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Avoiding Homework Wars

Does your child  have trouble finishing homework within a reasonable amount of time? Do you and he do battle over his assignments? Learn how to stay sane and help your child succeed.

By Diana Browning Wright, M.S.

Does your child always have a problem finishing homework correctly within a reasonable amount of time? Do you have to survive a battle or devote a lot of your time and help each night? Do you question why your child has to do homework at all? If your child has learning or attention problems, it's likely you and your child have faced such challenges. Understanding the purpose of homework - and learning strategies for managing assignments effectively - can be of great help to you and your child.

What Is the Purpose of Homework?

Homework gives your child a chance to practice what she's learned in school. It's not supposed to teach new concepts or skills. Practice is important because it helps your child master important skills. All too often, however, the kids who need the most practice are those who find homework to be harder, take longer, and raise negative feelings.

Start by making sure your child understands what the assignment is and the directions for completing it. Next, find out if she has learned enough at school to do the assignment on her own. If your child has problems in either of these areas, schedule a conference with her teacher to develop a home-school communication system. One example would be an assignment sheet that the teacher reviews with the child and sends home for the parent to read and sign off on.

Where Is It Done?

For some kids, a small desk where supplies can be stored is the best place to do homework. In other homes, the kitchen table may be the best place. Wherever your child works, you should be able to check to see if she's sticking to the task, especially if she has problems with concentration, and be able to offer encouragement.

When Is It Done?

For some kids, right after school is the perfect time to do the work because the assignment is fresh in their minds. Others need a break before they can tackle more school work.

Sometimes team sports, a parent's work schedule, or other activities interfere with doing homework immediately after school. With your child's input, you may need to develop two plans: one for the usual day and one for unusual events. When you agree on the plans, write them down.

If your child usually resists homework, make sure it doesn't immediately follow an interesting, rewarding activity (e.g., skateboarding with friends, playing a computer game). That can make the task look even more distasteful. Instead, transition her from fun activities to activities less enjoyable but also less difficult than homework. For example, ask her to bring in the mail, then ask her to set the table, and follow that with a request to help you tear lettuce for the salad. This is called "behavioral momentum," getting your child to do tasks that are not hard and are rarely resisted before you ask her to do something challenging. The idea is to create a distance from the fun activity to the more difficult one by inserting small, neutral tasks. Resistance is less likely if the momentum of compliance is built first.

Comments from readers

"It's difficult to avoid The Homework Wars when they're raging all around us. Many parents are questioning the value, purpose and amount of homework even while other parents see homework as an important part of their child's growth and education. In reality, few studies suggest any real value to homework and two books have been written summarizing what research has to say about homework. Their titles explain what they found 'The End of Homework' and 'The Myth of Homework.' The research done on homework suggests also that more and more of it is being assigned. Schools try to mirror real life and 'multi-tasking' is a popular buzz word in modern society. While homework may once have been for practice and not need to be perfect, modern homework includes frequent projects that will be graded for their quality. And modern education tends to hotly defend homework as 'character building' and believes it 'teaches responsibility'. With heavy phrases such as those, teachers must believe that homework's not just for practice anymore and -there's a lot of being given. There's no sure cure or easy solution. Some children have strong skills and solid attention spans and they persevere and do the homework no matter how long it takes. Other children struggle. Any child after being in school all day may find doing homework hard. Children and play go together. A child who isn't given good time in his/her day to be a child and to play is likely not going to have the extra energy it takes to sit down and do more work in the evening after having worked all day in school. They used to say 'All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy but old saying such as that have been tossed aside for multi-tasking."