How Angela Duckworth teaches her kids grit

The famed researcher and author of Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance explains her "hard things rule," which she's using as a parent to instill stick-to-itiveness in her kids.
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Video transcript

“In our family, we have something that we call the hard thing rule and it goes like this. Everybody in our family, including Mom and Dad, have to do a hard thing. Something that requires practice so that you can get better gradually over time. The second thing is that you have to finish what you begin. If you start the track season, you have to finish the track season. If I pay the tuition bill for your viola classes, you’re going to finish that semester. The third part of the hard thing rule preserves my child’s autonomy and that is nobody gets to pick your hard thing but you. Yes, you have to practice. Yes, you have to finish what you began but you’re in charge of picking what that hard thing is.”

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