Chore wars | Through a child’s eyes

Why is it so hard to get your child do chores? Hear one girl's tips for parents on getting kids to help around the house.
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Child: “One time, I was like in the middle of a good book, and my parents just asked me to like sweep the dining room.”

Parent: “Zenobia! Zenobia!”

Child: “What?”

Parent: “Can you sweep and mop this area?”

Child: “I just said no, I don’t want to do it! And so then my parents would get mad and I would get annoyed, and then there’d be a big fight and like, my parents would be yelling at me and I’d be like, crying… Like, the last three years, it’s just been — my parents would just ask us to do something and we were expected to do it. And a lot of the time I would just say I didn’t want to do it. It was a little bit after a fight, and I just said “I just want a chore to myself”. And then they said “Okay, that sounds good.” Now I just have one chore, and it’s just every day after dinner I do the dishes. I like having a routine. My sister, she has a lot of small jobs, she just forgets about them, because there’s so many. I think having one big job is much better because you can’t really forget it. It makes you feel like you have a big responsibility. Once I’d done it for about a month, I felt proud of doing it. I think my parents are happy that I’ve been doing this, and proud of me, because I feel like it’s a big job, and that I am doing kind of a lot! So, yeah.”

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