to go to and for me to
volunteer in. The Principle is always smiling, in the hallway actually
greeting people and doing varied jobs and she is approachable. So for this
new 2010 - 2011 school year I requested a teacher for our 5th grader and
did not for our 1st grader. The Principle said they were taking requests
for teachers up to the week of Open House and School. She handed me a
piece of paper and I wrote my request in a note and handed it right back
We did get the teacher we requested for our 5th grader and our 1st grader
has a very good 1st grader we did not pick.
My requests for specific teachers are based on our gifted teachers
suggestions, because to be fair I do not know the teachers personally. I
just know about 8 teachers in lower grades from my daughters previous
years there. She chooses teachers based on her getting to know them
during the summer and the classes they take together. She bases her
choices on pro active teachers who have gifted kids and that will work
with her, the parents and the system. The choice is also for teachers who
go beyond the every day needs of all of the kids and keep an eye out for
not just those who are struggling but for the gifted. The teacher is also
the one who has more control of her class room and doesn't spend the whole
day screamning at the kids and if she doesn't know who started a fight,
deals with both kids and listens to both sides.
So, I agree parents who care about their childs education should have a
say in which teacher their child has."
"I think we know our children best and I always do teacher requests based
on personality traits and learning styles. I am always prepared to not
have my request honored because there are no guarantees at our school, but
so far it has worked out extremely well. "
"I believe you should be able to request a teacher for your child. Every
student has certain needs that the parents are aware of and choosing the
right teacher will benefit that child. "
"I truly believe it is in the parents and the childs best interest to pick
the teachers that best fit the parents expectations and to make the child
feel right at home and safe in and with the teachers around them. It
really would make for a education for all involved."
"I have requested my son's teachers for the last three years. I volunteer
at the school a lot and pay special attention to how the teachers interact
with and control their classes. my son has a slight disability which
causes him to become easily stressed so I make sure that he gets teachers
which manage their class without having to yell and threaten. He's gone
from reading below grade level in first grade to loving reading and
reading well above grade level now in fourth grade. He is now in advanced
math and was offered the chance to go into a gifted/talented class. I
already know who would work for him for fifth grade. I do talk with his
current teacher before the end of the year as well as a guidance counselor
to see if they think my choices are what they believe are best for him
too. So far so good."
"'Yes' Is my simplest and most concise answer.
Teachers make or break a child. "
"If the Union didn't have the power to keep the bad teachers in school, we
probably wouldn't even have such a discussion. In my son's public school
there was a kindergarden teacher, who lost her kids (my son including),
released to the wrong parents, locked kids in the classroom on the 1st day
of school (because she didn't notice them), gave homework but wouldn't
take it back for checking... How bad should it get? Yet she got to teach
till retirement. I think teacher's unions should be stripped ofthis kind
of power. If there are numerous complaints about a certain teacher, it
should be well checked by the school district. We have plenty of talented
teachers, young and old, who were laid off due to budget cuts. We will
still have teachers whose style isn't the best for each child, but the
ones who don't care about their jobs would be out."
"The school doesn't tell you what teachers are good, and they never will.
So you are dependent on other parent's opinions, which are unreliable.
Information is power and it is all in the hands of the principal and
"Maybe if more parents start requesting particular teachers, it will weed
out the bad ones. What do you do when you know one is particularly bad,
but you still end up with that teacher even though you requested another?"
"My son's school does not allow direct parent input for classroom
selection. Fro the past three years he has done wonderfully with teachers
I wouldn't have thought to be a good 'fit'. I trust the knowledge and
commitment of the professionals to find the best place for my son! They
are better qualified because they know both the teachers, the children and
the dynamic of the mix."
"I think that it is vital that the parents be involved in the selection of
the teacher. I think that we should have an input because the lower
performing or plain old 'detached' teachers WILL effect your childs
education. I had a VERY new teacher with unrealistic expectations and was
simply in the wrong grade level and my child changed his mind about even
liking school. It was a horrible experience for our family. He suffered
academically because of it as well. First time he's ever been at or below
grade level. So YES, it is vital, and a sign of good leadership to allow
the parents to be involved."
"I agree that parents should have a say. In my child's school, I am an
involved parent but it
those favored by administration which get their
"I need advice in how to approach my doughter's school principal. Classes
started just Wed. last week and her teacher had allready made her cry two
times by yelling and screaming to the children. She states that his
screaming is so execive that even though is not towards her person it
feels just the same.
I like to change her ticher and I know the principal is not going to like
Please advice me. Anyone with experince in the school system in Moreno
"In reading the above article, It was educational. Just in my opinion, I
believe that parents should encourage; guide; and coach their children to
adapt and adjust to situations that may not be favorable to them. This is
what they will be doing as they get older. I am not saying that a child
should do this alone. No, talk to your child and find out the underlying
source of the problem. It may be that your child is struggling and don't
know how to ask for help. As a parent, he or she should be able to seek
help for the child and as the parent is seeking help, have the child
involved. In another words, if a parent chooses to have tutor or
counseling, the child should be present and the child should be able to
feel comfortable. It is up to the parent to take the time and invest it
wisely to show their children by examples as well as preaching life's
>From experiences: My son was seriously struggling in third/fourth grade
in reading. I took my son to the doctor to make sure he was not
emotionally or psychologically prevented to learn. I also took him to a
company that tutor's children. Well, that didn't work; it would have been
too costly for us. Then I took my son to his school counselor and asked if
he could assess my son's behavior to see if we needed further assistance.
