Bruce Feiler on “You’re not the boss of me!”

"The Secrets of Happy Families" author Bruce Feiler offers this magic bullet to avoid confrontation over this childish quip — a solution that makes everybody happy.

Here’s how 4 other parenting experts say to respond…


Sh*tty Moms
That sass will not be tolerated, say “Sh*tty Moms” co-authors Alicia Ybarbo and Mary Ann Zoellner. Here’s their take-no-prisoners advice for such disrespect. Format: Video (1:28)

Richard Weissbourd
The Parents We Mean to Be author and Harvard psychologist Richard Weissbourd advises parents to use this comment as a moment to step back and reconsider what’s gone amiss.
Format: Video (0:59)

Gabor Mate
A statement like this, says the best-selling co-author of Hold On to Your Kids , suggests there’s a disconnect between parent and child that needs mending. Format: Article

Adele Faber
Adele Faber, co-author of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, offers an approach for mutual problem solving, even with young kids. Format: Article

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