Making the most of your parent-teacher conference
Learn what issues to focus on and how to plan for a productive parent-teacher conference.
By Kristin Stanberry
The first parent-teacher conference of the school year provides a great opportunity for you and your child's teacher to share insights and information about him. At this meeting, you can develop a relationship with the teacher and present yourself as a team player in your child's education. (If your child has a learning disability and recieves special education services, it's essential that you make the most of the conference with the general education teacher.) Because most teachers schedule 30 minutes or less for each conference, planning ahead can help you maximize the experience.
The Planning Process
You may have met with your child's teacher when the school year began. By the time the conference rolls around, several weeks will have passed; this means you, your child, and his teacher should all have a better sense of your child's struggles and strengths. How can you organize your comments and concerns? Here are factors to consider:
Ideally, you'll start preparing during the first few weeks of the school year. What should you pay attention to?
- Ask the teacher to give you information about the planned curriculum, how she assigns and evaluates work, and what her teaching philosophy is.
- Check your child's school work. What is the teacher assigning? Review your child's completed and corrected work. Try to do this even if he does homework with a tutor or caregiver.
- Look for patterns in your child's school work. What subjects (such as math or reading) seem difficult? Are certain tasks (such as writing or computing math problems) more difficult than others? Jot down examples of:
- ongoing (carryover) problems from your child's previous school years.
- any new struggles you see emerging.
- improvement in areas that used to be difficult.
- Listen to what your child says about his school work, as well as his relationships with his teacher and classmates. Ask him what he thinks are the most important points to cover at the conference. Doing this will help you see things from his perspective. (If your child has a learning disability and has trouble expressing himself clearly, be patient and help him explain both his positive experiences and his struggles.)
- Note any classroom accommodations and techniques previous teachers have used to help your child succeed.
Organize and Prioritize
From the list of concerns and observations you create:
- Select the most important points to discuss with the teacher.
- Prioritize your concerns so you'll be sure to cover the most critical topics before "your time is up" at the conference.
- Summarize your top concerns on paper to take with you to the conference. Try using our "Parent-Teacher Conference Planning" form.
Find Out Who Gives Feedback
At least a week before the conference, ask the teacher if feedback from other educators will be included. For example, if your child:
- seems to have problems socializing with adults or students at school, is there a school staff member (counselor or mental health worker) who can give feedback?
- takes classes in art, music, or sports, will those teachers and coaches comment on his skill, talent, and progress in those areas?
- is in special education, how will his special education teacher give his report?
Asking for feedback from several people will help you and the school view your child as a "whole" person with strengths as well as needs.
As the conference date draws near, remember the meeting is an opportunity for you and the teacher to collaborate. Remember that you're the expert about your child, while the teacher is the expert on teaching kids at his grade level. You'll both come to the table with ideas and opinions. Remember, too, that collaboration sometimes requires compromise; striking a balance of ideas is often in the best interest of your child.