Thank God it wasn't that. However, the problem still wasn't solved. So
the counselor, my son and I sat there and came up with the idea of a tutor
from school. The next day, I received an email from his 4th grade teacher
and he began tutoring my son. Not only did my son get the extra help
academically, he learned a valuable lesson for life. When in need for
improvements or adjustments, seek help if needed and continue to work with
every effort possible to improve. It was a hard lesson for him to learn;
for he would work and work and work befo!
re getting a tutor; but having the child appreciate the help makes things
so much meaningful. This changing teachers and blaming other sources does
nothing for the child.
As a parent, we don't want to see our children suffer or be hurt! So
true; however, we have to guide them for success; not just academically,
but for life.
A few years has passed by and my son still continues to work very hard and
he hasn't mastered the reading as top reader of his peers. Instead, it
has been recorded that he reads slowly but accurately. That tells alot!
He is taking more time to focus on what he's reading and making sure it's
accurate. What a perfect outlook for worklife? It wasn't until recently,
when I asked my son, how did you figure out your lego project to the way
he wanted the mechnisms of legos to work? He replied 'After making a
million mistakes; I learned from my mistakes!' That response told me alot
more than the mere fact he accomplished his short term goal. That
response told me that he has learned a valuable lesson of life. If one
does not first succeed; keep going until you succeed with the known fact
that improvements are to be made and you are willing to accept these
factors and change for the best. I am not saying I expect my son to make
straight A's and B's. I want him to learn that!
life is a challenge, be ready to accept and cope with these challenges.
Grades are nice; but if you don't learn to improve and continue for
excellence with a working effort; than I pray for the parents and the
"As both a parent and a teacher I can see both sides; however, I have
taught in districts where parents have a week to 'observe' their child's
next year teachers and select which teacher the parent wants. This
interfered with instruction as parents tried to interview me while I
taught. I even had some parents ask me if I planned on getting pregnant
the next year. I found that to be very intrusive and offensive. Parents
need input but should not be allowed to hand select their children's
"If teacher input is considered in the principal's decision, the
communication you as a parent have with the current teacher can also lead
to a better match for the upcoming year. I became a little of a pain when
I realized my son's teacher last year was not a good match for his
learning style. I requested conferences with his teacher and made my point
several times throughout the year that he needed more structure. And then,
I hoped that at least teachers and principal would take the job of
assigning classes seriously enough. So far, even though I don't really
know the new teacher personally or through other families, I feel like we
did get a better match, just by what my son says when he gets home, and
the quality of the work he has brought home this far.
"This is an interesting article, but lacks any definition of what
constitutes a good teacher. 'Everyone says' is not adequate as a method
for determining teacher effectiveness. Careful research using public
records to determine which teachers have the greatest effect on test
scores is one way, but that assumes that test scores are the measure of
teacher effectiveness that is most important. Is that really what we want
"I don't see a dilemma here at all. As a parent, I am my children's best
advocate. It's not only okay to request a teacher, it's my responsibility
to ensure the best possible environment for my child. If that makes me an
annoying parent by someone else's standards, too bad. In fact, just today
the class lists were posted at our school. I'm so relieved that our
youngest is in the class with the teacher we requested. I've never asked
'if' a school takes requests, I've simply written a letter to the
principal or counselor shortly before the end of the school year
requesting next year's teachers. My requests are based on my observations
while at the school, teaching style, personality of teacher and child,
input from other teachers and administrators as well as referrals from
parents whose opinions I value.
Being a military family, I have say we've had our experiences with
great schools, not so great schools, awesome and inspiring teachers and
those who leave me wondering just how they graduated college. All in all,
I've learned it's best to get to know the school and teachers, be involved
as much as you can and not leave anything to chance."
"When my son started public school in 2nd grade the school worked with me
to place him in a class where the transition would be made as easily as
possible. The year went great. The next year I requested a teacher
because I had her in the same school and the request was ignored. That
year was a DISASTER. The teacher disliked him and made no bones about it.
The following year I demanded that he not be put in a certain teacher's
class again, from personal experiance as a student and that was honored.
He had a great year followed by an easy transition to middle school.
After experiancing it both ways I will deffinately be a vocal involved
parent to make sure we are assigned or avoid teachers that will not work
with my younger more challenging child. You only get one shot at 3rd
"I agree with this article. Children spend too much time in school to have
to put up with bad teachers. There is no forum to complain about a teacher
without getting labeled a trouble maker. I had a parent come to me
desperate to keep her daughter out of the classroom that her son had since
the teacher was so bad. (My son--years later--admitted to sleeping in this
teahcers class.)It should be easier for parents and students to voice
their opinions. Sure some may want easy teachers, but I think most want a
good teacher. To have no system in place for evaluating teachers because
it may be flawed just damages the education system. Bad teachers exist.
Parents, students, and school staff know they exist. We evaluate our
students even though the method is flawed why not evaluate our teachers?"